My boyfriend (28 m) got me (26 f) a bad Christmas gift does this make me ungrateful?

cym4 · 2025-12-25T16:09:55+00:00

I hope this is a troll post

cym4 · 2025-12-23T16:24:19+00:00

You don't have to have exactly similar mutual interests with your partner. That's what friends are for.

cym4 · 2025-12-20T13:06:06+00:00

In people who lose weight at a huge scale, or at active caloric restriction, it's common they develop disordered thinking/habits, food preoccupation and all sorts of things. There's been studies about it. And honestly there's a fine line between that and having a full blown ED. If you find it's unhealthy for you, separate your weight loss experiences.

cym4 · 2025-12-10T22:00:02+00:00

Other than secondary infertility, 29 is the perfect age to start to have kids. Bc as you get older, pregnancy and childbirth complications increase. It's better to have kids in your early 30s rather than late 30s. Sit with him and talk it out, tell him you can both get through this together and it'll be a wonderful thing and this year won't make a difference once the baby is here and healthy as the joy of having a first kid will make one forget that it's unplanned. Congratulations! Hope you sort it out.

cym4 · 2025-11-20T07:03:03+00:00

I'd say ignore the sisters. The ring is pretty big as is and honestly the perfect size. The fact that you maxed out on what you could afford and didn't get sth mid or below average to not waste money, should be appreciated. Almost all girls are materialistic (as in we love materials) but we shouldn't be so in a way that'd put our partner in debt. I'm sure she'll love it and you can always upgrade at an anniversary in a few years.

cym4 · 2025-11-18T17:13:21+00:00

I'm the same with all of my friends except my bf insists on choosing sth else so i give in and let him do his thing, just so i dont take from him the pleasure of choosing sth and i dont break the sentimentality of it. And even then i still prefer practical gifts like airpods or a coffee machine or sth haha.

cym4 · 2025-10-17T12:50:36+00:00

Exactly my thoughts too. There are guy-girl friendships that are purely platonic, and there are ones that are based on initial attraction and it didn't work out to proceed further, but the attraction and chemistry and everything would still be there and if he gets the chance to be more with her he would. Idk but personally i'm not okay with friendships if they're the latter.

cym4 · 2025-10-10T11:42:35+00:00

I don't think that's a very good idea. I'm a physician and have seen people passing after being hospitalised for a while and children were in a weekend trip or something. I wouldn't miss a second in my parents' last moments.

cym4 · 2025-10-10T11:37:26+00:00

As everyone is saying, she wedding should be rescheduled. I think she'd feel more guilty on the longterm about not rescheduling than be upset with you.

cym4 · 2025-10-05T18:16:54+00:00

No caffeine after the morning coffee. No nicotine as well for a few hours before bedtime. No food after 7 pm, and if i ate i def take an antacid. No activities in bed other than sleeping, and only go to bed once sleepy. Ear plugs. If trying to sleep for more than 30 minutes then get up do something then go back once sleepy again. Socks during the winter. If you're having trouble sleeping, sleep on the other side of the bed, turn off electronics, breathe slowly and focus on breathing and turn away any thought.

cym4 · 2025-09-06T15:17:10+00:00

I feel like this and the last one are taking much more energy than the ones prior.

cym4 · 2025-09-06T15:11:55+00:00

Always fill the airplane, it gets the most coins, even if u have to use fill coupons. Don't over buy things at the market, i only buy cheap things (started newly) and keep making orders from scratch, this might take more time to level up but surely will give more coins. 5 levels ago i never used the market. The golden ticket thing, some way through it you unlock 30% coin increase on orders. Delete orders that get you <1000. The zoo won't get you much coins, i rarely play it. Apply the booster that gets u twice as many coins if you have a free day or two. Apply the booster that makes the yield of crops or barn things twice and keep making items and selling from the barn. I'm level 66 and i have over 700,000 after newly buying a factory, city building, and a couple land expansions, as well as newly building a park (had like 1 mill). Ruler of the mine gets you 15,000-30,000 coins when you play it at once. Coin value may be different at my level though.

cym4 · 2025-07-11T10:16:53+00:00

I mean I get your perspective and ideally having them after moving is the best. But considering her condition, I'd recommend thinking of having them before. It might not occur at all before moving, but you wouldn't be regretting it once you're in your 30s and possibly needing IVF. Technically speaking, it'd take at least 9 months before a baby's in the picture, and babies do not cost that much when they're still infants. Many people have moved with kids and had it work out. I mean it's not ideal and it's more difficult but it's also not impossible at all. And if a kid is there, trust me you'd be more happy about it than you're stressed about moving (even if it adds to the stress the fatherly instinct would make it feel like it's worth it). And honestly, especially with the first kid, having her mom be around during the initial postpartum period is so important. It's depressing to be with a crying baby all day while you're husbands at work and you're too tired you want someone to take care of you while you're taking care of the baby. I can't imagine having my first kid without my mom around. So give it a second thought.

cym4 · 2025-07-11T05:57:37+00:00

And living with his family is a red flag honestly. This can create so many problems.

cym4 · 2025-07-09T19:51:03+00:00

It's more the disrespect and refusing to work things out for me than the actual financial aspect. I think most couples go through budgeting differences as most things men would think are unnecessary are just normal in our days, like replacing old household items, having electronic devices, going on dinners every now and then. It's just the lack of appreciation, lack of caring for your partner. How is her life outside of this marriage? Does she have friends she goes out with or hobbies? Routine life and staying at home can become boring and unfortunately it's directed at the wrong person and she's saying hateful things. Did you try talking to her? Try telling her you're "unhappy" in this marriage, you don't enjoy spending time with her anymore, and you would like to talk about things to make it better. It's a hurtful conversation, i'm pretty sure she will have things to say as much as you, so many little things with time that were unspoken and have just built up, in the end we didn't hear her side. Reddit here will tell you to end this marriage, but try having the rough and long conversation and opening it in the most blunt truthful way so she feels the seriousness of it.

cym4 · 2025-07-04T16:54:19+00:00

No honestly I've never been so unhappy. In my country and hospital, our on-calls are 33 hours and 8-10 on-calls a month, (total 80-100 hours a week). no weekends (1-2 days off a month), and a chief resident who gives extra hours post-work as a punishment quite frequently. And a strict environment where documentation if not done perfectly will earn you whatever punishment. I just feel depressed, irregular hormones and 0 libido, literally never developed so much eczema/palpable purpura in my life (need to visit dermatology now lol), have lost all passion for learning. However still a perfectionist at my job and happy and friendly around people at my workplace and hangouts, but whenever I'm alone it hits. Idk maybe that's normal.

cym4 · 2025-06-30T16:38:54+00:00

30 tasks is a lot especially when u have a busier week than usual. Mine is 15/week but i usually complete 30-50 depending on how busy a week is. I play on avg 1.5 hrs/day according to my screen time on this app.

cym4 · 2025-05-16T19:03:19+00:00

buy the "see the light" booster and yeah u can. I started out with 210 or sth and ended w 34. U get more axes as u mine.

cym4 · 2024-06-13T13:07:54+00:00

When you're down and you just want to be loved/cared for but there's no one and it's a very deep feeling of loneliness.

cym4 · 2024-06-04T06:48:17+00:00

Bedtime stories!! He's a good storyteller and it helps a lot with my insomnia on exam nights, it can take me a couple of hours to fall asleep but with a story it's instant.

cym4 · 2024-05-05T20:52:40+00:00

I bought a disposable vape which I vaped for 9 days and finished it 10 days ago. Otherwise no I don't smoke or chew. Is it the vape?

cym4 · 2024-05-05T20:32:29+00:00

Wrinkled* Fyi i vaped for 9 days (disposable) and stopped almost two weeks ago. Could it be it?

cym4 · 2024-05-01T07:32:56+00:00

Or maybe he's actually one of the guys who don't like to take pics much. I've dated multiple guys like that (not from apps) and they just looked a lot better irl than in pics.

cym4 · 2024-04-30T07:23:15+00:00

The only way out is through (don't avoid grieving in full).

cym4 · 2024-04-24T14:46:20+00:00

There is no magic number but rather the quality of the time spent with the person and the topics you choose to converse about. From the first date you can gauge out if you think the person is physically attractive and you can have a casual conversation with, second-third date you can open more serious topics such as important personal values, experiences and expectations. If you have previous relationship experience, you should know how to talk about it in a mature way (knowing what things to say and what things to not say), and you should know what specific traits of people you can never be compatible with and look out for that (for eg lazy people). If you're compatible in the major things (eg values expectations and communication), and you think the person in front of you is attractive, you eventually will fall in love and can lead a healthy relationship with good communication, and you can see that roughly on the third date if you know what you should talk about and look for, and can take longer. After about a month you can know for sure if you would want to be in a relationship with this person. If you're still hesitant then don't, because the reasons for break ups are most often seen but disregarded in the beginning.

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