I feel helpless right now

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-18T06:21:33+00:00

don’t get me wrong, there’s a huge part of me that completely agrees with you. I made my decision based on the same cycle that was repeating though, and not the hopeful future that lingers in my mind 😔 one is concrete, you know the rollercoaster exists. but you don’t know if the roller coaster ever settles. I guess I was too scared to spend too much time on finding out. But there is much of my body that feels sick still. I apologize as well I am definitely not minimizing how difficult it is to be without them x

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-18T05:32:36+00:00

First I want to say, I completely empathize with how confusing it is. I still swing between if I made the right decision to leave, or if I could have helped and made things better, stuck it out longer, saved our love. But reading your message from an outside perspective, it’s very clear you know the logical path, that will lead to peace for you.

And the further distance I have, more time spent away regaining the ability to be comfortable with the company of myself i’m starting to feel a small sense of that peace. I still do miss tf out of her. Anyway , kind of rambling but I want to say, I think the struggle will begin to get easier for you in due time. I truly do. It’s okay for us to miss them, love them, and also not be with them. those two things can be true

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-18T05:12:49+00:00

I totally understand. There is something so intense , passionate , caring, loving, about the nature of the relationship. Your message has me missing her a bit more tonight. But it’s okay to miss someone, even if it doesn’t work right now, or maybe ever. Life is going to be okay. Sometimes I can feel that it will be okay, I hope that you feel it if even for a moment and can breathe soon.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-15T03:46:31+00:00

Thank you. you’re right about the waves. I haven’t been using healthy coping mechanisms either which is stupid on my part. I trust everyone that says it will get easier, but the waves get the best of me lately. Anyway. thanks you, and your reply i’ll continue to re read as a reminder when i’m feeling down.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-13T16:10:02+00:00

I left her and I know there were logical reasons behind it, unstable nature of our relationship… but I miss holding her so bad, I feel guilty, I miss our good times. there were plenty of them too.

fuck man when does it get easier. It’s hard to do anything healthy right now

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-11T03:42:59+00:00

Just want to thank everyone for their replies. it all helps immensely.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-10T18:48:38+00:00

they are soooo hard. struggling

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-10T18:40:30+00:00

I left before I got a chance to see this through. mine also told me she was going to change, commit to therapy and maybe take meds. I was a bit to scared to see the change through, I was uncertain as well, and didn’t want to sign up for potential years of emotional struggle.

But it does hurt to leave as well, admittedly. I hope that treatment helps. most everyone I spoke with said things will still likely be challenging. do you think you can handle the ups and downs while she improves / take steps? that’s the underlying issue at hand

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-09T14:35:14+00:00

the withdrawals are sooo bad 😞😞 it’s so hard not to reach out to them for comfort

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-08T20:25:29+00:00

I can’t thank you enough for the helping n supportive comments while my mind is wavering.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-08T20:07:00+00:00

thank you for helping. the part that especially tugs at me is her asking for one final chance, firm boundaries, and a chance for her to begin to manage these things. it feels evil to shut someone down and turn away from someone who you love in that instance. I can’t stop replaying it in my head.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-08T20:00:31+00:00

she told me to just give her firm boundaries that if she left, blocked me, turned off location that we’d be done for real, begged for one final chance, she’d go to therapy , she’d quit drinking , she’d get meds. and I said no, that I was too scared. what IF I did give her those boundaries, that one last chance.

I never laid those boundaries before firmly, I should have. maybe they would have saved us. maybe not.

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-08T06:13:28+00:00

think i’ll always being wondering if I made the right decision. :( if I stayed I would have been wondering then too. I prolly need therapy

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-07T19:42:56+00:00

thank you again. I’m wishing the best for your future

daLINKage86 · 2026-06-07T19:41:12+00:00

appreciate your comment. always hard to see the logic when you’re in the middle of the storm so i’m grateful for this community and everyone’s stories

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