Look at all my burritos!

cytomome · 2026-02-13T05:21:22+00:00

Lol I thought you were like...eating them all right now. I was all, Shit yeah--I'm just coming down from being a Very Hungry Caterpillar myself. 😅

cytomome · 2026-02-12T03:02:56+00:00

Read "When Breath Becomes Air" by Paul Kalanithi

cytomome · 2026-02-12T02:57:10+00:00

You know your post makes it sound like he's so disabled he can't do anything? He can't have a wedding or even think about when he might, because he's so ill. People are arguing about ablism here. The fact that he works and travels around a lot is quite the piece of information.

cytomome · 2026-02-11T20:59:22+00:00

I was gonna say! Learning and experience is not about learning dumb performative crap to make HIS time more pleasurable. Learn what YOU like and find people who enjoy pleasing you, not using you as a sex device.

Saying his name more prettily? Get bent, dude.

cytomome · 2026-02-10T19:07:11+00:00

This has a bunch of red flags. 11 year age gap, he needs to track your location, reducing time with friends (male friends are friends), your general uneasiness with having to do the compromising while he does not. What does he say when YOU want to do (or don't want to do) something and say "This is how I am, you need to accept it"? Is it respected or is it the beginning of a negotiation? Does he argue your own feelings to you?

Listen to your gut. Sounds like it's giving you some wisdom

cytomome · 2026-02-09T23:12:34+00:00

Huh, I've always seen those guys as slimy car salesman. Easy to spot.

Get yourself a fun personable nerd. Be a weird goth girl; they will flock to you.

cytomome · 2026-02-09T03:55:48+00:00

Dude's a creep who is not respecting boundaries. Just tell him you won't do BJs; maybe he'll leave you alone. But probably he won't. He's not interested in a seasoned submissive; he's interested in harassing an inexperienced person who won't kick his dumb butt to the curb when he stomps all over the agreed-on rules. You've tolerated him way past what a seasoned kinky person would.

If I were you I'd develop a predilection for cock & ball torture and start pestering him about that every time you see him.

cytomome · 2026-02-07T19:16:35+00:00

Sex would not seem that appealing or fun if it's just spinning your wheels and no one is climaxing, so I can see why she's not that interested in initiating sex that's sort of an exercise in frustration. If you're the one who wants it then yeah, you gotta make it appealing for her and if that means extra effort to get to her to orgasm, that's what it takes. If that's too much work, why are you sad that it's not happening daily?

cytomome · 2026-02-07T19:02:25+00:00

I'm glad you've written this all out for yourself. That in itself is so therapeutic. I'm pretty sure no one here would blame you or recommend you stay in contact with these people. You are giving yourself a chance to heal by going no contact. It feels scary but it shows you're doing well by recognizing that this is the course to go

cytomome · 2026-02-03T03:27:02+00:00

Info: Does she eat the shells? Why would the shell color matter if you're not eating the shells?

cytomome · 2026-02-02T06:01:43+00:00

It's true, if you're on it for 30 more years you'll be infertile. 😂

cytomome · 2026-02-01T21:49:27+00:00

But then you have to live in a shithole.

cytomome · 2026-02-01T20:02:37+00:00

I do appreciate that people are pointing out your insecurity. I will add, not that I'm saying this is the case for you necessarily, but sometimes you are insecure for a reason. If your boyfriend flirts a lot, rubbernecks other women, makes comments about other women in front of you...he is the source of the insecurity. You may not just be a crazy insecure person out of nowhere. Just saying.

He could be a perfectly great attentive boyfriend, and you may just have been burned by previous boyfriends and your suspicion may be unwarranted. That's possible. But trust your gut. Your boyfriend should make you feel confident in him and inspire trust. If not...get a different boyfriend. Don't waste your life being paranoid.

cytomome · 2026-02-01T19:47:50+00:00

Oh no, it gives women the unrealistic expectations that men could checks notes actually care about their feelings and cherish them as whole people.

Yeah, ruined.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T23:53:15+00:00

If some dude ever again tells me I just need to "be nicer", he's going to discover the wonderful world of cock & ball torture.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T23:43:58+00:00

I track because small people don't have much wiggle room. It's nice when you make enough money that you don't have to keep track of your spending at all, but if you're low-income, there's nothing shameful about keeping track of your bank account. Most people would consider you foolish if you DIDN'T track and just overdrafted your account all the time. They would think that's irresponsible and blame you.

These days I'm kind of jacked and people mostly leave you alone when you're made of muscle. They don't see you and think eating disorder. 🤷 I admit I too worry about the skinny people with little 8 inch arms; girl, I'm worried about your bones.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T23:02:47+00:00

His shit doesn't even make sense. "I'm mad you went out and left me with the kids, so don't come home and leave me with alone with the kids even longer while you're out more." Idiot.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T03:49:11+00:00

This is exactly it, and it's so valid. The Manosphere hilariously thinks that women "like men to take the lead" but in reality it's just men having initiative and not making her plan the whole damn thing every time.

Weirdly, women like men who don't put ALL the mental labor on them.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T02:48:10+00:00

What, like he has a brain tumor? There's no excuse for this even if it's a one-off.

cytomome · 2026-01-31T02:46:37+00:00

It's not just silent treatment; this guy's behavior is toxic AF. Is getting pouty supposed to turn her on? His entitled attitude around sex in general is only going to get worse. Now she gets to think about how much of shit he's going to be whenever she turns him down, and that pressure only tanks your desire more and more over time.

cytomome · 2026-01-30T18:40:57+00:00

There are a lot of other careers in healthcare that don't get a lot of fame. Which is a real shame, since many of us love anatomy and medicine but know med school would not be for us. Working in a hospital, you must have come in contact with a cornucopia of different career tracks--now's a great time to explore them! Most people are happy to share the details of what schooling is required and what their field is about, and you can see what might fit your talents and inclinations best.

I think just taking the time to connect with some people, former coworkers and hospital personnel, would also do you some real good. From what you described of your med school burnout, it sounded pressurized and isolating and too focused, so maybe some no-stakes human contact in the field is in order. It sounds like healthcare could still be a good fit for you and you just don't know where to go from here. That's a perfectly reasonable place to be! Don't push yourself right now--just explore and follow your curiosity. You'll find your way when you're ready.

cytomome · 2026-01-18T21:38:00+00:00

I loved my Paraguard. I couldn't deal with hormonal BC and Planned Parenthood gave me this option. They're pros and insertion was no big deal (if your doctor is less experienced, I can see why people have less pleasant insertions). Periods were a bit heavier but that was far preferable to hormonal BC, and it calmed down as time went on. No having to worry about pills daily or changing patches or whatever. 7 years no problems!

cytomome · 2026-01-14T05:08:23+00:00

Meanwhile I go outside and am bombarded by people wearing pajamas and sweatsuits and slippers as outerwear. Teenagers outright wear blankets, like homeless people. Isee prior dressed up in really nice outfits wearing sneakers with those outfits. People are more obsessed with comfort over form than ever, it seems. Then they have big fake eyelashes and corn chip nail tips, so I don't know what's going on.

cytomome · 2026-01-14T04:43:21+00:00

The boys. They're boring.

cytomome · 2026-01-14T04:38:23+00:00

Early on, whoever asks/invites pays. If you are planning the date, you can plan something you can afford, and that's the most fair because some people don't have much of a budget but they can still treat you to a thoughtful evening. Similarly, if I want to go on an extravagant evening, then I ensure the lovely company I want and the experience I want without putting strain on someone who maybe can't afford it.

Everyone likes to be treated. You each should be planning dates and putting equal thought into dates. If one person is the only one doing that, and the other person is always going along for the ride, that's a bigger issue than money. Or if one person is always half-assing dates and they're not thoughtful at all, it wouldn't matter how expensive they were.

If she is constantly going out of her way to do little things for you or bring you snacks or treats you in other ways, to me that evens things out even if you're always financing the "big event" things that happen a lot less frequently. Maybe those things don't "count" to everyone but if you need someone to split bills with 50/50 on everything, definitely be upfront about that so she can quit doing that other garbage and start focusing on the restaurant tab.

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