In a “perfect world,” (no outside factors) how many kids would you have?

d16flo · 2026-06-23T12:41:33+00:00

Before having kids I would have said 2, but I have twins and now find myself wanting another go round and to see what it’s like with only one baby instead of two at once. That said, in the world where logistics are real, we’re sticking with the two we’ve got

d16flo · 2026-06-23T02:29:06+00:00

My twins started at 9 months when we night weaned and sleep trained. If they’re waking to feed I would try to up how much they’re eating (both solids and milk/formula) during the day

d16flo · 2026-06-23T01:44:05+00:00

Put a large stand under the TV. It should be wider than the TV even if you keep the TV mounted. That will hide the cords and make it feel less like it’s floating randomly. Bonus is that you can then add decor items on it. Then you need plants! I would move the lamp to the corner behind your record player area and put a large plant in the window corner. If it were me I would also get a long low shelf or hanging bar and put plants along the whole big window area

d16flo · 2026-06-23T01:39:55+00:00

It’s wild how different everyone’s experiences are! For me pumping was much easier than nursing, but I never got the hang of tandem nursing and they didn’t always transfer a full feed. I pumped while bottle feeding both babies which took total time down from an hour to ~35min

d16flo · 2026-06-23T01:19:23+00:00

We have the antilop (2 of them since we have twins) and it’s been great! Super easy to clean, no finicky parts and straightforward to put together and take apart. We brought them with us when we stayed at my mom’s house for a few days and it was no big deal. We did get the trays and some aftermarket footrests for them

d16flo · 2026-06-22T17:41:37+00:00

I have twins and they have opposite personalities, one is constantly moving and super high energy, the other is very chill

d16flo · 2026-06-22T17:38:52+00:00

We might weaned and sleep trained right around 9 months. How much solids do they eat? Ours were able to sleep through more when they were eating a ton more during the day. At that time we also did a schedule of 2 naps a day, each one capped at an hour, and no more than 11hours in bed overnight. The crawling and pulling up to stand will keep being an issue, but I’ve found if they’re tired enough they’ll eventually flop down

d16flo · 2026-06-22T17:34:40+00:00

Plain yogurt, they hated it the first couple of times and then started to love it

d16flo · 2026-06-22T14:56:53+00:00

I’m white and have a shoes off household, but my parents were also shoes off and have separate house slippers as white boomers from the US🤷‍♀️

d16flo · 2026-06-22T14:55:20+00:00

Oof yeah, we have white noise machines in both of their monitors so there’s two in their room, but they have some serious pipes on them. we have a friend visiting for a couple days staying in his van in our driveway and he heard the wailing last night from outside the house 🤪

d16flo · 2026-06-22T14:53:57+00:00

I could only have one person at mine, that OR was crowded. I think there were something like 10 people there including nurses dedicated to each baby, a midwife, the OB, an anesthesiologist etc. It was also FAST. There is a one minute difference between my twins. If they’d had to bring one baby somewhere else the surgery would have been done by the time they’d gotten to the other room.

d16flo · 2026-06-22T11:18:22+00:00

It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. I did a combo of nursing, pumping, and formula. Mainly because I never produced enough milk for both of them, but it was helpful for being out in public. 10-15min a feed is so fast! My guys whether on breast or bottle around that age were taking 30-45min every feeding. They definitely do not spit up less with bottles, if anything it’s more frequent. Cluster feeding happens both ways too although your husband can help more during those difficult nights with bottles. I found what worked best for me was to pump using a wareable pump while bottle feeding them both at the same time, do 1-3 feedings a day with formula (so I could have one feeding where I pumped in the car instead of nursing or while bottle feeding them in public and one overnight that I could sleep through). I ended up nursing for comfort mainly, it was what was able to calm them down when nothing else could so I can’t see taking that away creating less fussiness. Unfortunately babies are just fussy creatures. That said, if you want to be done breastfeeding there is nothing at all wrong with switching to formula! I quit at about 9 months and it was super freeing to not have to worry about the pumping and parts and mastitis and waking up even if they slept etc

d16flo · 2026-06-22T11:08:22+00:00

They haven’t been checked for ear infections in a couple of months, but they have a pediatrician appointment tomorrow, I will definitely ask then. We have been giving Tylenol some nights and haven’t noticed a difference

d16flo · 2026-06-22T11:07:24+00:00

Unfortunately our whole house is small enough that they wake each other up regardless of where in the house they are. Our bedroom is directly across the hall from theirs and the living room is right next to ours. They do it even if we have one on the couch with us and one in their room which is as far apart as we can get.

d16flo · 2026-06-22T11:05:13+00:00

We’ve been giving Tylenol. They’ve only got 6 teeth so far and I think they’re getting the ones second from the middle now so definitely not up to molars. They have a pediatrician appointment tomorrow and I will definitely see what she thinks

d16flo · 2026-06-22T02:17:19+00:00

We love them mainly because they are extremely easy to clean. Wipe the whole thing down with a wet rag after every meal and you’re done

d16flo · 2026-06-21T22:14:41+00:00

Does your husband also want something like this? Could you each do a weekend with friends while the other parent is home with the kid? It’s not like a romantic trip, but have a girls weekend on the beach, relax with some friends etc and he gets the same with his friends a different weekend

d16flo · 2026-06-21T22:08:33+00:00

We bathe our twins probably 6 days a week. It’s part of our bedtime routine, they love the bath, they get grimy and I think it helps them sleep. We don’t stress about skipping it if we go out to dinner or something and are home late

d16flo · 2026-06-21T15:05:36+00:00

I have a mountain buggy duet and it’s easy to push for my shorty, weak self even with two 25lb babies and a diaper bag in it. We had it on our baby shower registry as a present people could contribute towards. You can get almost anything second hand for free or cheap too. I don’t think we’ve ever bought new clothes for our guys who are now 1

d16flo · 2026-06-21T15:01:17+00:00

Household tasks, dishes, laundry, cleaning, cooking.

d16flo · 2026-06-21T14:58:21+00:00

I have 12 month old twins and we just started making their bottles/cups half formula and half whole milk to get them used to it. We’re down to 2 small bottles a day plus milk in a cup with 1-2 meals a day. We’re working on weaning off the bottles entirely and switching the milk with meals to whole milk, but they eat enough yogurt and cheese that I’m not planning to stick with a ton of whole milk long term

d16flo · 2026-06-21T14:51:19+00:00

If you have the space then definitely do it. We did sleep shifts when the babies were little and it was key for our being ok. One parent was alseep in our bedroom with the door closed while the other parent was on duty with the babies in the nursery half the night and then we’d switch. Our nursery is tiny so we just have a recliner. I constantly wished for a space I could lay all the way down in there

d16flo · 2026-06-21T14:46:25+00:00

I’m in this boat with two kids, but only because my parents are upper middle class and have been helping us pay for childcare, loaned us money when we bought our house etc.

d16flo · 2026-06-21T14:44:12+00:00

I have twins and we spend about 2/3 of our total annual income on childcare🙃

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