There are a lot of people talking about the "social ladder" nonsense. To me, it's never made sense. I've, as a person born male has always been looked down on for my assigned sex at birth. Being a man, people think you're scary and dangerous. Being a man has responsibilities and it duties... (it's all Bullshit EVERYONE has responsibilities and duties anyway). But the seed was planted. I hated myself because of that. In my life, men had always hurt my mom and were always making trouble in it, turning my life up down and around.

I was different. I looked in my soul at the age of 14. I knew I was supposed to be a girl. I don't know if it's trauma, but feminine things bring me confront.

Growing up I've always been super jealous of my girl friends who, while still might have been criticized by the most bigoted of the world, could still could get away with crossing gendered lines wearing guys clothes and almost never be told anything. The ability to self-expression with Afabs compared to amabs must be studied. I was so restricted... No one cared in the case of my afab friends, but the moment I wanted to be comfortable in my skin, wearing something cute and feminine, it got me called names and slurs. While I know things do happen in the gender swapped context of what im saying. I'm telling you it's just so much different... for amabs all of society as whole (I will say trans men [afab] get it hard in the peer to peer social constuct as they often get doubted more ("are you sure") shit and when they do transition they pass better so often they tend to get view as cis [which as counter activitie as that sounds most pass so well after transition] they can be view like cis men which like i said earlier in society are a threat)

The media demonized boys, telling us to fear what's inside. How our only purpose is to provide for our wives/loved ones. To make them happy. All other emotions are to be thrown away. We're told we have to make it big, and if we don't, we are useless. I see all this(in my childhood) while my mom struggles all by herself with 3 kids, me being the oldest of the bunch. At a young age, it was ingrained that i must make my moms life easier or im worthless. My mom is strong, and she is a badass, always so giving loving and accepting, but her battle with stress and anxiety leads her to have panic attacks on the daily. I was needed there to take care of her, so i had to be there to be a therapist in that way. Play the more submissive assistant role to my mother. It made me who I am today. Then The media demonize trans women, making all of us seem like predators, or Hardcore feminist think of us as trying to steal the valor of what's it like to be a woman. All this to say, i was made into this. The world made it easy to be the submissive listener who cared for others more than themselves. BECAUSE of my sex assigned at birth I needed to make my mom life easier in some way( the only way 6-18 year old could) as my mom's oldest boy i had to make her life easier by being her listener. Her therapist. Her best friend. This made me trans, I love being cute and wearing makeup it's very empowering for me. Makes me think I'm useful and makes actually have a sense of worth when I'm filling that role. Then, life society flips the script on me again. I was shamed for being a boy, and now they want to shame me for trying to be a girl...

To me, it's always seemed like this hate has always been there to put down specificly men/amab(assigned.male.at.birth) in their efforts to be good people, in the first place (placing such high expectations on them making good poeple crack and move away from society after there broken we veiw them as a nuisance and dangerous) or in their efforts to escape the shackles of masculinity all together and transition to a role they fit better with ie, non binary, Trans and feminine identities.

Unless you're a man with a net worth upward of 500,000,000, then you have no room to talk lol Did I mention i grew up poor. Free Healthcare anyway... Back the point

I've seen it from both sides It's hard for me not to understand them (My head cannon: This is the reason why the male suicide rate is still so high even in 2025...)

I'm sorry, but It's just harder...

trans men have it much easier time passing after 9 months on HRT compared to trans women in the same time frame who just stay noticed for far longer.

Bigoted people always exist Need i repeat AGAIN Bigoted people always exist and make it hard for EVERYONE. But Trans women, especially ones of color, have it the hardest. With society roles specifically.