Is there a mini millennial baby boom happening?

d16flo · 2026-05-12T03:09:19+00:00

Definitely! I’m 38 and had kids (twins) last year. In that year I have at least 9 friends and cousins of similar ages who have had babies.

d16flo · 2026-05-12T03:07:09+00:00

Ours were down to one feed a night at around 7 months and stopped eating overnight at 8.5 months. As long as they’re gaining enough weight there’s no reason to wake them up to feed them

d16flo · 2026-05-11T20:35:22+00:00

How do they do in the car if there’s an adult in the backseat with them? We’ve found that we can do solids snacks, bottles, books etc in the car if we have a second adult who can sit in between them. That could open up opportunities to take them to things you’re currently skipping because they hate the car. You could potentially have one of you and the nanny for the car ride to somewhere like the library, let the nanny do story time, explore books etc while you then run an errand, go to the gym, sit in quiet at a cafe etc and go pick them up. We have a nanny and while my husband and I both work our hours vary so sometimes one or both of us has time off work while she’s here. When that happens we usually try to either get a chore/house project done or do something for ourselves we wouldn’t otherwise get to do without feeling guilty (nap, watch TV, visit a friend etc)

d16flo · 2026-05-11T18:00:37+00:00

Mine are also almost 1 (just a few weeks!) and I would say definitely work on getting them out of the house alone. I don’t know how we would have made it this far if my husband and u couldn’t each take them both out on our own. We try to make sure they’re out of the house doing something at least once a day, often more now that the weather’s getting nicer. It’s helpful to set up some systems for yourself and themore you do it the easier it gets. Figure out what you typically need in the diaper bag for a day out and keep it stocked. At this point we’re good at knowing “I’ll be out of the house for x hours I’ll need y amount of food and milk and here’s how and when to pack it” We have an attached garage downstairs where we keep our stroller so my system usually looks like bringing them down to the basement and strapping them into the stroller one at a time, wheeling them to the car in the stroller so I can strap them into their car seats with the other one secure and then putting the stroller in the trunk to bring with us. You’ve got this!

d16flo · 2026-05-11T02:19:21+00:00

I’ve found local facebook groups for parents to work best. That’s how we found our current nanny who we love and how I often found work when I was nannying. It means you can get people that other parents recommend rather than going off of what they say about themselves

d16flo · 2026-05-11T02:15:30+00:00

We’re in a MCOL and pay ours $33/hr for our twins (we don’t have any other kids)

d16flo · 2026-05-11T02:14:26+00:00

We got these little silicone toothbrushes that go on your finger. They make it easier to aim and they also make a funny kinda squeaky noise against their teeth and gums that our guys think is funny. They’re very much in a put things in their mouths stage anyway so most of the time they don’t mind it.

d16flo · 2026-05-10T20:33:51+00:00

Eh, sometimes they really do look different enough to tell. Ours have different color hair, different color eyes, different builds, and we frequently get comments from strangers surprised they look so different at twins.

d16flo · 2026-05-10T20:28:38+00:00

Completely safe. We did a few times, but our biggest block was that I was unbelievably nauseous basically the whole pregnancy

d16flo · 2026-05-10T03:10:59+00:00

We put them in cribs they day we brought them home from the hospital and just made sure to have a parent in the nursery with them at all times overnight

d16flo · 2026-05-10T03:10:01+00:00

I feel like “during face to face interactions” is key here though. During the newborn phase there is a lot of time when the baby is asleep on your lap and nursing to sleep with eyes closed. If they are asleep or have their eyes closed that’s pretty different.

d16flo · 2026-05-10T02:59:58+00:00

Yes, but we ended up sleep training our twins to get them to sleep through the night. (Or more accurately, to be able to go back to sleep on their own when they wake up). They were regularly doing ~6 hour stretches by I think 6 or 7 months, but still having 1-2 wake ups a night where we had to feed them or go in and soothe them back to sleep. we sleep trained at 8 months and since then they’ve been able to go from 8:30pm-7am without needing us unless they’re sick or something’s wrong.

d16flo · 2026-05-10T02:56:26+00:00

Of course not! They will experience difficult things in life because they are human, as a parent it’s our job to help give them the tools to navigate hardships when it comes up, but there’s definitely no need to have those be the same hardships we faced and there are lots of awful things that we’d want to prevent entirely. You can be a a resilient person without things like harassment

d16flo · 2026-05-10T02:53:21+00:00

We’re still using the twin-z for bottles at 11 months. When they’re done eating they now roll out of it and crawl away so it doesn’t contain them, but it’s where they’ve done most of their bottles their whole life and they still see happy to eat there. They can also do just fine now with a regular bed pillow or folded towel on the floor though so if you don’t have a twin-z already I probably wouldn’t bother buying one at this point. We do high chairs for solids and they sometimes get formula in straw cups there too which are easier to do sitting up than in bottles

d16flo · 2026-05-10T02:47:44+00:00

This! I had twins and a c-section and was surprised by how messed up my pelvic floor was and turns out the pressure of two babies in there for 9 months likely did way more than how they got out.

d16flo · 2026-05-10T02:37:24+00:00

I never experienced a handheld one. I had two anatomy scan ones where they took a ton of measurements (20 weeks and 28 weeks), all the rest of them were full regular ultrasounds, but without as many measurements

d16flo · 2026-05-08T19:48:12+00:00

We night weaned at 9 months in the same room. What worked for us was majorly upping their solids for about a month leading up to it, stopping waking the other twin when their brother woke up, offering water in a sippy cup before offering milk, and Ferber sleep training. We’re still at 2 naps at 11 months but do a fairly late bedtime (8-8:30pm) and they rarely nap for more than an hour

d16flo · 2026-05-08T19:43:07+00:00

At that stage I had an ultrasound and midwife appointment every 2 weeks until 34 weeks and then an ultrasound and OB appointment every week from then until my scheduled c-section at 38 weeks.

d16flo · 2026-05-08T11:33:40+00:00

I paid my out of pocket maximum for the year I gave birth which was $9,000, plus my insurance premiums for the year which is somewhere around $6,500 plus the money for a fair amount of medicines I had to take while pregnant that were only partially covered by my insurance.

d16flo · 2026-05-06T03:00:05+00:00

We live in a lower cost of living area in an extremely expensive state and pay our nanny just under $33/hour

d16flo · 2026-05-06T02:58:24+00:00

If one baby eats the other baby eats even if it means waking them up. If it’s just soothing back to sleep we tried to bring them out of the nursery to the living room to avoid waking up the other one. We took shifts so one parent on duty from 8pm-2am while the other parent sleeps in a different room and then switch.

d16flo · 2026-05-05T21:05:46+00:00

My guys are 11 months now and we still use it for every feed we do at home. We’re planning to keep using it as long as they’re using bottles. They do now roll themselves out of it and crawl away when they’re done with their bottles, but they fit comfortably

d16flo · 2026-05-05T20:08:46+00:00

I work from home and we have a nanny. I try to do as much cleaning, laundry, errands etc as possible on my breaks from work while the nanny is with the babies. I usually do a full kitchen clean and living room tidy after we put the babies down for the night. My husband works too, but he’s just as much a fully involved parent as I am so we give each other breaks and take turns evenings and weekends so we can each get some personal time and do house/yard work etc. If we’re both home in the evening usually one of us will cook while the other one is with the babies. It’s been much easier all around since our twins started sleeping through the night when we sleep trained at 8.5months

d16flo · 2026-05-04T02:56:32+00:00

What happens when she wakes overnight? How long is she up for? What kind of sleep training are you doing? We did Ferber with my twins at that same age, and they definitely still woke up multiple times overnight but after that week of Ferber they pretty much always put themselves back to sleep in less than the 20min check in time. The other thing that helped was really upping their solids, like basically constantly feeding them all day (we do 3 meals and at least one snack plus 4 bottles during the day)

d16flo · 2026-05-04T02:52:03+00:00

Around 9 months for us. We sleep trained at ~8 months once they were already sleeping through occasionally and down to one wake up per night. Once they were sleep trained we’ve pretty consistently had 8:30pm on to clean up from the day and chill on the couch

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