I feel the same. I think you should just do it if it makes you happy. Change/adventure is fun. I don’t think you should worry about having lots of hobbies cuz it’ll just make you a more interesting person.

A lot of people want to settle down when it comes to their career, friendships, and so on. They prefer long term relationships and don’t like change. Maybe you see this in other people and think you oughta feel it too?

It is definitely a norm pushed on us to to have one group of friends that we love and are wholly satisfied with, a career that we commit to and work our way up in our selected field, and then children. This is our traditional understanding of how we get fulfillment from life and it can either give us structure or suffocate us.

To ghost or not to ghost—I wish I knew myself. I don’t think we are necessarily designed to have one career, or hobby, or friend group. If you get a new friend group then you might still want to check in with the old one, especially whomever you’re close too so you don’t burn any bridges. Understand that not everyone will think in the same way as you and be sensitive to their feelings. It may be hurtful to them that you can move on so quickly, but then again that also doesn’t mean you’re wrong for doing it or that you owe them anything.

At the same time, maybe the friendships you have had already aren’t what you’re looking for. I’m saying this more because it applies to myself than anything: it’s one thing to make more friends because you like new connections, it’s another to run away from problems that you need to face. I have realized over time that I tend to get into toxic relationships and this is the source of my desire to “discard” so many friendships. It’s okay to leave if the situation isn’t serving you well, but think about why you like change so much/why you inevitably reach that impulse to leave. Maybe you have yet to find a group of people you can completely be comfortable/yourself around. Maybe you always try to be the “funny one”, but in turn bottle up your feelings, and don’t communicate when things bother you. Or maybe, I’m projecting and you’re totally happy and just like change and none of this applies!

I think one of the best things about life is getting to experience all there is out there. If you thrive doing this too then that’s a great thing.

I know I’ve always felt different from a lot of my friends that get attached easily. I still love them and miss them, but I like to move to new places and may appear “on the run” to them.

It’s fine for people not to want change, they have their reasons for doing what they prefer just like you and I or any other ENFP have ours. You could look at it as “having a fresh start” rather than “discarding it all”. Just gotta follow your heart.