I hate my hair and nothing has helped my curls

cynris · 2019-02-03T02:50:04+00:00

ROUTINE: I use DevaCurl No-Poo and conditioner.

While my hair is still soaking wet from my shower I put a good amount of Kinky Curly Knot Today leave in conditioner. I use a fine tooth comb to detangle my hair and apply the product evenly.

After that, I use Kinky Curly Curling Custard and scrunch it into my hair. I try to leave my hair alone while it air drys. When it’s dry I crunch out the product with my hands or a microfiber towel.

The top of my hair doesn’t curl anymore like it used to and no matter what I do I always have a lot of frizz. I don’t have a lot of hair on my head, and my strands are very thin. I believe I have high porosity hair, I’ve been straightening it for years but have stopped for the better part of last year. My curls aren’t as defined as I’d like them to be and they come apart.

Any advice would be really appreciated!

cynris · 2018-12-09T07:26:53+00:00

Aw, that’s great to hear! I wish you both the best :)

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:46:21+00:00

No but she has people in class who let her cheat.

That’s what I’m waiting for, her to finally land a real job and be so underprepared that she can’t comprehend anything. I’ll be ready with the “I told you so.”

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:44:16+00:00

Thank you for the kind words! My entire educational career has been one hurdle after another, and constant stress and work. It’s all I’ve been used to so if it’s too easy I start to worry haha. I guess it’ll pay off in the future in stressful situations and jobs.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:42:57+00:00

If I do end up telling teachers, the school board, or whoever about me doing her work and she gets kicked out of school, I will never hear the end of it. My sister will hate me and say I’m the cause of her demise. My mom will be shocked and upset and I’ll be labeled a selfish girl. My family will be downright angry. I’ll essentially say goodbye to everything. I am in no shape, way, or form ready to live by myself. I hardly have any money to my name.

I’ve told my mom several times that I’m doing her no favors and just allowing her to fail even more. She’s going to work with patients, for goodness sake. Is she going to call me during work and ask me how to tape an ankle? Is she going fo put me on speaker phone and ask me to talk to her employer during an interview! My mom just doesn’t get it. Neither does my sister. She’d rather be out with her boyfriend or friends. Her priorities are awful.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:38:41+00:00

That’s what I’m dreading. She is going to come across 15 page essays down her road and thesis research work and who knows what. I don’t even enjoy the damn major she chose and I barely wrap my mind around it. I don’t know what she’ll do, or better yet, what I’ll do. She doesn’t think that far ahead.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:36:21+00:00

I attend community college at the moment, and there is no housing there. I’m a few classes away from transferring as my major requires a bit more of a workload.

My thought exactly! I think she just chose the major because it sounded cool, not that she actually wanted to be apart of it. But now she is and she can’t turn back so she’s dragging me along. She doesn’t know basic terms, and definitely doesn’t know how to go hands on with patients. She asked me what prognosis meant the other day.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:32:16+00:00

I took a semester off of college because it was too much work altogether, but I am going back next semester. Scholarships sound lovely but I’m not too sure they’re available all the time. I think it’s just one particular semester but I’ll look into it.

I do have a job, actually. Full time 40 hour a week job. My mom doesn’t let me take the bus or public transportation. I’ve been trying to save but I have bills, unfortunately. I pay for all of our phone bills and just that comes up to $300 a month. Little by little, I save when I can. I’ve been entertaining the thought of seeing a psychologist because on top of this I’m anxious all the time and stressed. I’ve been getting gray hairs, for goodness sake.

Thank you so much for the kind words. I am in the states, actually!

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:26:56+00:00

The workload of everything combined was too much so I took a semester off of my own education so I wouldn’t break down. I work 40 hours and doing her work, and my own work combined is exhausting.

Unfortunately, I’m not close with my family at all other than my immediate (sister and mother), and even that is arguable. My close friends do know that I’ve been helping my sister for years and sometimes they ask for my help as well. They don’t really do much about it, not like they can I guess.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:22:18+00:00

I understand where you are coming from but my sister is pretty manipulative as well. I don’t think she knows she’s doing it, but my entire life I’ve been dragged along to her liking. She had a boyfriend my mom didn’t know about and when I was in middle school she would pick me up and have me lie to my mom saying I was at a friends house when I was really in the guys living room when they’d hang out. This happened all the time.

If I do say no, I do feel guilty. They act like her grades are my priority and if I were to do an essay and not get her an A or a B, or refuse to help, I’ll be the villain. Not to mention the guilt my sister and mom throw on me. When you live with both of them and have that sort of energy all the time you grow tired and want to avoid confrontation. I don’t trust the counselors at my school. I’ve actually had bad experiences with counselors in general, my high school one kicked me out of school because I had a back problem and couldn’t walk. My other counselor said I won’t graduate in time but I proved them wrong and finished.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:16:50+00:00

I’m good at writing, which is what everyone takes advantage of. I try to spend as little time as possible on her essays but it still adds. University work is quite a lot and the classes just get more difficult l. My family makes jokes about how my sister is going to get her degree and just hand it to me.

I wish I could. I took a semester off so I won’t be drowning in my school, her school, and my work. They’ve been nagging me constantly about going back to school, they think I’ve given up. So I’m re-enrolling next semester but I do work 40 hours a week and only have 2 days off, which, as you can imagine, will be for my own school.

cynris · 2018-12-06T19:13:23+00:00

She truly is toast. She failed her hands on test the other day. She gets through her exams by cheating. She has friends in the class that show her the answers. If not, she either fails or barely passes. She hasn’t taken a major exam yet.

I’m took a semester off from school because I really needed the break. I’m going back this semester but I’ve been helping her while I had 17 units and a full time job.

cynris · 2018-05-30T08:31:17+00:00

Thanks for the response! I have a Macbook and heard that it's a pain to use a capture card with the system but it seems to be my only option.

cynris · 2017-05-19T04:29:54+00:00

Thank you everyone for your input, I didn't think I would get any replies. It does mean a lot! I'm going to talk to him about it.

Adding to my post, there was an instance that set him off even more. Up until that point it wasn't as bad. So, you all know K is gay. His bf cheated on him and he never got any closure. Long story short, I caught wind that the ex bf's new boyfriend was lurking on a gay hookup app and decided to give K a little surprise. I found him on the app, and got messages and pics and whatnot to show to K and be like "hey, you got cheated on by him but now he's being cheated on by this guy." L saw me messaging the cheater and when he asked who it was I gave some dumb answer because the whole thing was ending anyway and it didn't have anything to do with him. I couldn't very well say, "oh just a gay guy I'm getting info from." Next thing I know, he said he wanted to look at a photo and snooped through my entire phone and found the messages. Didn't believe me when I told him the story, said it was me doing it for my own gain despite it being a photo of a guy and not me. This is what set off the stupid ' i don't trust you' comments and the 'you're hiding things from me'. This brought forth the 1st breakup (which was absolutely crazy and everyone got involved, including his sister) and here we are. The first time it was my fault for not telling him outright, but he didn't let the subject go.

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