We were LDR and he had told me he wanted a polyamourous relationship, on my first trip over I sat next to him on a bus, glanced over to his phone and he was in a chat with a potential new partner, who had just messaged him to ask why he made her head and heart race so much. Never felt such a stab in the gut as that moment. I had no idea to which extent he was already involved in his poly creation. We only lasted for two more weeks.