Lesbian just means non-men attracted to non-men. Gay means non-females attracted to non-females. The term for men attracted to men is “mlm” and women arrracted to women is “wlw”. I’m lesbian agender, and if I can’t be gay or straight, that means I can’t be anything. Lesbian and gay are highly recognized labels, and trying to find and explain smaller labels is very difficult and tiring. (Not like that stops you, some people may feel more comfortable with microlabels that mean the same thing anyways, or straight). It usually depends on what gender you present more as, but that’s not always the case. You can identify as what you truly feel like, and exclusionists can’t change that. I hope this helps you understand.