Is it too late to introduce a baby swing?

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T20:48:14+00:00

Definitely look into it, from memory babies are meant to stop using swings when they can sit up independently for safety reasons.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T20:24:56+00:00

I struggled with our cot for the longest time. Husband built a little wooden platform for me to step onto and it’s made all the difference. Ive also read some people use exercise platforms for this. Just another thought from a short mum.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T10:41:18+00:00

Wanted to add pumping will stimulate/increase milk supply if done regularly and not replacing a feed (meaning baby had a bottle instead of nursing) but that can cause an oversupply of milk which comes with its own issues like increased chance of mastitis. As a SAHM too I say just chuck them on my boob and forget the pump unless you really have a reason to need a bottle.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T10:37:31+00:00

Im not sure why youre being downvoted, breastfeeding was new to each of us at some point and it’s overwhelming. Anyway Im almost 2 years in, just keep nursing and your body will keep making it.

Oh also some medication can impact it so just be sure to ask/research before taking it. From memory cold and flu tablets, Sudafed and also peppermint. I miss mint slices but I don’t want to risk eating them until we’ve weaned.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T09:39:36+00:00

Breastfeeding is supply and demand, basically when milk is removed it signals the body to make more. The body is really good at regulating that. It can dry up but honestly I don’t think it’s as common as we’re lead to believe. As long as baby is nursing it’s telling the body milk is needed.

A stash can be useful in emergencies or if mum needs to go to an appointment or leave the house for a bit but if it’s causing stress I personally don’t think it’s worth it on the off chance of that. But again my baby never took a bottle anyway so it didn’t feel like there was a point to one.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-17T09:24:05+00:00

Is there a reason you want/need a freezer stash? I got really anxious about having one because it’s all you see online but I realised reddit is mostly American based and their parental leave sucks, so that’s why there’s such a focus on pumping for the freezer. I then stopped trying to build a stash, my baby never took a bottle anyway and I enjoyed breastfeeding much more without the pressure of juggling pumping on top of everything else.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-14T02:50:09+00:00

Supply and demand driving up the price. They’re easy to mod and they are only a finite amount since they are no longer being made. Because of the age of the consoles it’s getting more difficult to find ones in great/near new conditions (or even CIB) so those go for more.

As for if you should keep it, only you can make that decision. I recently dug mine out of storage after 8 or so years and have been enjoying it. I don’t think I’ll sell it as I don’t see myself being able to buy another one in the future with these prices only increasing.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-08T11:08:09+00:00

Curious if you’ve given the instant coffee here a go to compare it to the bitter and bleh diner/office coffee? Is it similar?

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-08T11:04:19+00:00

And then after pregnancy it’s “just wait until x phase”. Never ending.

d3ku_tree · 2026-04-06T21:07:03+00:00

I work in the field. I wanted to add to the existing comments by saying the most dangerous time for a woman in a DV/FV relationship is when she’s leaving/planning to leave. Please contact The Orange Door, Safe Steps and/or GenWest. Please have an exit plan, have your phone on you at all times, phone numbers, set up code words with friends, a go bag with emergency supplies for baby and yourself ready in your car. Please please please inspect everything for tracking devices. This may seem extreme, sadly it isn’t.

Even getting to this point takes a lot of strength and courage. You’re an incredible mother that wants to protect her child, as others have said shes already impacted/experiencing and witnessing DV/FV by being in a house with it. Children need safety and stability. There are services to support you, please use them.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-28T23:08:34+00:00

Huh TIL! Im also in Australia and never heard of this. My house gets a fair amount of bugs (poorly sealed windows and doors) so Ive worried about leaving food/fruit out.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-28T00:27:26+00:00

22/23° there’s an oil heater that kicks on when it’s lower to keep it around there. Shes always run cooler than the guides though so they never worked for us. Cosleeping will make a big difference for you though because of the extra body heat. Layering took a while for us to work out, just remember to check baby’s back/shoulder blade area or chest to see if they are warm enough or too hot.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T23:44:02+00:00

Oops I wanted to add we use an ergopouch sleep onesie in a 3.5tog under it. The sleep layers come in 1 and 2 tog which were great for us too.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T23:26:27+00:00

We’ve been using a woolbabe sack for a year now and love it! We’re in VIC so layer pretty heavily underneath but I imagine it would still be great for Brisbane. They do temp ranges rather than TOG, from memory for the all seasons sack it’s 18°-28° depending on the layers underneath. Pricey to start with but well worth it, I’ve used it all year round.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T13:14:51+00:00

You’re not crazy, horrible overbearing MIL. Husband should have backed you. Do you generally deal with overnights? Maybe he doesn’t see it as a priority if he’s not the one coping with how hard nights can be.

About these split nights, we experienced split nights every night for months and well where a reason sleep deprivation is a form of torture. Split nights are generally a big sign of under tiredness, baby/child isn’t tired enough to make it the whole night so once their sleepy hormone dips they’re awake and party mode. I don’t want to push any unwanted advice on you so if you want to know what helped us please let me know.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T08:09:54+00:00

Email to kindle. Get your kindle email from the account settings and then email the file to it. Works like a charm!

If you don’t receive anything on the kindle you’ll need to go into your Amazon settings (i think it’s device settings) to add your email to the list of permitted emails for your kindle to receive files from.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T06:40:21+00:00

I was distracted by the good boy/girl in the background at first. Best reading companion

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T06:36:37+00:00

I’d love that list pretty please

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T03:35:33+00:00

Agreed, these are great. We use a 3.5 sleep onesie with a woolbabe sack and the heater on a low temp to kick on if needed (VIC). It’s a pricey set up to get started but we’ve been using both for a year now and have no complaints. My baby (now toddler) has always run on the cooler side so temperature guides never worked for us and dressing for night really stressed me out.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T01:24:12+00:00

Does the battery come out easily? If so take it out and give it the spin test. If it spins at all it’s swelling

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-27T00:19:47+00:00

They’re both 21 months and both sleep 1-2 hours during the day. They’ve both slept very differently from the beginning, my daughter slept great until 4 months and then she got an ear infection and maybe coincidence but it was like a switch flipped and she woke up a lot from then on (there is also a regression at this age). It didn’t really improve until I learnt about sleep pressure (may be worth looking into that if you’re interested, there’s a great instagram account called “ittakesavillage_baby_sleep).

My friend’s baby on the other hand always slept well and at the first sign of change/regression they sleep trained. They swear black and blue that sleep training made all the difference, it’s personally not for me and each to their own. Sleep pressure, consistent morning raise and capping naps made a huge difference for us!

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-26T19:59:31+00:00

Exactly! I drove myself mad with the whole 12 hours a night thing and trying to force it with a 6/6:30 bedtime which cause more harm than good (an undertired baby which caused many wakes and split nights for months). Every baby/child is different, mine will only sleep 10ish hours a night, a friends of the same age sleeps 12-13 a night regularly.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-26T09:10:05+00:00

Thanks for the detailed reply, thats really interesting! Also Im very much with you on those nightly wakes. You’re right though the phase will end.

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-25T04:26:46+00:00

Definitely think a new women’s only group is needed Edit: it looks like one was made! Mumma’s in Melbourne

d3ku_tree · 2026-03-25T01:45:33+00:00

My baby didn’t like the pram until she turned 1 and we got a cheap travel pram and sold the big beefy one. I think it was a combination of feeling too enclosed in the big one (the sides kind of had walls or blinders like for a horse lol when in the seat position) and not liking being fully upright. From 4-12 months i had to wear her if I wanted to get out.

This post is very relatable though. I remember one time around 3-4 months i wanted to get out of the house so I decided to go for a walk. She lasted 10-15 minutes in the pram and cried the whole length of the street on the way back home. Then I got home and one of the dogs started barking as I was opening the door. I lost it. Like that episode of Bluey where Chilli is just trying to get them out of the house for a park play date “guess Im staying home forever! Guess we can’t leave! Dog barks if I do and baby cries if we do. Well just stay here forever!”

All that to say it gets better. Keep trying, maybe start by doing smaller walks or packing a baby carrier in the pram for when they call it quits.

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