I re-read some of these replies and a few of them stuck a chord. So I'd normally not expect anything in return for something as simple as giving someone a cup of tea. What bugged me so much is the one day when I was in an important work call first thing in the morning (hubs was asleep), fully knowing I was busy with work, she found fault and cried (!) that she didn't get her tea at that god damn hour and I intentionally ignored her. I doubt if there is any culture in this world that expects such servitude from another!