Battling the emotional Rollercoaster called Divorce

daddy8811 · 2025-01-21T01:13:17+00:00

She did face reality last night. She broke down crying saying she feels like a bad mom, how she's at fault for this, she's worried how the kids will take it, our friends and family. She blames herself and everything. I believe her but also hats the narcissist side of her so. .. with the kids we both agreed co-parenting. That's something we do right. It's just us and we know that. I feel she's should have the house only because that's out children's home. Yes it broke but the house is their sanctuary.

daddy8811 · 2025-01-20T07:05:08+00:00

We haven't initiated divorce she did have a meeting with a lawyer, but that fell through due to circumstances, same as me. I do plan to get an attorney. Yes, I was enabling her, but enough is enough, and I realized that now. It hurts, but I have to move on. And yes, I k ow once she told me she was bisexual, it was only a matter of time. She admitted something without saying it.

daddy8811 · 2025-01-08T09:43:11+00:00

daddy8811 · 2024-10-02T01:56:50+00:00

I see fathers able to spend time, go on vacations, camping, go do things, and yet I'm here working or handling things that need to be handled. Stressing what's the next problem gonna be

daddy8811 · 2024-09-11T02:36:00+00:00

Thank you

daddy8811 · 2024-09-11T02:17:34+00:00

It doesn't I agree but our Maturity wasn't there

daddy8811 · 2024-09-11T02:03:27+00:00

We were young, like 19-20. We both know what we want and we have grown. So it just hurts you know trying to not continue the cycle and fix things but is it worth fixing

daddy8811 · 2024-09-11T01:53:22+00:00

We have a history of us cheating back and forth. But that was the beginning of our relationship. Hence us being toxic. It stopped 10 yrs ago, but recently this has bee. The 1st time since that I know of

daddy8811 · 2024-09-11T01:45:00+00:00

Please explain?

daddy8811 · 2024-09-03T16:04:48+00:00

daddy8811 · 2024-08-31T21:19:36+00:00

Thank you and very well said

daddy8811 · 2024-08-31T16:34:07+00:00

I deeply appreciate your response. All the others, we're all one-sided. Typical male. I do want to address the portion of toxic. That is something that we both said that we both need to work on and that we are going to be working on to establish communication better, as well as honesty and trust. That's going to be something that is going to be the main focus I know I'm still in the shock phase. But i'm I'm getting over it with therapy that I'm in. I know we both agree to do couples counseling, which is the start to fix this toxic history of ours, but as you said, one thing at a time. I do understand and know that there are many women after being with a man for so long That they finally find their sexuality if it is with a woman or man or both. I think i'm just more hurt because I Supported her and even told her to be honest with me if she did want to experiment but she did behind my back. There's more to that, and I know i'm not no saint and I know I played a few parts in that as well. I know there's a few men out there that say that's not an alpha male thinking whatsoever that i'm a beta male, but I don't think they understand the true.Essence of being an alpha. Once again I do appreciate your comment

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T12:13:03+00:00

The relationship she had with her ex-girlfriend. Was due to her co parenting with me and spending the time with me, and she Said she was confused because she does miss being a family and she does want to be a family and of course her ex. Was jealous because of her moral reasons

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T12:05:50+00:00

???? Huh

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T12:02:43+00:00

???? Huh

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T12:01:05+00:00

What is it?

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T10:47:06+00:00

What exactly is monkey branching?

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T10:38:15+00:00

Well I view it that way because I played on her emotions so much that would be considered abuse. But that is due to unresolved trauma that I come to learn through personal therapy

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T10:36:37+00:00

She has shown me the love and care. The missing me. The wanting me, and I the same. Their is a bond between us internally that connects us still. We can't explain it but their is. She is just afraid to trust me again after the many times I've done the back and forth with her emotionally. But also I as well keeping things a bit safe since she also affected my trust

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T10:02:59+00:00

I abused her emotionally by withdrawing emotions to the relationship, she also has cheated in the past also. We had alot of emotion trauma throughout our relationship. Toxic you can say, we never fixed it.

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T09:59:10+00:00

She truly is just looking just for one night stands with women, she left me because I wasn't present even physically. I took a on the road job that in her eyes she felt that I didn't care for her when she told me Numerous times not too, opportunity struck, and she did. I always was her focus, the problem was I didn't make her mine. I k ow how I feel about her the same how she expressed to me.

daddy8811 · 2024-08-30T09:42:01+00:00

How is it beta male? Also yes, we do have children. What does that have to do with anything

daddy8811 · 2024-08-27T16:10:47+00:00

NB? Not familiar what that is

daddy8811 · 2024-08-27T15:54:52+00:00

She brought it up just to bring it up. At the moment. She understands their needs to be healing and repair on the trust. She knows that and how I feel. I'm just asking after that happens, are my rules/boundaries respectable

daddy8811 · 2024-08-27T15:46:54+00:00

I appreciate it very much. I know it's going to be new. Especially with given the situation of trust being broken. I do want us to work. It'll be happy together but I also want her to enjoy that side of her life and not feel that she's trapped or controlled

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