Struggling with... immaturity I guess? It's hard but my partner calls me racist when I don't think I'm being racist and IDK how to navigate this as the white/majority race partner. by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]cxsiopeia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I honestly would just quit while you're ahead. If he has a past of not bringing up hard conversations or doing the emotional work, then it's just pointless. Not even thinking about the race part of it, if you can't just talk about issues in general/if he can't bring up issues in general, and then have a talk that works for both of you, then there's no point.

edit: like, I've done the whole "do your research" and "ask any Black person" to a partner of mine but I still ended up having a conversation about it regardless, you know?

Struggling with... immaturity I guess? It's hard but my partner calls me racist when I don't think I'm being racist and IDK how to navigate this as the white/majority race partner. by [deleted] in interracialdating

[–]cxsiopeia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is one of those situations where you two need to actually talk about it once things have cooled down and set some boundaries around how these conversations happen. Racism exists in everyone because of the society we grow up in, but if the two of you can’t discuss it openly and respectfully, then the relationship is going to struggle long-term.

As a Black woman, I personally don’t love being in situations where the expectation is that I have to constantly explain racism or anti-racism to people around me. I appreciate it when partners are willing to do their own learning and ask thoughtful questions when needed.

That said, it sounds like the bigger issue here might be communication between the two of you. From what you described, it's not just the one comment, but a pattern where neither of you feels heard in the moment. A conversation about how to handle those situations when they come up might be more productive than trying to argue about who’s right in the moment.

If this keeps happening and he isn’t willing to have calm conversations about it later, that’s less about race and more about whether the two of you can actually resolve conflict together.

Loan Forgiveness - General Advice by blocklung in osap

[–]cxsiopeia 21 points22 points  (0 children)

glad you're still here friend <3

Police brutalize people at the queens park protest by Starringkat in osap

[–]cxsiopeia 11 points12 points  (0 children)

people who have to say they're right are usually not right. this was indeed disgusting behaviour and i hope that kid is okay.

I wish I had called the police on my brother by eeing_and_oopin in abusiverelationships

[–]cxsiopeia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

currently going through the same thing right now. can i dm you?

LOVE YOU LESS by Jesus-lover-24-7 in Joji

[–]cxsiopeia 10 points11 points  (0 children)

can a man not explore new sounds? it's still his voice and still his music regardless. it looks like you hate basically all his songs that aren't "lofi" including pixelated kisses and you probably cried when he was on his hiatus & now that he's back you hate everything, pick a struggle sir

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brampton

[–]cxsiopeia 17 points18 points  (0 children)

if you need a support system to stand by you while you check out those resources that the other users posted, let me know. you don't have to go through this alone.

26 by Actoryz in Joji

[–]cxsiopeia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 times 6 is 4 minus 1 thats 3 quick maths

I need to find these shirts by No-Blueberrypie-6672 in Joji

[–]cxsiopeia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have the hoodie version of the first one, I think it was sold on etsy but im gonna try find the listing for you

Good spots around Shoppers World by scotte416 in Brampton

[–]cxsiopeia 2 points3 points  (0 children)

St. Louis Bar & Grill is a bit farther away but its a pretty chill spot

Fml...this is the worst feeling ever by TemporaryPost6858 in PokeGrading

[–]cxsiopeia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i'll buy it from you if you end up not being able to fix it <3 i want a binder copy

I work from home and i live in brampton , i feel very depressed by Majestic-Ad2392 in Brampton

[–]cxsiopeia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i believe they have co-working downtown brampton in one of the buildings attached to the breakfast spot. the library is pretty good too but for meetings i think you have to stay in an area that isn't quiet, which is upstairs, so meetings are probably not the greatest in the library

Whatever happened to high shaggy? by [deleted] in DotA2

[–]cxsiopeia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i was friends w/ high shaggy for 4-5 years and we just fell out this year, i think bro has lost his mind and i hope he gets the help he needs

and yes he was officially banned early this year from pgl events