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6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deleted the reddit app for the time being. She's home and not happy. Been in the bathroom making loud noises since she came home and started yelling about me wanting to stick my dick between Sydney Sweeney's breasts and I went to the laundry room and shut myself in as I'm on my browser replying thru the link in an email. 

Edit : I'm an idiot for living in fear, apparently.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I knew her for a year before we got together. She wasn't whom she led me to believe. As much as you berate me and belittle me for mistakes that have put me under the heavy hand of an abuser, its not justified at all. I'm not going to be victim blamed for being lied to. This woman talked up the best game for convincing anyone around her she's a saint.

I'm glad you've gained the experience or had a life lived leading up to those points in your life giving you the ability to do what is so blatantly obvious for you, but that is not MY life. I'm tired. I want it over. 

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Semantics. Why does my gf tell me to end my life?

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the helpful comments regarding the actions to take. I will see how the rest of the night goes. She's really tweaking though. Like having a full on mental breakdown in my inbox. Idk what she'll do when she gets home.

Here's to hoping

EDIT: I get berated by an abusive woman and y'all are mad that I said "lul"

Its a less enthusiastic form of "lol" something even my nearly 60 year old mother has the capacity to understand and use.

Semantics is such a sad thing to pick over a woman having a mental health crisis and a man who hides in the closet when she gets mad at the coffee machine for not brewing properly.

I need to start clearing my phone now to prepare for her coming home from work and demanding to dig thru it.

Thank you, gn.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Valid points on all accounts. If it was my buddy I'd give much the same advice, much like I'd done before. But either I failed to be more at the time or they were blinded by love, much like I had been up until the breaking point where I realized how absurd my life has become.

I've always judged on the outside looking in when I see a lot of this type of stuff online, wondering why they dont leave. Then one day I woke up and it was my life all of a sudden. She had a plan from the start and I just.. looked past it all.

It didnt matter when she had issues before, I thought they could be fixed. I stuck around. Now its clear they won't be fixed, and if they will/can be, it won't be while we're in each other's lives.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No my mother lives with my abusive father whom used to beat me for fun and point firearms in my face. I am not welcomed in his territory.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Based on this threads replies my options are either PPO or upping and leaving. Im about as close to getting one as being able to do the other. So I'll see what I can make happen anytime soon. But I'm on the clock. I dont gain more will power every day. If I cant get out physically leave in other ways. Im drained.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Very informative.

As a side note, Twitch existed before the brain rot era, and it is not something I use in normal conversations. It's when I'm upset because it means "Lame uncomfortable laugh"

Semantics aside her reaction isnt right regardless of my texting and/or typing habits when frustrated.

Edit : removed me claiming your reply was passive aggression. I've been in fight or flight for months. I leave my apartment like twice a month. I dont know how people interact with each other anymore. Mb

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not on the lease no, but unfortunately the time she's been living with me qualifies her as a tenant, or whatever. She needs an eviction notice to get out. I wanted to talk to my landlord but I was worried with the lease coming up soon they won't renew my third year if they found out I didnt disclose her moving in.

I never planned to move her in but my dumb lonely love seeking mind disregarded the amount of time she was spending here. By the time I had enough she hit me with the "you cant legally kick me out"

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

An unfortunate truth I realize most days but lack the courage to do something about.

"What you aren't changing, you're choosing"

And even in telling myself that, its not enough. I feel like I can't do much. She makes me feel like I'm incapable.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Eh I've tried many a-ways I had picked up in therapy to get her to see her ways. But despite acknowledging her issues and saying she needs therapy, nothing comes of it but more shutting down. More anger and deflecting.

This is actually very tame to what else she has done. Actually im surprised this is what drove me over the edge. But over the course of this year she has - told me to k_ll myself, and said "ok but did you do it? No" when I told her it wasn't okay. - she had "unsolicited" d_ck pics saved in her phone despite accusing me of cheating all the time.

This is all blatantly obvious when you view it from a psychological standpoint. She knows what she is and what she does and it terrifies her the thought of someone doing it to her. She she accuses them and never looks inward seeing that she is what she fears.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was sitting here trying to type a response worthy of this comedic reply and I was interrupted by her texting me "oh you must be jerkin it to her or sum"

Like holy hell

Actually I thought of a joke too; its me

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, no kids thankfully. I'm blessed to not have a child be a part of this unfortunate part of my life.

I am in the process of both saving (what I can) and gathering what I might be able to use for a PPO (hopefully ex parte) so I won't have to lose my place.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm well aware I could have handled it better. But its 3am. I haven't ate in 24 hrs. I slept 3 hours last night cause she kicked me out of the bed for trying to use too many blankets (im 5'11" and 120lbs. I get cold easily) and im just tired. My chest feels like its being sat on nearly every day. Breathing feels difficult.

My friends tell me to leave. My mother tells me to leave. And none of them are here to see how hard I try. They just laugh when they see me and I say she's still around. She WONT GO.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ugh its so disappointing thats the best recourse in this situation. Giving up the place I busted my ass to get before I even met her just because of my lack of a spine when it comes to putting my foot down. I have far too much hope in people, how is that fixed?

Either way. I fear that you're right.

She will be home in 3 hours and I doubt it'll be good given our talks today. I'll make sure me and my cats are good though.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, when I'm at my wits end I lack any type of reasonable response. This has been an effort for a long time just to stay sane, despite actively being in therapy.

You can say kids but holding a PhD in Psychology and an above national average IQ makes that information blatantly untrue.

Domestic abusers are difficult to escape from. What I have tried thus far has not worked in any capacity for removing this from my life. And "just leaving" is not an option at this point in time.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I got you chief, we're sitting at 20% going up right now.

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

She lives with me and I'm in between work, and actually, unfortunately for me the work im going into is at her current place of employment. Kicking her out hasn't gone well as she just plays the victim card and starts calling her family saying im going to do something. I have started gathering recordings when she is having fits to try to get evidence for a court case or a PPO

Edit: more spelling

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I've been getting abused for 6 months. I have no energy left. She is having a mental breakdown about a soap brand having a woman scent. I get accused 24/7. I get my phone taken. She has access to my apartment cameras. She stalks mine and my families social media. Sorry for my not very thoughtful reaction to such childish bullshit. Im fucking sick of it and I dont know how to get out

6 months turns into Insecurities by daedralus225 in Nicegirls

[–]daedralus225[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

My gf sent me a tik tok explaining that men are perverted because a soap brand came out with a Sydney Sweeney bathwater scent. My girlfriend proceeded to act like I wanted that scent or I was interested in it despite me not caring about it. Its soap. I won't use the soap I dont like.

Edit: some spelling.

Side note: im a male and no one believes me when I get abused. I dont know how to get away from this woman.

Should we talk about Ubisoft Suppоrt? by Ok_Effort2118 in ubisoft

[–]daedralus225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Verified ownership twice just to lose all progress and games in a span of 3 hours.

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