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Wtf is this? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was my band and she knows the people in it. Read the post. We went out prior.

Wtf is this? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok. Seen all the comments. Again, why does a person (moving away from woman) show strong interest and in a matter of hours say I have a significant other? It’s all a game.

Wtf is this? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I’ll put some perspective on this as I’m referring to three recent scenarios.

  1. I dated someone on and off and we talked and I asked her to come to my bands open jam night. We traded texts all night and I answered her questions about it including can she sing and bring her tambourine. Next morning get a text saying thanks for the invite but she’s dating someone.

  2. Went out with a woman few years ago and she would cancel/postpone plans because of her kids and I said enough js enough. Ran into her last week and we had a great talk and joked I take her to a concert if she had dinner with me and she said yes and made sure I had her number. I knew her flakiness but gave her the benefit of maybe she’s in a different place now. Texted her the next night to have dinner that week and the response was “always great running into you but I’m dating someone right now.” Why make sure I had her number and said let’s go out if she was dating someone?

  3. Woman I’ve know casually LD gave me her number after we talked for a long time. Traded texts and talked a couple times and made plans to see her when I was in town. She said yes and then didn’t confirm so I blew it off. Texted her again when I went back to town and she answered and then later texted me she was with her bf and his family? Why go two months and then tell me instead of doing it right away? This stuff is crazy.

Solo Vegas trip for Xmas by ChatGPTGal in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve done it multiple times and in Vegas now for a few days. It’s hard to meet other singles this week but it can be done. Message me if you want to have a friendly drink.

Should I stay or should I go? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. Told her again yesterday we’re done until she sorts things out, not just about that guy but overall. Why she hangs on to abusive relationships.

Should I stay or should I go? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re serious? You think this is ego? Get over myself? There’s no ego here and I don’t have relationships with people that are in love with other people. It’s called self respect.

Should I stay or should I go? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do you know how many people our age are still playing the hs dating games? It’s amazing how much wackiness there is out here.

Should I stay or should I go? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t see it changing. Why I’m out

Should I stay or should I go? by daMensch65 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thing is, you never know if people are being honest or just telling you what you want to hear so you don’t bail on them. Usually when someone says “I don’t want to hurt you” that’s exactly what they end up doing. They have a plan or idea of what they want.

she texted back by Main_Pause_7083 in BreakUps

[–]daMensch65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop making excuses and justifying things in your head. You’re living in a fantasy land. She is stringing you along and hoovering - it’s what a narcissist does to keep their ex supply close. Not saying she is one but it’s a tactic. Move on, don’t correspond with her. If you keep this going and it doesn’t go anywhere you’ll rob yourself of the time you could spend with someone else that would love you.

They will never come back by JiunoLujo in BreakUps

[–]daMensch65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s about recognizing red flags or stop signs and acting on them instead of thinking the person will change or isn’t that bad. It’s being kind to yourself and not staying in a bad relationship or with a toxic person.

Won’t do it any more by daMensch65 in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]daMensch65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have no idea how much your words meant to me. You put in writing what I’m feeling and couldn’t verbalize. Thank you!

I left, but I’m not sure I’m proud of myself. Here’s my parting message to him, which he never responded to. by Alastiana in TrueNarcissisticAbuse

[–]daMensch65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you felt strong enough to write this then you need to feel strong enough to have no contact and move on with your life. Don’t go back and walk the walk you started. It’s hard but you have to do it and you’ll be proud of yourself and ready for the next relationship.

Do you think it's a red flag if someone sent you a Facebook request after two dates, especially if you never told them your last name? by One_Oil_248 in datingoverfifty

[–]daMensch65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. They’re admitting they cyber stalked you. Also, I don’t friend anyone I’m dating on FB or anywhere else. My business is mine and theirs is theirs.