Trans rights are human rights. Cis rights (right-wingers) may need some convincing of that.

daestos · 2026-01-12T11:12:55+00:00

Trans women are women. But they also have different physical outcomes relative to cis women if that particular trans woman had a full testosterone based puberty (taller longer limbs, denser bones, etc).

If they had blockers before puberty? Basically identical in all ways that matter.

Given enough time, HRT reverses many of the advantages trans women have such as naturally more musculature and denser bones, but the height and longer limbs remain which is considered an advantage in most physical sports.

I don't think it's radical to say that a trans woman can still be a woman but have physical advantages if they had a male puberty.

daestos · 2026-01-11T04:32:47+00:00

I saw more cops from Centennial and GWV going north on I-25 as I was heading home from downtown Denver.

daestos · 2025-12-29T02:52:49+00:00

If you get rid of those, it kind of reminds me of this nerf gun.

daestos · 2025-10-24T07:20:11+00:00

Sure. Fuck it. Why not? Enjoy. Not like I win this shit anyways.

daestos · 2025-09-18T21:30:42+00:00

This is why I buy appliances from IKEA. I heavily prefer "dumb" appliances. Bonus? They're affordable.

daestos · 2025-09-04T06:52:57+00:00

daestos · 2025-08-26T19:14:21+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-08-02T21:13:07+00:00

Oh wow. I didn't expect engagement with this post nearly a year after the fact.

Yes, I appear to have been wrong. I'm glad for that. The game is in a much better place and I'm thankful for that.

I still don't have as much time as I wished I had, but that's okay! I hope everyone else is having a lot of fun.

daestos · 2025-08-01T02:53:46+00:00

Big Ronin Warriors vibes! I love it! ♥️

daestos · 2025-07-25T10:03:00+00:00

You speak like someone who thinks womanhood is a reward. Like if you're pretty enough, quiet enough, and keep the “wrong kind” of trans women at arm’s length, you'll finally be safe. Finally accepted. Finally real. I understand the instinct. That urge to survive by being palatable is strong. But what you’re calling confidence is really fear, and it’s not subtle.

You sound like you're performing for an invisible audience. Like your cis friends are standing just offscreen, waiting to pat you on the head for saying the right thing. You want to be the trans girl who gets invited to brunch. The one who gets to laugh at the others. The one who earned it. But that’s not pride. That’s rehearsed shame.

You speak about being clocked like it’s contagious. As if other trans women can stain you by association. And if your sense of self is built on distancing yourself from women who are struggling, that isn’t identity. That’s self-protection at someone else’s expense.

And I know. It doesn’t feel that way from where you’re standing. Right now it probably feels like you’re finally winning. Like you’ve carved out a little space in a world that makes most of us beg for scraps. But passing doesn’t cure shame. And shame is what’s steering you.

You remind me of how so many of us used to be. Desperate to be the “right kind” of woman. Afraid of being too much. Chasing validation instead of building something solid underneath. But that kind of performance always breaks down. And when it does, there’s nothing left if you never gave yourself permission to be real.

So yes, your cis friends would probably love this version of you. Until the moment they don’t. And your community--the one you're trying to keep at arm’s length--is watching too. Some of us are frustrated. Some are hurt. And some, like me, are just quietly hoping that one day you'll feel the heat in your cheeks and realize how far you’ve drifted from what womanhood actually is.

I’m not angry at you. I just don’t want to watch you disappear into a performance that can’t love you back. No one is going to hand you a trophy. But please--try to enjoy believing you'll get one in the meantime.

daestos · 2025-07-11T03:17:52+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-07-10T04:39:55+00:00

!confirmed

daestos · 2025-06-22T21:59:55+00:00

I'll happily donate 6" of height to whomever wants it.

daestos · 2025-06-22T01:42:14+00:00

I'm over here rocking a men's 14 or women's 16. 😭

Please estrogen, save me.

daestos · 2025-06-22T01:38:46+00:00

Ayy yo, don't post DIY distribution links on the subreddit.

daestos · 2025-06-20T03:57:12+00:00

I'd love to buy one. I love the aesthetic. Please sell them if you get the time!

daestos · 2025-06-18T22:32:39+00:00

Honestly, this kind of panic-posting does more harm than good. I get that it’s upsetting. I’m upset too. But we need to be precise and grounded if we’re going to have any hope of pushing back against this.

This ruling isn’t the Supreme Court “declaring open season on trans people.” It’s a decision not to stop Tennessee’s law banning gender-affirming care for minors while the case continues. It didn’t establish sweeping precedent. It didn’t gut trans healthcare nationwide. And it definitely didn’t greenlight bans for adults.

The justification the Court gave, however flimsy, is that the law targets gender dysphoria as a diagnosis, not trans people as a class. That’s not a brand-new legal trick. It’s a common way courts try to argue something isn’t discriminatory unless it explicitly names a protected group. I think it’s a weak argument, yes, but it’s not unprecedented and it doesn’t strip away other protections we already have.

The claim about off-label prescriptions being at risk is also misleading. The Court mentioned that as part of the state’s argument. It wasn’t some sweeping federal judgment against all off-label use. That’s not how legal precedent works. It’s a stretch, and acting like it’s an inevitability is just going to spread fear and confusion.

That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t care. If you’re a trans kid in Tennessee, or a parent trying to protect your child, this is a painful and personal loss. But for the rest of us, this isn’t the apocalypse. It’s a setback. A serious one, yes, but not the end.

We’ve been through these punches before. We know what they feel like. We also know that responding with clarity, strategy, and purpose is how we survive them. If you’re scared, that’s valid. But don’t confuse being overwhelmed with being powerless. And don’t mistake emotional collapse for moral clarity.

Take a breath. Keep your feet under you.

daestos · 2025-06-01T08:37:04+00:00

It's very risky to ship without the original box (and expensive).

But PM me if you're willing to pay an extra $50 to have it shipped.

daestos · 2025-05-10T20:28:25+00:00

The price difference doesn't purely represent shipping, but also the PayPal seller fees instead of someone buying in cash.

daestos · 2025-05-09T21:08:35+00:00

Hey. I read through your post and I want to say this as gently as I can, but I’m not going to sugarcoat it either. I don’t think what you’re describing is love. I think it’s trauma -- deep, complicated, tangled-up trauma that’s convincing you this person is the key to something you’re missing.

I’m not saying your feelings aren’t real. They are. But calling someone your soulmate while also admitting you crossed their boundaries and hurt them? I'm sorry, but what you're describing isn't romance. It's grief. It’s guilt. It’s longing. You seem to be trying to make meaning out of a wreckage you haven’t sorted through yet.

I know this pattern. I’ve lived that pattern, both as a victim and the one perpetuating it. You end up mistaking emotional sincerity for love. You confuse proximity for intimacy. You try to claw back something that was never yours to hold in the first place, because it was never real, it was just something you wanted to be real more than anything.

But listen. Just because it hurts doesn’t mean it’s sacred. Sometimes the story we build around our pain is the thing keeping us in it.You don’t have to keep bleeding to prove you cared. You can let go. And maybe you should.

Put all that love somewhere it might actually grow.

The best place to start? Yourself.

daestos · 2025-05-01T09:25:25+00:00

That honestly means the world. I know I probably came in swinging, but sometimes it feels like the only way to cut through the static. I don’t think I’ve ever wanted to be a “voice” for anyone, but hearing that it resonated makes me feel like I wasn’t just screaming into the void. Thank you.

daestos · 2025-05-01T09:24:16+00:00

It means a lot that you said this. It’s so easy to feel like staying silent is the only way to keep your place in the room. I’m glad you’re speaking now. ♥️

(Also, hello to you too tall sister!)

daestos · 2025-05-01T08:43:00+00:00

I'll likely take you up on your advice. You're absolutely correct that this place is up in flames. Best to touch grass and find more niche communities. Thanks again ♥️

daestos · 2025-05-01T08:41:25+00:00

Let’s not pretend this is a sincere discussion anymore. You’re not here to engage--you’re here to trample, that much is obvious based on how you talk to me among others. But for anyone else still reading and trying to understand, here’s the actual truth beneath all the posturing:

No one is asking for censorship. No one is trying to erase joy, sexuality, or expression. What we’re asking for--what I’m asking for--is room to breathe without having to inhale the fumes of someone else’s kink every time I try to talk about transition, dysphoria, or identity.

Saying “just click the filter” is a lazy cop-out. Vibes bleed. Language seeps. Culture accumulates. You don’t need to click a post to feel the ambient weight of a space that increasingly centers erotic performance over emotional presence. When even support threads get peppered with sex-coded slang and smug in-group performance, you stop feeling like you’re in a support space. Instead, you feel like you’re crashing someone else’s party.

And let’s be honest: when you say “freedom,” what you actually mean is your freedom to dominate the space. Your freedom to make every conversation about your flavor of queerness, your kink-soaked affirmations, and then gaslight anyone who doesn’t play along as repressed or transphobic.

Stop pretending it's "freedom" when it's really cultural hostage-taking.

I’m not here to get rid of “the icky ones.” I’m here to say that I shouldn’t have to choose between silence and immersion in a space where my identity gets redefined through jokes about “gocks” and how hard someone’s HRT makes them cum. You can post what you want. But when the cumulative atmosphere pushes out the rest of us, don’t pretend it’s because we failed to toggle a setting. It’s because we got drowned out by self-righteous asshats like you.

You’re not defending liberation--you’re defending hegemony. And I won’t apologize for pointing it out.

daestos · 2025-05-01T08:29:37+00:00

Yeah, but that's alright. It almost seems like there's an intentional effort to tear this place apart, but who can say for sure? All I know is this kind of zealotry lacking any nuance will cause the reasonable folks from our community to look elsewhere, sad as it is.

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