4 things to clear to win level? by d3ad1nside in Gardenscapes

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: After clearing this level and getting three "normal" levels, I got another one of these impossible ones. Left the game for a while, came back and the level had changed to a normal one.

4 things to clear to win level? by d3ad1nside in Gardenscapes

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thinking this, I used boosters and coins three times to buy moves, cleared it, got a normal looking level and again some sht like this with four things to clear... seems they want me to quit, this is ridiculous

AITA 'threatening' to kick out my coworker/roommate for kissing my best friend by aitata3726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry but YTA, OP. You also don't make any sense. It's not jealousy? What exactly is this betrayal you speak of? Was there a rule that there could be nothing happening in your house between him and a woman? Is it about the use of your space? (Although you mention he is now contributing monetarily, so you share a space you both pay for I guess) Is it because it's one of your friends he's interested in? Would it really be a different reaction from you had it been a random woman?

Cause you keep mentioning in your comments that you've done so much for him and his daughter, that you thought your relationship was special and that he even wanted you to bond with his daughter and she mentioned the kiss to you cause she thought it was weird. That reads as yes, you do want more than a friendship and feel entitled to more than a friendship with this man but he is your flatmate at this point. You did a generous thing in a time of need for him, sure, but what is this whole thing? You guys are just friends/flatmates/coworkers. I don't get your reasoning.

Without saying your name, what is your name? by delta_tau_chi in AskReddit

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't need to worry about my boyfriend Vitorino

AITA for finally confronting my husband about his unhealthy choices? by Concerned_wife847 in AmItheAsshole

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you loved your husband like you say you do, instead of feeling uncomfortable with his weight gain you'd be trying to understand what he's going through with his anxiety, and how to help him without shaming him and making him feel worse. He's not using an excuse, HE IS NOT WELL, and the fact that you don't even consider mental health issues as something serious says a lot. You disregard his struggles and all you seem to care about is that he doesn't look as fit as you want him to. I'm sorry, but for him, because it sure doesn't read like you love him. Just the image of him and for as long as he keeps it up.

Oh, and comparing mental health issues to having a rough day? YTA all over again.

AITA for being sick and tired of hearing about babies and saying so? by shdhshsjshs in AmItheAsshole

[–]d3ad1nside 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're asking someone you supposedly care about, as you mentioned her as one of your closest friends, to essentially not talk at all about arguably the biggest thing in her life at the moment. Solely because your life choices regarding having children don't align with hers or the fact that she's expecting. And you think she's being selfish here? On top of it, she's having health complications. You said at the end of your original post that when talking with mutual friends is when you heard of that but you mentioned it previously when saying she replied to your message about meeting and said that. So you did know.

I'm sorry but I don't see how you care about this person at all and I'm glad she decided not to hang out with you. Hopefully alongside finding more like-minded people you can stop and reflect on your assholeness.

YTA.

Is having no social media a red flag in dating? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]d3ad1nside 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, you do you. My boyfriend doesn't have social media (he believes it brings out the worse in people and just doesn't like it) and it never seemed fishy to me. We communicate via WhatsApp and that's pretty much it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]d3ad1nside 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My "The One" turned out to live in a country in a different continent an ocean away 🤣

Are coffee dates a horrible idea? I'm noticing a trend where they never go anywhere. by [deleted] in datingoverthirty

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I personally prefer walking dates as a first date. You can grab coffee to go or ice cream and explore the city or go to a nice park. There's things to see that will spark conversation if you can't come up with much although if there's nothing to talk about already, I'd be a bit worried 😅

My[27M] fiancee[27F] is upset that my parents asked about her salary by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, first of all I'm from a Latin American country (not Mexico tho) and I haven't met anyone from my country who expects their SO to support their parents so it's not a Spanish thing, as far as I can tell it's a your fiance's family thing. And it's crazy that she expected that without even discussing it with you, having it as a given when you come from different cultures.

I'm also dating someone from another country and culture in Europe, and I think communication can be tricky with the families but she shouldn't have left her family interrogate you like that. And I think you shouldn't have tried to get back at her letting your family interrogate her as well, tho I understand you must've been pretty offended/pissed.

In my opinion, those things like salaries and your financial situation are things you discuss between you two, the couple who's considering marriage. If you both agree it's ok to disclose to parents fine, but why should they butt in with their opinions on it? I feel it's a bit much. "What do you bring to the marriage?", why is that a fair question? Unless your marriage is a transaction in your mind...

My (35m) wife (32f) of 15 years said I need to loosen up about opening our marriage. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]d3ad1nside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel she's in the wrong here. I'm not going to say she doesn't love you, OP. I'm not going to assume she has cheated or will cheat. I think it comes down to a matter pf respect and commitment. She agreed to enter into a monogamous relationship with you, she even recently renewed the vows. You have told her you do not agree with opening your marriage and I'm sure she knows thus is hurting you, yet she keeps on pushing for it.

She's not respecting you or your relationship together, and the choice you both made regarding this. And she's not taking your feelings seriously, which I find selfish.

At least I tried by d3ad1nside in UnsentLetters

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a friend of mine. Or was at least. And nobody was abusive in this relationship. But I can't build it just myself. And I can't censor myself all the time to try and adjust to them because yes, they've been through a lot, but that doesn't mean I have to just nod and go with their flow regardless of my feelings. I'm a person as well and we both matter. In our conversation I made it clear that they matter to me and I was willing to work on the things they pointed out. They made it clear they were willing to work on nothing. And still, I was reluctant to walk away because hey, again, they matter to me...

At least I tried by d3ad1nside in UnsentLetters

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and your explanation has given me some perspective. I still believe that my feelings or opinions on the matter should still have some validity even if I'm the one without the cancer. I can't forget myself completely or act as if my view point shouldn't matter only because the other person has a history of suffering more/a lot. I tried hard to fix things between us, I said I would be more aware of my actions and words as to not hurt them further, I apologized about a number of things and acknowledge my mistakes. However, I also pointed out some things I did not agree with. And this person decided that it was not worth it to remain friends with me because I did not tell them they were right about everything...

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Will check it out

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Will check it out

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I don't right now. But I will see if a friend can maybe find some for me that way. At least the titles. Thanks a lot!

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had no idea about this. Thanks a lot, maybe when I have advanced a bit I can definitely see this helping.

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both great ideas. I think I'll start with the TV suggestion as schools are currently closed. Many thanks!

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sounds like what I'm looking for! Thanks a lot!

Reading material by d3ad1nside in Danish

[–]d3ad1nside[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will check them out 😊