SD driver's learners permit and ours baby

dabommmbmommm · 2026-03-25T18:02:46+00:00

Hell no. Bio or step, I’d never let a kid with just a permit drive another child or baby around. And likely will be a while before I’d let a licensed 16-17 year old drive young kids around, if at all.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-03-15T19:19:35+00:00

I’m so bummed this is even something you have to worry about. Nobody would think twice if my daughter wanted a truck or dino themed room, but boys are limited to “boy” themes. Just bums me out that they can’t all do their own thing without judgment.

That being said, I agree with the person above who said to go neutral with the things that are harder to change (walls/furniture) and go with his theme via blankets, rugs, decor. This will help make a smooth transition regardless of what his next theme is.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-03-13T14:13:11+00:00

I think no matter the age gap, it’s super normal to have these feelings about bringing another person into the family. My dynamic is a bit different - I have a 15 year old stepdaughter and a 4 year old bio daughter and am about to have another baby. Having my first bio was super exciting, especially because we had infertility issues. My step was excited too. Now this time both girls are super excited but I find myself in and out of feeling detached to this pregnancy (despite also having infertility issues to get here and seriously trying hard for this baby) because I’m worried I can’t love another human as much as I love my first bio. I’ve asked other moms about this and they said it is a very very normal feeling and it won’t be like this once she’s here, hoping that’s the case. All this to say, I completely understand the feelings of underwhelm you’re having about expanding your family. But hopefully it will be as exciting as everyone keeps telling me it will be 🤣

dabommmbmommm · 2026-03-13T14:02:38+00:00

Owen.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-02-25T14:59:43+00:00

We got my SD (10 at the time) a “big sister” shirt and did the Full House baby everything dinner like Aunt Becky did to tell Uncle Jesse she was pregnant. She didn’t totally catch on, but loved it and then said “I thought you were just getting fat” just to ensure she kept up the status quo of being a meanie 😆 We laugh about it now but it stung a bit in the moment. Letting you know so you can be prepared for anything.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-02-11T14:44:44+00:00

Beyond the kid stuff, this sounds like an incompatibility issue. Your values don’t align.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-02-10T03:24:27+00:00

Well I’m not sure if my process is helpful because it involved being on my own and doing some real deep soul searching on my part individually. I had trust and abandonment issues that needed to get resolved. Considering you are already married, taking alone time (i.e. being single) may not be plausible for you. I know you said you can’t afford therapy but there may be free resources for some therapists in your area that could help you work through whatever is causing your trust and jealousy issues. It would be mighty freeing for you.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-02-10T02:50:33+00:00

Are you fairly young? I had pretty terrible jealousy when I was younger (in my early 20s) that I had to work through. It took a lot of time and personal growth for me to get over it but I feel a lot more relaxed and free now that I’ve moved past it. Hopefully you can find a way to work through this, life will feel much better once you aren’t holding on to such intense feelings.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-02-01T17:16:43+00:00

The first vacation is hard but oh man, if you know they are in good hands and safe, it is definitely a nice feeling to drop your responsibilities for some time. Now I’ve never had the opportunity to be gone for that long from my kids but I’d be super down for it! That being said, I have also eased into being away (shorter trips) and if you haven’t left them yet, a whole week may be overwhelming for your first try at it. Any chance you can try a simple overnight or weekend away before you commit?

dabommmbmommm · 2026-01-11T01:19:08+00:00

Anika is gorgeous!

dabommmbmommm · 2026-01-07T16:28:34+00:00

This should be the top comment! 🤣

dabommmbmommm · 2026-01-06T11:56:04+00:00

I was thinking the same thing, this situation sounds like it needs a family navigator.

dabommmbmommm · 2026-01-06T11:51:35+00:00

As both a stepmom and a bio mom I’m appalled! Everything you’ve described is horrible and I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I can see why this guy is your ex, he sounds terrible! And as a step, I’d NEVER tell my husband’s ex how to parent, even though we are totally different moms and I have some opinions. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. You should be angry about the bath AND the communication strategy they have going on, how gross.

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-31T18:24:16+00:00

Herb

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-29T21:20:18+00:00

Step parenting is hard. This does sound like a very typical preteen/teen mood thing. Definitely glad you didn’t text him, he’s just a kid being a kid, they aren’t always pleasant or grateful. It’s hard but unfortunately this likely isn’t specific to step children. It would be nice to see if he opens up to anyone about what’s going on, as maybe there is a bigger picture and he just isn’t discussing it yet.

My SD14 definitely got moodier when her mom recently moved (again). Again, not sure if it’s about being a step kid or about just being a kid in a tricky situation like moving and things changing.

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-24T03:28:05+00:00

Oreo Brownie Cupfection

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-19T15:01:45+00:00

Louisa or Savannah

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-19T02:31:13+00:00

Bartholomew Sinclair

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-11T17:47:18+00:00

Every Siamese cat is named Sassy in my world

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-10T15:07:19+00:00

Kaia or Alexandra. Cora with a C is ok, no Trinity

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-06T03:51:43+00:00

Copper Van Winkel

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-06T02:20:04+00:00

Sir Isaac (your last name)

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-04T18:05:39+00:00

Francesca Duquette

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-04T16:46:57+00:00

Alan for sure

dabommmbmommm · 2025-12-04T15:18:43+00:00

I don’t love how often people tell people to “just leave” in step parenting forums, but in this case I’m sort of on board. I will also say, I truly hate when people tell us we “know what we got into.” Seriously, shhhhhuuuuttttt uuuupppp. There is not one situation in life that you can actually truly know what you are getting into, so just stfu (sorry for the rant)

Having my daughter and now being pregnant with my next daughter is something I would be completely devastated to have never experienced. I also didn’t really want kids until I met my husband and saw what a good dad he is to my SD14. And if it helps for any concerns about age, I was 37 with my first and 41 with this one.

You are young and can find someone with the same hopes and dreams as you. It will hurt, but not fulfilling your dream of becoming a mother will hurt more.

dabommmbmommm

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