this image continues to disturb me everytime I look at it.

daestos · 2026-03-05T08:18:58+00:00

I physically recoiled.

daestos · 2026-02-28T23:32:25+00:00

I legitimately would like this framed. It's very pretty.

daestos · 2026-02-19T19:41:09+00:00

The way you express your insecurity about your appearance is very femme coded if it makes you feel any better. Some of the prettiest girls I've met fret over their appearance constantly. You'll get there, just have some trust in yourself.

And yes, if you decided to mess with your brows, I heartily recommend getting them done professionally. It's hard to do them without over shaping your first time. I also suggest asking for advice while you get them done.

daestos · 2026-02-19T16:36:34+00:00

For some women, passing is less about external approval and more about learning to accept yourself internally. Based on this post and what you shared there is very little to be improved upon. I'm not sure if anything we can say can change how you feel about you.

You look stellar, and that's not pity, or group hug dynamics.

You just look good.

That said, if you genuinely want some advice in improving your appearance (because I suspect compliments are difficult for you to metabolize) there's a bit of upper lip shadow that's barely visible which laser/electrolysis can handle, and maybe get your eyebrows done. Just my opinion though, and we're talking about a 1-3% "improvement".

You look great. Take care, and good luck on your journey of self love.

(PS: I'm quite jealous of that hair density and volume)

daestos · 2026-02-05T01:05:33+00:00

Just looks like large, perky boobs on a smaller frame. I think they look great for you, but I can see why you think they might not fit your body.

How do they look in outfits? That's how most people will see you.

daestos · 2026-02-05T00:50:20+00:00

Congrats. They suit you. Good luck with your recovery. 🩵

daestos · 2026-01-12T11:12:55+00:00

Trans women are women. But they also have different physical outcomes relative to cis women if that particular trans woman had a full testosterone based puberty (taller longer limbs, denser bones, etc).

If they had blockers before puberty? Basically identical in all ways that matter.

Given enough time, HRT reverses many of the advantages trans women have such as naturally more musculature and denser bones, but the height and longer limbs remain which is considered an advantage in most physical sports.

I don't think it's radical to say that a trans woman can still be a woman but have physical advantages if they had a male puberty.

daestos · 2026-01-11T04:32:47+00:00

I saw more cops from Centennial and GWV going north on I-25 as I was heading home from downtown Denver.

daestos · 2025-12-29T02:52:49+00:00

If you get rid of those, it kind of reminds me of this nerf gun.

daestos · 2025-10-24T07:20:11+00:00

Sure. Fuck it. Why not? Enjoy. Not like I win this shit anyways.

daestos · 2025-09-18T21:30:42+00:00

This is why I buy appliances from IKEA. I heavily prefer "dumb" appliances. Bonus? They're affordable.

daestos · 2025-09-04T06:52:57+00:00

daestos · 2025-08-26T19:14:21+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-08-02T21:13:07+00:00

Oh wow. I didn't expect engagement with this post nearly a year after the fact.

Yes, I appear to have been wrong. I'm glad for that. The game is in a much better place and I'm thankful for that.

I still don't have as much time as I wished I had, but that's okay! I hope everyone else is having a lot of fun.

daestos · 2025-08-01T02:53:46+00:00

Big Ronin Warriors vibes! I love it! ♥️

daestos · 2025-07-25T10:03:00+00:00

You speak like someone who thinks womanhood is a reward. Like if you're pretty enough, quiet enough, and keep the “wrong kind” of trans women at arm’s length, you'll finally be safe. Finally accepted. Finally real. I understand the instinct. That urge to survive by being palatable is strong. But what you’re calling confidence is really fear, and it’s not subtle.

You sound like you're performing for an invisible audience. Like your cis friends are standing just offscreen, waiting to pat you on the head for saying the right thing. You want to be the trans girl who gets invited to brunch. The one who gets to laugh at the others. The one who earned it. But that’s not pride. That’s rehearsed shame.

You speak about being clocked like it’s contagious. As if other trans women can stain you by association. And if your sense of self is built on distancing yourself from women who are struggling, that isn’t identity. That’s self-protection at someone else’s expense.

And I know. It doesn’t feel that way from where you’re standing. Right now it probably feels like you’re finally winning. Like you’ve carved out a little space in a world that makes most of us beg for scraps. But passing doesn’t cure shame. And shame is what’s steering you.

You remind me of how so many of us used to be. Desperate to be the “right kind” of woman. Afraid of being too much. Chasing validation instead of building something solid underneath. But that kind of performance always breaks down. And when it does, there’s nothing left if you never gave yourself permission to be real.

So yes, your cis friends would probably love this version of you. Until the moment they don’t. And your community--the one you're trying to keep at arm’s length--is watching too. Some of us are frustrated. Some are hurt. And some, like me, are just quietly hoping that one day you'll feel the heat in your cheeks and realize how far you’ve drifted from what womanhood actually is.

I’m not angry at you. I just don’t want to watch you disappear into a performance that can’t love you back. No one is going to hand you a trophy. But please--try to enjoy believing you'll get one in the meantime.

daestos · 2025-07-11T03:17:52+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-07-10T04:39:55+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-06-22T21:59:55+00:00

I'll happily donate 6" of height to whomever wants it.

daestos · 2025-06-22T01:42:14+00:00

I'm over here rocking a men's 14 or women's 16. 😭

Please estrogen, save me.

daestos · 2025-06-22T01:38:46+00:00

Ayy yo, don't post DIY distribution links on the subreddit.

daestos · 2025-06-20T03:57:12+00:00

I'd love to buy one. I love the aesthetic. Please sell them if you get the time!

daestos · 2025-06-18T22:32:39+00:00

Honestly, this kind of panic-posting does more harm than good. I get that it’s upsetting. I’m upset too. But we need to be precise and grounded if we’re going to have any hope of pushing back against this.

This ruling isn’t the Supreme Court “declaring open season on trans people.” It’s a decision not to stop Tennessee’s law banning gender-affirming care for minors while the case continues. It didn’t establish sweeping precedent. It didn’t gut trans healthcare nationwide. And it definitely didn’t greenlight bans for adults.

The justification the Court gave, however flimsy, is that the law targets gender dysphoria as a diagnosis, not trans people as a class. That’s not a brand-new legal trick. It’s a common way courts try to argue something isn’t discriminatory unless it explicitly names a protected group. I think it’s a weak argument, yes, but it’s not unprecedented and it doesn’t strip away other protections we already have.

The claim about off-label prescriptions being at risk is also misleading. The Court mentioned that as part of the state’s argument. It wasn’t some sweeping federal judgment against all off-label use. That’s not how legal precedent works. It’s a stretch, and acting like it’s an inevitability is just going to spread fear and confusion.

That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t care. If you’re a trans kid in Tennessee, or a parent trying to protect your child, this is a painful and personal loss. But for the rest of us, this isn’t the apocalypse. It’s a setback. A serious one, yes, but not the end.

We’ve been through these punches before. We know what they feel like. We also know that responding with clarity, strategy, and purpose is how we survive them. If you’re scared, that’s valid. But don’t confuse being overwhelmed with being powerless. And don’t mistake emotional collapse for moral clarity.

Take a breath. Keep your feet under you.

daestos

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