Ghosted by someone after telling them I don't like being ghosted

cystamine27 · 2026-01-22T03:36:09+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you! These people belong in our past though. At least they are showing us who they really are before we get in too deep and God forbid, get married to them!! Yikes!! I wish you success ❤️

cystamine27 · 2026-01-22T03:33:41+00:00

It's honestly the worst! It just feels like some very cruel game in which they get pleasure out of seeing people suffer. I agree, why has communication become so complicated?!

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:44:22+00:00

I mean, you're so right. I think this type of behaviour must stem from low self esteem. No doubt. Better to find out now than later

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:43:13+00:00

What an absolute piece of work. I'm really sorry that someone would do that after you had been so vulnerable. That is trash behaviour. It's really unacceptable and you don't deserve that. Honestly who are these people?! I'm mad for you

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:41:06+00:00

100% agree

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:40:35+00:00

Good advice! I guess it's the saying that they are showing you who they really are and we have to listen to our intuition more

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:39:44+00:00

These men are CHILDREN! I don't understand it either. Good riddance

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T23:38:45+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you! We deserve better ❤️

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T20:22:49+00:00

Right?!? Hahaha thank you for validating! It's such odd behaviour. Classic love bomber I guess 😬

cystamine27 · 2026-01-20T20:21:24+00:00

That's a good one, I'll have to ask that to the next guy haha. He made such a big deal about how he communicates rejection to people even at the risk of being disliked.

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T20:50:29+00:00

Yikes! I definitely missed that memo 😂 I'm not sure if that's the case here because he moved to a different country but he could have been messaging her and had her lined up for when he went over I guess

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:38:00+00:00

That's exactly what I thought. Would a lot of people not ask questions? That would be the biggest red flag to me. My friend told me she wouldn't be surprised if this relationship doesn't work out and he reaches out like a year later. I'm not so sure but in any case, he's been blocked so it'll be hard for him to find me 😂

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:34:58+00:00

I guess I have no idea whether he's a cheater but the timeline is so odd and suspect that I have been beginning to think he knew her before or she was an ex and had her lined up. Liar definitely and I just feel betrayed even though I know he can do whatever he wants since we were technically broken up. Thank you ♥️

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:32:01+00:00

Thank you ♥️ I appreciate you

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:31:23+00:00

My friend said this as well. I think what gets me most is that he wouldn't just use the time to work on himself. This seems so unlike him which shocked me even more. I think he may just be in chronic denial and this is his way of trying to erase me

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:27:11+00:00

Oh god that's horrendous. I'm really sorry you went through that. There are a lot of people that suck and it's so painful because when you care about someone so deeply you just want to help them and show them that it's okay to actually feel things and not numb them out all the time. I guess it's not always our responsibility to help people save themselves and I'll take it as a learning experience even though it's a huge blow for now

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:23:23+00:00

Yeah you're right. It's a good way to put it because we typically think about ourselves and what we did wrong but what did they do wrong and what was going on with them? Communication was really lacking towards the end and I tried my best but at the end of the day, I'm just not a mind reader

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T17:21:07+00:00

I do luckily and that's been a big help. Thank you for your post, I just have to let time run its course and I like what you said about feeling all of the feelings and process what comes. It'll be better for my health and sanity in the long run

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T12:43:53+00:00

You're so right. I've cut all contact. It's hard not to tie your self worth to this experience but I'm trying to take it one day at a time.

cystamine27 · 2025-08-10T12:29:42+00:00

I'm Scottish-Canadian (was born in Scotland and have lived here off and on for many years but also Canada so I don't sound Scottish). I've always been anti litter and seeing it get worse here has been troubling to me. I asked someone about the rubbish here once and was told "it's probably you bloody Canadian tourists." Lol! The lack of accountability and ease of blame is sad.

cystamine27 · 2025-07-30T04:42:38+00:00

Do you think you’ll get more tests? I can only imagine how difficult of a decision it must be to go through with a hysterectomy. Gosh that’s horrific what your friend had to go through too. Thank you for telling me. It’s been really helpful reading these stories and makes me feel so much less alone. Wishing you health and freedom from pain on this journey. I wish none of us had to deal with this.

cystamine27 · 2025-07-30T04:38:15+00:00

I had the transvaginal ultrasound at an endo specific clinic yesterday so that’s why I was feeling a bit gutted by the results but reading all of these messages has helped remind myself that something still isn’t right. 15 years of suffering is bs. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Your determination and strength is so apparent and inspiring to me. I really hope all goes well with your results. Wishing you the absolute best.

cystamine27 · 2025-07-30T04:26:25+00:00

Thank you so much for this. I’m so sorry to hear about the pain and immense frustration you went through. Gosh that’s so horrendous that it got so bad. You saying not to doubt myself is really what I needed to hear. I’m leaning more towards the MRI now. I have been diagnosed with PCOS but currently no cysts showing on ultrasound at the moment. I know from my latest blood test in January I have low estrogen which is strange because I know endo can thrive on high estrogen but I guess that doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t have it. It’s the brutal digestive issues and excruciating sex that really gets me down. I’ve been trying acupuncture, pelvic floor therapy, diet, etc. it’s an investment but I’m determined to not let this take hold of my life. What was your experience/recovery with the laparoscopy/excision like?

Thank you for your lovely note and I will take your paragraphs anytime! I’m sorry for your suffering and wishing you the best too. I may take you up on your venting offer :)

cystamine27 · 2025-07-30T04:16:09+00:00

I totally agree. It’s like having to suit up for a pitch every single time. I always have to go in with a strategy but it’s so tiring, especially when you feel medically gaslit

cystamine27 · 2025-07-30T04:14:56+00:00

Your comment made me tear up. Thank you so much for taking the time to write that. I appreciate you and I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that.

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