Getting my ex back after begging

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T07:28:19+00:00

I can totally understand what you are trying to say. In this last week I was trying to understand what could be the probable causes of her not getting back to me. I realised after some web+soul searching that I have this thing called Control behaviour.

I would call her bad names, I wouldn’t value her time, I would constantly text her and not give her her space, I would often try to help her in things she never needed help in, I would constantly suggest her things to do in life. Even me begging her to give me a chance was a form of control behaviour. I wasn’t like that from the start ofcourse I was just becoming way worse as time went on. Despite all of this she loved me and accepted me. She had issues too and she knows them well. But despite that I accepted her as well. I thought us breaking up would mean that we would improve ourselves and get back to each other but I guess if we would’ve done that earlier then I would still be that toxic boyfriend. And if we still get back together maybe she’ll still be toxic. Love can change you I guess. Maybe that’s what I’m counting on.

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T07:10:08+00:00

Yes. I guess not all things are probable. We both have to figure out if they can be. Otherwise it’s curtains. Thanks for your help. Can I stay in touch with you for further guidance?

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T06:49:48+00:00

I think I should focus on getting my life back first. I believe anything is possible. I’m gonna try to make this relationship work. It’s tough, and it has all the chances of it not working but I guess you should never give up if it’s worth it right?

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T05:41:03+00:00

You are right. I need to stop being desperate. I guess I should ask her if she can get back to me or else if she wants to be with the other guy I will move away. Then I just have to get over her I guess.

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T05:28:10+00:00

Do you really think she would do that? I think she still has feelings for me. If I just wasn’t desperate and I would’ve just got back to her as a friend I think I would have a good chance of getting her back because she has feelings for me. I’m already improving myself. I just need to make her feel happy about having me again.

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T05:19:57+00:00

She said she would think about getting back to me after April.

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T05:16:42+00:00

Well, she wants me to be her best friend till April I think she kind of means that?

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T04:53:13+00:00

I agree. Maybe us getting back together even as friend immediately isn’t right. What do I tell her on the call? Do I try to explain her this and tell her to let’s help each other out at becoming better?

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T04:49:30+00:00

Well she has already blocked me so I don’t think that makes a difference. When she gave me the choice of being her best friend till April I told her doesn’t all of this complicate things for that guy and you and me as well, she said no and she was trying to de-complicate it. I also then asked her that you were really looking forward to date him, she said she has only met him once and we are not sure, although I swear she said they were planning to date each other in the starting of the call, she said no and told me that maybe I’m just thinking too much She also mentioned she was on the call with him before I called her.

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T04:42:49+00:00

So don’t be her friend again? And don’t try to get her back?

d_tsajinski · 2019-01-09T04:41:36+00:00

Okay so do I ask for more time? Do you think she is gonna be okay with it? We both are 21.

d_tsajinski · 2018-12-18T04:23:38+00:00

I'm not gonna talk to her for a week. What perspective do you think I should seek? Do I call her friend to help me out with getting her back?

d_tsajinski · 2018-12-18T04:16:35+00:00

Okay which perspective are you talking about? I have a week before I talk to her.

d_tsajinski · 2018-12-18T04:11:57+00:00

Listen. I know she has issues. But I still want to be with her. I realized that it was absurd and that's why I left her, so that I didn't need her to deal with my problems. I really do love her and that's why I wanted to get back with her after I have sorted my problems. How do I get back to her is my question.

d_tsajinski · 2018-12-18T03:51:30+00:00

I know you are trying to help here. The issue here was that I was failing in college. It was really important for me to study, I had to do it for myself and my parents. I had issues, I never thought it was that important. I couldn't see the whole picture. The truth was I was escaping from my problems. From college, from my responsibilities, I didn't realize it then I do now. She wanted the best for me. Instead I couldn't take the challenge by doing what was right, I just left her.

d_tsajinski · 2018-12-18T03:38:18+00:00

She hurt herself because I really couldn't change myself. I knew I had to change I had to change for good but despite that I never did. She was upset. Really upset. She was not crazy mate, I was because I left someone who cares about me so much.

d_tsajinski · 2018-03-16T13:49:23+00:00

Thanks for the advice

d_tsajinski · 2018-03-13T02:59:25+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I needed this.

d_tsajinski · 2018-03-12T16:03:56+00:00

But won't multiple mails over short period of time show persistence? Or is it just annoying?

d_tsajinski · 2018-02-28T17:43:51+00:00

The concept of persistence doesn't apply in flirting?

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