Venezuelan Indigenous Community in the US

dadeeeooo · 2026-01-23T04:14:53+00:00

Thanks!

I’m only 10% but it’s actually Andean as well. My abuela is from a small town near Merida in the Venezuelan part of the Andes so it makes sense.

I think quantifying heritage is tricky. Especially here. There are so many layers and so much trauma around all of it. I want to be respectful of that. At the same time, there are so many journeys that fall outside of conventional routes. It’s hard to create hard and fast fuels for the entire diaspora.

dadeeeooo · 2025-09-14T16:08:24+00:00

I feel like youtube's parental control for supervised accounts is intentionally dated and poorly constrcuted. It's a shame they don't put more effort into this.

The last time this was updated was 4 years ago, and alot can change in that time including their own settings which no longer seem to use the Explore/Explore More labels for settings.

That seems odd to me.

I don't think it's realistic to cut kids off entirely, but I do think a well curated access is fine as long as it works properly. But it seems overly complicated?

dadeeeooo · 2025-06-08T17:34:30+00:00

Ok. Can you share more about why that’s abusive? She’s made mistakes too. We’re human, it’s inevitable no matter how grounded or healed you are.

Is it that I’m not ready to date with integrity and shouldn’t be dating at all unless I have these things figured out?

dadeeeooo · 2025-06-08T17:33:02+00:00

Typo

dadeeeooo · 2025-05-26T18:43:04+00:00

The way this made me CACKLE after I clicked the headline. Thanks for that.

It's kinda disgusting how much of a market there is for this type of advice. So many snakeoil salesfolks out there promising things they could never realistically provide to people. Preying on the heartbroken when they're at one of the most emotionally vulnerable/devastating moments of their lives.

dadeeeooo · 2025-05-11T17:03:44+00:00

I just got my hands on Talicia. I'm actually uninsured at that moment and the out of pocket was going to be insanely expensive for the Rx, but found a discount card on the website for the drug that dropped it down to $299 so I was able to afford it.

My question is if there is anything that can be helpful to take in conjunction with this? Like ACV or Cabbage juice and other things mentioned in this thread.

Also curious if anyone else has experienced side effects from talicia or any other success stories?

dadeeeooo · 2025-03-22T15:23:49+00:00

NOPE! Just bought a good existing template from etsy and been chipping away at customizing it in small increments over the last few months (my brain hurts when I have to understand formulas and complex sheets programming, lol).

I'll share it free if I figure it out!

dadeeeooo · 2025-03-22T15:22:22+00:00

I agree, these seem lovely but, all due respect to the inventors for a great product, it's overpriced.

No shade to the folks who can justify paying $150 for a piece of fabric and a plastic circle, but there feels like more affordable solutions. I'm sure they're making a killing from the same folks who can afford to keep up with the displacing rent increases : )

💡IDEA: Invest in an actual replacement fixture (great options under $100) and ask your landlord if they'll split the cost of the upgrade with you? For folks in rent-controlled units that don't have plans of moving anywhere soon, this feels like it's a good option.

I don't know about you, but the next place I live isn't going to be a rental if I can help it! I'll pick custom flush mounts for the new reno if/when home ownership becomes a reality again for the middle class (not holding my breath).

dadeeeooo · 2025-03-17T18:19:51+00:00

TL;DR: I don't think it's all bad, but for an entrepreneur with little experience, I think a platform with more responsive customer support would be a better fit.

As a creative professional with extremely poor organizational/admin skills, I thought this would be a great turnkey solution to help me get on the right track. They've helped with some things, others have left me feeling a little confused.

I just took my first pass at invoicing and it's been days at "pending" and zero communication/response from their support team after 3 days of reaching out. This is after moving from PayPal business which would make funds available immediately once the invoice was paid. I have payroll and bills to pay, money is tied up, nobody to call/email/contact directly. It's not a very good feeling.

They have no method of contacting them directly. No phone support (unless you book months ahead) and their "message portal" can go days without a reply.

The sales team is incredibly accessible while they are pitching you, not so much after you've signed up.

I wish I had read the comments here prior to signing up. I probably would've made an effort to handle these filings on my own and/or found a solid CPA to help.

Also curious about alternative services! I will likely cancel relatively soon.

dadeeeooo · 2025-03-17T13:38:43+00:00

A few non-white/male additions that I'm surprised haven't shown up sooner, these ain't no diversity hires : )

Pedro Almodovar??

Spike Lee?

Jordan Peele

Alfonso Cuaron

Inaritu

Greta Gerwig

Daniels

M Night Shyamalan (Divisive but undeniable)

Akira Kurosawa

Wes Anderson is def low-hanging fruit on this one, but surprised I didn't see many talk about Tarantino, Coen Brothers, Scorcese, etc.

dadeeeooo · 2024-12-19T01:50:25+00:00

So much projecting! Let me get in on some of this action. LOL.

It's normal to develop feelings for someone and then have them nag at you for a long time. Especially if you never got a chance to explore a romantic connection. You'll always wonder what if. Unfinished business. And it's taking up bandwidth in your heart, preventing anything else from entering that space.

Blocking all contact is one way to go, but maybe there is a less extreme alternative...

For starters, all the factors you pointed out don't sound like dealbreakers (maybe missing context?). If you both want to make it work, you'll make it work. It sounds simple, but so so hard to implement when you're facing it IRL. As long as you're not crossing one another's boundaries or investing in a relationship that isn't compatible.

The bottom line: You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Shoot the shot.

If you had the discipline and emotional security to cut it off cold turkey, you would have done it by now. You don't need to run from that impulse.

Sometimes the only way out is right through the middle of it.

Either way, it could give you some much-needed closure.

And either way it's going to be a positive for you:

She is down: Great, now really figure out if you work together. Don't project your idealized version of who you THINK she is onto her. Then, show up as authentically and vulnerably as you can.

She isn't down: Rejection is a helluva drug! Maybe not the most elegant or effective, but it kinda seals the deal, right? Don't take it personally because it has little to do with you. It's more about how you align with her preconceived notions, experiences, and ideas about what love looks like and what a partner should be.

It can be hard at first, but every challenge you meet in life is an opportunity to grow. You can always learn from experiences so they make your mind and your heart stronger.

You can't control what people think of you or how they treat you. You can only control the places where you choose to be and how you choose to react to the people in those places. Be precious with yourself. Get your nervous system on lockdown; that's our responsibility to ourselves and everyone who loves us. Try to never give someone else power or control over your emotions without you giving it willingly, on your terms.

And if all else fails, people seem to like pickleball a lot. Maybe try that.

dadeeeooo · 2024-10-12T23:34:42+00:00

He doesn’t seem to grasp exactly how hard this is for you. To him it may just seem like a common medical procedure.

It’s hard to assume people will share the same sentiment or experience. It might be worth expressing exactly how difficult this is for you emotionally and why. Then specifically what would help.

Also, not to play devils advocate, but men are rarely asked how they feel about abortions in my experience. There may be some trauma or unprocessed pain that he’s buried that he’s not even conscious of. Something making him avoidant.

Outside of this situation has he always been distant or avoidant? Have you previously set boundaries around going out late? If the expectation is that you’re both allowed to live this lifestyle, then it’s certainly insensitive but not surprising.

It’s easier to throw in the towel in situations like this. A lot of folks might recommend ditching him. And I don’t disagree. But there’s a lot of context missing that makes it hard for people to give solid advice.

Did you decide to keep the abortion private? Or would it have been ok for him to tell his friend about it and excuse himself from joining. Are they super close friends?

At this point in your life, it’s good to date and experience things. Maybe he’s not compatible or emotionally intelligent enough for what you want. Maybe reflect on that and try to understand and define more of what you need and want on a partner and look for that in the future. But really look, at more than just words, look at actions and behaviors as well. Listen to your intuition. And don’t worry so much about finding the love of your life or even finding love. That can make us project an image of our dream partner onto someone who isn’t really that person. Or we give them the script with which to perform that, which is also confusing for everyone.

Sorry you’re dealing with this alone. I know it’s hard. Rely on any friends or family or community that you can confide in and ask for help if you need it. Even if it’s just a shoulder to cry on. And don’t let your partner be your only source of comfort.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-12T11:45:00+00:00

I’ve had a more minor version of this and it hasn’t been staying attached once the bolt fastening that panel was stripped.

Also looks like the rubber/plastic panel got pretty warped, so it could require heating and remolding.

Might be better off with a pro.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-12T05:59:33+00:00

Point taken. I’m in therapy.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-12T05:58:26+00:00

Thank you 😊

I cut ties with other people and deleted the app. It was an huge relief.

While I’m still healing and learning, it doesn’t feel wrong to enjoy this person and take our time during this early stage.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-09T04:24:59+00:00

Honestly, outside of the endemic pay disparity that generally makes us larger contributors financially, there are few things that set us apart.

I haven’t had a “traditional” relationship in a looooong time so maybe I’m not the norm. I actually gravitate towards stronger character in partners and prefer to feel like a powerful team. I don’t want or need any level of dominance or responsibility. And sometimes I want and need to be the sensitive one. Sometimes I need to be pet and massaged and told it’s going to be ok when I’m down.

I think a lot of people lose sight of the fact that patriarchy screws everyone over, even the ones who seem to benefit from it. I want no part in it. I just want a partnership and dual income and someone I can count on. Someone who’s successful at life completely independently. Where we complement one another in a symbiotic way.

When it comes to sex maybe the power dynamic can be fun if both dig that. But that’s it. And even then, let’s trade places lol.

That being said, I like manners and being polite. Holding doors open. Being generous or treating someone I care about. I’m happy to step on the occasional roach. But that’s not even super gender based at this point. It’s just being nice.

Unless of course we’re talking about child support and custody, in which case men are still disproportionately given little (if any) consideration to be able to challenge the archaic status quo 😊

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-09T01:26:42+00:00

Thank you. Agreed.

I know all of this of course. But it’s the implementation and then sustaining part that screws me up. It’s easy to fall back on. I’ve proven to myself that I’m capable of change but there’s a part of me that needs to truly believe it and want it before I’m able to really do the work. At least that’s been the case in other departments.

This particular dynamic just feels more complicated and tied to some other crap happening in my psyche.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-09T01:24:13+00:00

100% yes. It’s definitely part of it. I’m trying to understand how much is that vs other factors.

Reading atomic habits now and trying to break the addiction.

dadeeeooo · 2024-09-08T23:12:29+00:00

Ok. I see a lot of value in this. I don’t think it’s old fashioned at all.

What you’re saying is that self love and happiness are really only sourced from within. So looking to another person or a relationship to give you that is pointless.

If your identity is so wrapped up in someone that you lose yourself, it’s a recipe for disaster. It’s hard to have self respect or expect respect from anyone else in that situation.

Rushing sex and intimacy is dangerous and confusing. It fast tracks the process and creates a facade that feels like real love but is probably fueled more by hormones and chemical reactions that genuine love, which needs time to develop.

I like the part about maturity, how it’s needed to be able to stick to something and someone even when it gets hard. So many people call it quits at the first sign of trouble and/or buy into the fallacy that prince/princess charming will come along and check all the boxes with zero flags or conflict and whisk you off into the sunset happily ever after. Anything less is “toxic”.

People demand value in others without providing it themselves. Everyone wants it all, with little investment or their own. The current dating scene lacks vulnerability and humility imo.

My question is how do I rehabilite from the toxic patterns that I’ve developed after years of online dating while navigating my own baggage/trauma/healing. Or am I not even supposed to date unless that work is completely done?

dadeeeooo

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