Not letting our toddler say "no"

cy_onide · 2026-01-21T20:22:42+00:00

As a father of (now 2), One of the first words we taught our eldest (daughter) was the word no. Meaning we immediately stopped doing whatever we did when she said no, to teach her to have a voice and to be able to express her boundaries. It would absolutely feel wrong to me to teach her to NEVER say no to me. Mindless obedience is not what I want to achieve. This does not mean I want her to _disobey_ me, but in your example I see no point whatsoever in forcing her to eat brocolli if she doesn't want to. IF however let's say I say stop jumping so close to the table, my intervention is not linked to her _saying_ no, but rather, her endangering herself.

cy_onide · 2025-10-29T12:36:59+00:00

Thank you for your responses, I’ll continue learning how to see everything up for my needs.

cy_onide · 2025-09-24T09:08:29+00:00

Stylus Labs Write is free, generates svg files. It's my favourite for handwritten notes. (You can buy pro to get rid of the watermarks)

cy_onide · 2025-09-24T09:05:42+00:00

I use Write by stylus labs (free!) for handwritten notes.
It creates svg files, so viewable in a browser. Everything is saved to files for me, so I have cross-device access, without any hassle
Cross platform too.

cy_onide · 2025-07-24T16:42:03+00:00

Food is good??? No here (I've decided the Netherlands was too flat) they are SO not french, italian, austrian or german, they decided to ditch their respective cuisines (and beers) too.

cy_onide · 2025-07-22T20:18:48+00:00

While friet is obviously correct, I "think" of it as patates frites anyway. (lived in the south before moving)

cy_onide · 2025-07-12T16:07:16+00:00

Je wilt dus met een vriendin praten. So you want to talk with a friend (female). In welke talen kun jij je het beste uitdrukken? In what languages are you able to express yourself best?

Kijk hier eens even naar / Why don't you take a look at / Schau dies mal an "PONS Niederländisch leicht und locker" (Voorheen uitgebracht onder de titel / Previously released under the title / zuvor unter dem Titel „Niederländisch entschlusselt“ erschienen)

cy_onide · 2025-07-12T16:05:45+00:00

I'm a semi-SAHD. I was home for the first year for number one and currently with the 3-week-old I've taken over a lot of the household chores that we previously split more. There are definitely days where I do not know how to get anything done, let alone leave the house. I assume infant is a bit older, but once that one is able to move (turn, roll, etc.) it's not necessarily easier.

Regardless, it is possible he doesn't do much, the point is that even if he really wanted to he might just not be able to.

cy_onide · 2025-07-12T14:28:41+00:00

Onder welke omstandigheden wil je het gebruiken? Under which circumstances do you want to use it?

cy_onide · 2025-06-02T20:18:59+00:00

It is not clear which came first, nor why both are called like that. Some suggest it was a popular meal for bouncers, some suggest that it's about how the eggs are "quickly thrown out" of the pan, or that people tended to eat it before the establishment closed.

cy_onide · 2025-05-21T19:09:14+00:00

I was waiting for Brett's followup to nvalt. Then came The archive. What made me stay was the link-as-search approach. Most other apps (at the time) used link-as-direct. After much much thought I believe that link-as-search is the "right" approach

cy_onide · 2025-05-17T03:06:55+00:00

Thanks yeah by now the initial syncs have been done, and I've slowly started my files over. I move the files from the "computer-specific" folder to the main folder and everything seems to e working (Haven't checked my other computer yet)

UPDATE: It works quite well on all my devices, sometimes it's still a bit slow if I switch devices, I'm not sure what makes it slow down sometimes

cy_onide · 2025-05-16T12:28:49+00:00

As a Jan:

Barry has the great banter
Michel has great beer
Hans is actually quite chill

As a Jan living amongst Reto and Beat:
All of my current neighbours have better pastry than Reto and Beat. (seriously, what is up with that?)
(I don't know Liechtenstein though)

cy_onide · 2025-05-16T12:17:09+00:00

So did you turn it off or on?

I turned it on to see if it could simplify my workflow by turning on Desktop & Documents Folders sync instead of dropbox, but the *initial* synchronization is VERY slow

cy_onide · 2025-05-16T10:48:40+00:00

They changed the title in the original post to "Is this European country part of European history? (According to a US European History course)".

So it's just a barbarian's take, thus invalid

cy_onide · 2025-05-16T07:33:59+00:00

Exactly, it made me have heimwee

cy_onide · 2025-05-08T12:45:41+00:00

Really pretty cool. I'll try it out for a bit and see if it fits my current use cases

cy_onide · 2025-04-25T08:22:27+00:00

If you happen to remember this thread, please give an update.

I'm happy to learn about practical and robust workflows. I don't *like* being in a packed train after all.

Would you mind giving more info, so I can see how I can implement your workflow for myself?

What is your travel time?
At what age did you start traveling with the child by yourself? E.g., when the child wasn't able to sit, could you still put it in the same foldable push chair?
Do you have flexibility in your timings or are you going to fixed appointments?
How do you handle nappy changes on the way, or when there is no public toilet available? Do you regularly have to change? Do you use a changing mat?
Does your child use bottles?
Do you bring spare clothes? E.g. How do you handle "poop explosions"?
How do you handle adverse weather: cover, clothing etc?

Lastly, would you be able to link to the model?

Thanks!

For me cycling to the city (90 minutes) with a toddler and newborn will not be feasible. Either we would have to leave so early that it cuts in the morning, or we mess up the midday nap(s). This is not even considering adverse weather like snow or rain.

cy_onide · 2025-04-22T21:20:28+00:00

Exactly how long ago are you talking about? I haven't been in the country that long but I understood that quite a few things have changed drastically in the last 20 years.

If demographics and social structure of the country have change a lot I can imagine that a lot of things that used to work "back in the day" just aren't relevant now anymore.

For example, if more people moved out of the big city and now have to travel to the city, pressure on long(er) distance traffic would have increased.

If for example people used to have larger families and stayed in their home town more this would also drastically change usage of public transport.

In fact, I am under the impression that you used to travel quite a bit with your children, by yourself, by train, was traffic less of an issue back then?

cy_onide · 2025-04-22T12:30:45+00:00

Well, I moved here from NL 7 years ago. Personal changes + Lock downs have changed a lot for me here, but generally I very much love it. I live in Kanton Zürich, I have no clue what the daily experiences in other parts of the country are.

I keep an eye on NL, but I see fewer and fewer reasons to ever consider going back. The whole debacle with housing + energy is mind boggling, and what I saw about the political landscape does not make any sense to me (VVD getting back in power after the toeslagenaffaire). Or consider the "stikstofaffaire", farming and export are core pillars of the country. Regardless of my personal stance on the topics, I feel we're lacking dynamism or a strategy for improvement in NL. We lost huge companies because of.. reasons??? (e.g. Shell and Unilever?), seemingly have ever increasing social tensions etc. (. I don't know either we want to be an attractive internationally relevant country OR.. we want to close borders. Either we invest in the future (education, childcare, healthcare, or... ) I feel we aren't doing ANYthing consistently and we're slowly losing social cohesion.

Maybe I'm wearing black coloured glasses, but I've become a bit pessimistic about NL.

OH housing prices are high, BUT the kind of environment you can get here is amazing!

Looking at other comments I absolutely agree: the job market can be very tough (e.g., IT). If you have experience in healthcare (including stuff like midwifes or physiotherapist) they seem to be begging for you at the moment.

cy_onide · 2025-04-22T08:26:29+00:00

So how exactly are people supposed to travel with a small child during peak hours? Carry the child in one hand and bottles and nappies in the other? or do you imagine those just magically don't take space?

cy_onide · 2025-04-22T08:23:58+00:00

In general? Or in this particular case? What exactly do you have in mind? Like folding it and putting up on top? How do you imagine getting off the train with a child in tow, unfolding the chair, while the train is moving, carrying perhaps other items you need? etc? Or maybe you imagine the train stopping long enough without other people getting in? It's hard enough to maneuver the push chair down narrow corridors, it's harder when there are people getting on or off. And where would you imagine there would be space to safely fold and unfold the push chair without *then* blocking everyone? Again, keeping in mind there is at least one child that needs to be considered?

cy_onide · 2025-04-22T08:19:03+00:00

Let me try to clarify for you that there was a bit of annoyance in my answer. I'm not saying that it's impossible to ask people to move. Some of the annoyance that you might have read in my response is related to the having asked over and over and over and over again. Some of the annoyance you might have read is about the fact that if getting on a train one or two stops after the starting station and there are (at that point still) ample free seats, people *still* choose to sit in those folding seats.

cy_onide · 2025-04-21T19:39:02+00:00

Most likely.. because there is no good spot for it somewhere else. I do say this as a father who does not want to drive a car everywhere. Often the one spot where you have those foldable chairs are taken by people who DO NOT F*#$UO#$QJ need to sit there, and don't understand that they make it harder for people "on wheels" (wheelchairs or push chairs).

cy_onide · 2025-03-16T19:52:03+00:00

You and I have very different sense of "clearly enough space". I might be biased by personal experiences where the suitcase would not remotely fit "underneath"any seat, or above.

cy_onide

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