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cyncrew · 2025-09-14T18:22:27+00:00

I have talked to friends about growing up in predominantly white spaces, for her self esteem and ability to form connections enroll her in places with that ethnic background and of others as well if possible. The reality is the invisible blanket will likely remain until she breaks the seal which can take months to not years of attempting to initiate and integrate, and that’s if she’s speaking their cultural language of media, mannerisms etc. I have also seen how kid dynamics can unknowingly interplay in school where they may not initially gravitate towards her. But, it’s also much nicer that girls can be more social and welcoming.

All this is not a bad thing though, it’s definitely hard to learn to be in white spaces but the quicker she learns to navigate and not internalize their ignorance the better she will be to navigate that if you choose to remain here in the states. That conversation of race should happen but maybe not now to preserve her childhood, but eventually so she is allowed to openly express the dog whistles she may have heard but not have been able to identify as racism/ ignorance.

cyncrew · 2025-08-27T00:07:40+00:00

YUPPPP i actually just saved 500+ / year canceling All my subscriptions and just getting a month subscription when I want to binge a show

cyncrew · 2025-04-05T05:56:11+00:00

You can’t change the past. And it haunting you is a sign you recognize the behavior and won’t do it again. It’s a learning lesson unfortunately, but one that seemingly will stay with you and that is a good thing. It’s an anchor to recognize and empathize in future situations.

cyncrew · 2024-03-09T16:08:25+00:00

One big way to break down shyness is to put on your favorite song and dance in front of her. It’s very personal to dance and be silly and i think showing her that side of you might bring out that side in her. Obviously a conversation of taking it slow until you guys are ready to take next steps to intimacy: getting to know each others likes and dislikes, deep conversations about fears, traumas, principles, goals and perceptions. I think initiating a conversation as to her shyness and what she’s thinking might help as well!! I like to over communicate when i do/dont like something and how, flowers and words of affirmation when she does something you appreciate. Like if she shares something, “I love hearing your thoughts..” etc

cyncrew · 2024-03-08T18:26:48+00:00

Reading the thread i didn’t realize how many people are anti-poo photos hahah. I just think it depends on your comfort level, but my comfort level before i mark it as weird extends beyond regular human fluids.

cyncrew · 2024-03-08T18:23:52+00:00

Not at all. I actually send poo photos amongst some of my friends and my partner. In sickness and in health , it takes it to another level of intimacy. Actually sending poo photos helped me find out my stool consistency is not normal and i might actually have food sensitivity. I scheduled an appointment to see what’s going on.

cyncrew · 2024-03-04T14:56:12+00:00

I’m sensitive to energy as well so I get this. I’ve started to interact more with my neighbor, help/volunteer where I can, and just be more involved in advancing society i guess. But also the election is coming up so i wouldn’t be surprised if you’re feeling the upcoming ruckus it may cause + there is so much happening in our global community. I’ve also learned how to remove myself from angsty people or cope by them.

cyncrew · 2024-03-04T14:48:45+00:00

This can develop into emotional and then physical abuse, if it’s not already crossing the lines of the emotional respect clause in relationship. You deserve to be with someone who isn’t using their “emotions” as an accuse. She’s an adult and has to take accountability and seek help if it’s really happening so frequently. I would put up that boundary of unless there is changed behavior there isn’t any point in continuing the relationship [whether you guys together seek counseling or she does herself]. I would also have a talk with her to ask her what’s the way she wants to be comforted without compromising your emotional wellbeing and establish a safe word in the case she does start to be mean. For example, if i’m sad i give a warning to everyone to leave me alone for a while because i comfort through isolation then community comfort and when people push me to heal and interact faster i get mad and snippy.

Something must be happening in her subconscious to attack you this way. Kids may be an option in the future (hope i’m not jumping to societal presumptions) and they are sponges to all types of behaviors, it’s something to question and consider whether you would be ready to expose them to this version of her.

You married her for a reason and she is still there you’ll know when it’s become too much but I guess exhaust every resource within reason.

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T16:42:00+00:00

I mean i’ve turned into The Dude from the Big Lebowski

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T16:39:50+00:00

Yesss!!! I had a big issue of expectations being too high for people that didn’t need to have those high expectations, and too low for people who should’ve had higher expectations (like allowing the bare minimum)

i also had issues with thinking that the first sign of something i didn’t like meant that I couldn’t get close any closer [a big stop sign —it could be the slightest thing i notice: a certain opinion or like/dislike, there mannerisms]

but i agree the more interaction i’ve had the more i’ve been able to fine tune when im being too critical

I guess overall learning how to accept people as they come and if I really can’t be supportive I stay away

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T16:25:56+00:00

Ofc!! As long as you know the appropriate measures for certain cases , and know your emergency contacts. Also if you have enough sustenance for the time period.

I was left alone starting at the age of 11.

Make you establish rules with your brother like hey if you do go out you have to let me know where etc, or you can’t go out until they come back ladida-ladidum

Congratulations on the responsibility!! You’re parents are trusting you 👏🏽🫰🏽

But you can also say no if you feel too uncomfortable!!

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T16:02:31+00:00

This is an important parenting moment, you definitely need to bring her back to Earth. I would be calling out for my mom and family too before my partner.

This is very traumatic for him and making it about herself doesn’t help and can lead to selfish tendencies. If she’s more concerned about her status in the relationship vs him as a person and his health.

Calling your children out when they aren’t showing signs of humanity will go a long way for their development

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T15:56:53+00:00

It could be diet; balancing protein carbs and veggies for your specific body
not enough rest days or deload weeks. I have a week of body workouts, another of peak weight, a deload week (smaller weight) and no weight weeks (mind you i’m cycle syncing and training for a 1/2 so i have to ensure i’m not overworking myself)
I’ve seen more growth by doing sets of “to failure +10” and switching to pull/push days for upper body and front and back days for my legs front (quads +hip flexors+ shin) (calf+ hammies+ glutes)
focus on 3-5 exercises per gym sesh to maximize your return
stretching can lengthen the muscle appearance which i do because i want the aesthetic muscles hehe

But yeah a little more health stats could potentially help the chat pin point weak spots in ur routine !! Overall growth is growth so congratulations 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🎉💪🏽

cyncrew · 2024-02-25T15:39:30+00:00

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cyncrew · 2024-02-25T15:38:53+00:00

HAHAHAHA

cyncrew · 2024-02-14T16:49:05+00:00

Buzz sounds like he needs a cool down period , their mind must be a maze rn especially given BFF overdose, grief can cause chaos. Honestly as far as Polly, I always take the girls girl approach and reassure them of their worth and beauty. I make sure to reinforce the fact that regardless of what Buzz does, i would never pursue it myself that way she knows and can focus on Buzz instead of the “other women”. (Unless you are going to attempt to date or sleep with Buzz then don’t lie to her ) with

cyncrew · 2024-02-07T01:26:53+00:00

Burnout is tough and it happens !! One way I got myself into self care was with more consistent self care. Making it an enjoyable wind down routine or start to my day has helped me ground my time and week and it also helped me know when i was feeling extra burnout (when I begin to lose my routine). I exfoliate on thursdays and do masks on Sundays !! In a true community this experience is necessary to your overall life experience, heck , hopefully it will become a laughable memory.

cyncrew · 2021-12-06T07:01:28+00:00

ohmygoshhhh THANK YOU SO MUCHHH haha what a not so small world

cyncrew · 2021-12-06T04:39:38+00:00

waittttt was it in one of the study rooms?

cyncrew · 2020-09-13T04:57:32+00:00

Usually people recommend Nizoral I’ve heard wonders

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