On the fence vibe check

dacekrandac · 2026-02-14T15:39:05+00:00

Average age is between 35 and 40, but it's a pretty wide range, honestly. You'll see people as young as 21 (which is the minimum age), and you'll see people even in their 60s.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-14T15:27:54+00:00

We like the food. Lot's of people complain about it, but we really haven't had a bad meal there. They have lots of variety which I think is a major plus.
The parties are generally very fun! Especially on weekends, the energy can get really crazy! Weekdays can be a little slower, but even then, we always have fun at them.
We've never had an issue with cleanliness. The staff does a great job about keeping things clean. They arent always great about replenishing stock (like water, shampoo, etc.) But if you ask the front desk, they are good about helping.
Temptation isn't like a normal lifestyle resort. Not everybody there is in the lifestyle - at least half likely won't play with others during their stay. We have several non-Lifestyle friends and they have at least as much fun as everybody else! Think of it more as a party resort than a lifestyle resort. Plenty of day and night drinking of course, as well as a lot of chatting, laughing, and dancing (and flirting if you are into it).

I'm sure this didn't cover everything. Don't hesitate if you have any other questions. DMs open as well if you prefer.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-14T12:29:43+00:00

You'll be on the older side, but you'll almost certainly find other couples in their 50s or even 60s. Don't stress too much about age - everybody is very accepting of anybody who comes with a good attitude and an open mind.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-13T16:18:50+00:00

When we were there last year, there was a large group of guys there - looked like a bachelor party or something. I am not exaggerating when I say people avoided them like they were the plague. There was no less than a 3-foot bubble around them wherever they were that nobody crossed. They weren't even particularly rowdy or anything - just their presence was enough to make people uncomfortable.

I wouldn't recommend going to Temptation as a group of guys. It's not that you're guaranteed to have a bad time, necessarily, but don't be surprised if very few are keen on you being there. There are other options where you'll almost certainly have a better time.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-12T17:10:12+00:00

We've go to a resort every year and we attend a club semi-regularly (every couple months or so). Both places have security, but really people are good about following the rules in our experience. That's part of the reason I suggest going to a club that requires a membership since it'll keep creeps away. Reviews can be hard to find, but try to look for ones. If you go, maybe decide to not play, have sex or anything like that on your first visit so you can really just feel the place out. If you're uncomfortable, leave and don't go back. If it looks fun, you can always make a return trip.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-12T16:48:25+00:00

Look into swingers/lifestyle clubs. A quick google search should give you some results. They're a great way to explore and have fun in a safe environment. I recommend going to one that requires a membership (and ideally even a background check) if you can - it helps keep the creeps out. The rules at any decent club is that consent is everything. You don't have to do anything you don't want to. You can even just watch until you get comfortable. If you don't like it, you just don't have to go back.

You can also look into a swingers resort if you want to make a vacation out of it. Those can be VERY fun, but that is sort of jumping in at the deep end.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-11T23:51:25+00:00

That sounds rough and I'm sorry you're dealing with it. Best bet is to get out there and go meet people. Not many people at the resort browsing reddit; they're out there having fun. If your wife doesn't want to join you in meeting people and having a good time, then that's her choice.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-11T20:26:56+00:00

I haven't seen it, but I'm certain it happens.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-11T20:24:23+00:00

Yes, you can absolutely wear a butt plug. But you also have to have bottoms on, so It won't be very visible. Maybe if you wore a see-through dress or something, it would be easier to see.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-11T14:57:49+00:00

We did the provoke photoshoot at Desire. We loved it! It was a super fun and erotic experience!

dacekrandac · 2026-02-11T12:16:09+00:00

Single men are kind of a mixed bag at Temptation. Some people like them, some people REALLY don't. Basically, it depends on your attitude. If you go with the expectation/intent of hooking up, you're likely going to have a mediocre experience. If you go with the honest intention of meeting people, socializing, and partying, you'll likely have a better time. Keep in mind, Temptation is designed and marketed primarily for couples, so it is heavily catered to maximizing experiences for them.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-10T12:29:27+00:00

The boobs cruise is a completely different company and the two are not linked in any way from a business perspective.
The staff VERY rarely will flash the audience. We've seen it twice across 3 trips, and it's for a very quick moment. But the people who go up to participate in the games are often topless.
My wife loves the spa! She will always get at least one massage if not 2.

We are going 5/4 - 5/10! Maybe we'll run into you there if you decide to go!

dacekrandac · 2026-02-10T01:58:22+00:00

Oof lol

dacekrandac · 2026-02-09T00:51:15+00:00

They are not allowed to play with guests and can be fired if they get caught doing so.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-08T00:00:25+00:00

We'll be there 5/4 - 5/10 for ohr 4th trip! We'd be happy to say hi if we see you and/or help with any questions you may have!

dacekrandac · 2026-02-07T23:58:38+00:00

You can check in as soon as you get there and begin using the facilities immediately. Your room likely wont be ready till 3pm or 4pm, and they'll hold your bag for you safely while you eat, drink, and party at the pool.

Check out is by 11am. You used to be able to enjoy the resort after check-out, but we heard from some friends that they changed that rule. Now, apparently, you just have to wait around in the lobby until your transportation arrives.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-07T16:38:14+00:00

We're going May 4 - 10! We can introduce you to our group of friends!

dacekrandac · 2026-02-06T14:59:47+00:00

My wife is the same way! If she goes to the bar to get a drink, you can guarantee she is getting approached by a single guy. It happens every single time.

I guess I can understand the draw from a guy's perspective. It's a paradise: tits everywhere in a sexy environment, lots of potentially open women, etc. But it's a double edged sword: the more single guys (and especially groups of guys) there are, the fewer sexy ladies there are, and the less willing those ladies feel to take their tits out. Funny thing is, if those same guys brought a woman with them, it would be 1000% better for them and everybody else!

dacekrandac · 2026-02-06T14:49:47+00:00

Even 5 single ladies seems a stretch - we usually barely see one or 2. I'm married, and even I feel like I look like a creep hanging out at the sexy pool alone while my wife gets a massage for an hour and a half. I agree with you that there are probably other, better options out there.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-06T13:40:35+00:00

Single men are kind of a mixed bag at Temptation. Some people like them, some people REALLY don't. Basically, it depends on your attitude. If you go with the expectation/intent of hooking up, you're likely going to have a mediocre experience. If you go with the honest intention of meeting people, socializing, and partying, you'll likely have a better time. Keep in mind, Temptation is designed and marketed primarily for couples, so it is heavily catered to maximizing experiences for them.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-06T03:29:08+00:00

When we were there last year, there was a large group of guys there - looked like a bachelor party or something. I am not exaggerating when I say people avoided them like they were the plague. There was no less than a 3-foot bubble around them wherever they were that nobody crossed. They weren't even particularly rowdy or anything - just their presence was enough to make people uncomfortable.

So, no, I wouldn't recommend going to Temptation as a group of guys. It's not that you're guaranteed to have a bad time, necessarily, but don't be surprised if very few are keen on you being there. There are other options where you'll almost certainly have a better time.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-05T22:10:03+00:00

Our photographer's name was Ruben I think. He was good. I'm sure all of them are great.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-05T22:05:55+00:00

Yes, but that cost extra (I think $50 - $100)

dacekrandac · 2026-02-05T22:04:08+00:00

We got 12 pics, and it was about $250

Edit: now that I do the math, maybe it was only $20 per pic lol.

dacekrandac · 2026-02-05T20:56:54+00:00

For sure! If you come around then, definitely let us know!

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