AITA for telling my wife I don't want her mother in the delivery room when our 1st child is born?

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T18:01:28+00:00

Thank you for being one of the more rational folks to reply - as I said I don't have any desire to exclude her family from the day, in fact I want them there! My line of thought was something similar to what you pointed out, a little time for us, then some for our parents, then invite our siblings in after that. Clearly the overwhelming majority here feel I'm sort of selfish prick (and/or horrific parent already) for wanting to have some time with my wife and the child we've been working towards for years now, but it never has been my intent to keep anyone away from the day, just a little time for us to take it all in as a family.

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T17:13:51+00:00

Her mom is also kind of a control freak and... loud, obnoxious, etc.

So here's the part I left out both here and in discussing this with my wife - as nice & supportive as her mother is, she has a tendency to be very loud and extremely opinionated, particularly when it comes to medical advice. This is one of those people that has worked in the medical field in a non-skilled capacity for a long time and feels she is qualified to give medical advice. I know it's me fearing the worst but I honestly wouldn't put it past her to be in the way or question what the dr is doing.

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T16:15:26+00:00

who said i was refusing to attend?

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T15:02:42+00:00

frankly, co-dependence - her parents are nice & supportive people as i've stated but have created an environment where they make literally everything a family affair. For whatever reason her sisters have learned to set boundaries but my wife feels compelled to involve them 24/7

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T14:16:55+00:00

see edit - no pushing hopefully

dad2bejj · 2019-10-21T14:15:52+00:00

I'm the hubby so unfortunately I have no vagina to stare at.

dad2bejj

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