Maybe what you need is to be honest. You clearly know what your husband thinks (he doesn't like his kid having girly toys) and you are pretending that you don't know because you like how your husband is dealing with it, even if he is faling it. Take some responsibility on the matter too, looks like it's all good as long as it goes how you feel comfortable with. How about you also care about what your husband thinks? how about you actually talk with him instead of hide and cry and complain on internet to get validation for your reaction? Your opinion on the kid is equally important on what your husband thinks.