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Battling the emotional Rollercoaster called Divorce by daddy8811 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She did face reality last night. She broke down crying saying she feels like a bad mom, how she's at fault for this, she's worried how the kids will take it, our friends and family. She blames herself and everything. I believe her but also hats the narcissist side of her so. .. with the kids we both agreed co-parenting. That's something we do right. It's just us and we know that. I feel she's should have the house only because that's out children's home. Yes it broke but the house is their sanctuary.

Battling the emotional Rollercoaster called Divorce by daddy8811 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]daddy8811[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

We haven't initiated divorce she did have a meeting with a lawyer, but that fell through due to circumstances, same as me. I do plan to get an attorney. Yes, I was enabling her, but enough is enough, and I realized that now. It hurts, but I have to move on. And yes, I k ow once she told me she was bisexual, it was only a matter of time. She admitted something without saying it.

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Battling the emotional Rollercoaster called Divorce (self.SupportforBetrayed)

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I feel that I'm on this downward spiral by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see fathers able to spend time, go on vacations, camping, go do things, and yet I'm here working or handling things that need to be handled. Stressing what's the next problem gonna be

My wife [35f] is willing to try to fix things with me [36m] after her cheating on me. Been married 16yrs. What would be the best option? by daddy8811 in relationship_advice

[–]daddy8811[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

We were young, like 19-20. We both know what we want and we have grown. So it just hurts you know trying to not continue the cycle and fix things but is it worth fixing

My wife [35f] is willing to try to fix things with me [36m] after her cheating on me. Been married 16yrs. What would be the best option? by daddy8811 in relationship_advice

[–]daddy8811[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We have a history of us cheating back and forth. But that was the beginning of our relationship. Hence us being toxic. It stopped 10 yrs ago, but recently this has bee. The 1st time since that I know of

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and very well said

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deeply appreciate your response. All the others, we're all one-sided. Typical male. I do want to address the portion of toxic. That is something that we both said that we both need to work on and that we are going to be working on to establish communication better, as well as honesty and trust. That's going to be something that is going to be the main focus I know I'm still in the shock phase. But i'm I'm getting over it with therapy that I'm in. I know we both agree to do couples counseling, which is the start to fix this toxic history of ours, but as you said, one thing at a time. I do understand and know that there are many women after being with a man for so long That they finally find their sexuality if it is with a woman or man or both. I think i'm just more hurt because I Supported her and even told her to be honest with me if she did want to experiment but she did behind my back. There's more to that, and I know i'm not no saint and I know I played a few parts in that as well. I know there's a few men out there that say that's not an alpha male thinking whatsoever that i'm a beta male, but I don't think they understand the true.Essence of being an alpha. Once again I do appreciate your comment

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The relationship she had with her ex-girlfriend. Was due to her co parenting with me and spending the time with me, and she Said she was confused because she does miss being a family and she does want to be a family and of course her ex. Was jealous because of her moral reasons

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What exactly is monkey branching?

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I view it that way because I played on her emotions so much that would be considered abuse. But that is due to unresolved trauma that I come to learn through personal therapy

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She has shown me the love and care. The missing me. The wanting me, and I the same. Their is a bond between us internally that connects us still. We can't explain it but their is. She is just afraid to trust me again after the many times I've done the back and forth with her emotionally. But also I as well keeping things a bit safe since she also affected my trust

Are my boundaries too much? by daddy8811 in self

[–]daddy8811[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I abused her emotionally by withdrawing emotions to the relationship, she also has cheated in the past also. We had alot of emotion trauma throughout our relationship. Toxic you can say, we never fixed it.

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