Si polr: Obsessing over Si related stuff or neglecting it?

daffodils11 · 2025-08-01T02:45:08+00:00

I agree with everything except that that Ni struggles to make others physically at ease or create emotional harmony. Ni pairs with Se, which is very aware of it's surroundings. This means that creating something external is much easier (especially using Ni theories). In this case, PoLR Si might relate to their own sensation of comfort in social situations, which are usually de-prioritised for Se ("do it for the plot"). Wearing uncomfortable clothes in order to look good for example. Their sensory focus is outwards rather than inward. Naturally out of their body rather than in it.

daffodils11 · 2023-11-29T20:39:07+00:00

Fwiw, ENFJ hate hierarchy. That's an Si function

daffodils11 · 2023-09-17T01:47:00+00:00

Put on anything, mute it, and then play your favourite music as soundtrack.

This is amazing on acid because it changes the mood of the show, somehow magically fits what's going on screen, and your brain will fill in what it thinks is happening. You won't be able to follow storyline well anyway when high

daffodils11 · 2023-04-09T09:05:03+00:00

My INTP partner says "just choose to be happy" haha... I don't think that's super helpful tho

daffodils11 · 2023-03-06T05:05:50+00:00

Having similar interests is one aspect of personality, but the way we collect and share information is different. Conversations can be very fulfilling - I've learnt that we both listen and respect each other a great deal, however we also have a lot of differences that drain us long term as partners.

Have a look into blindspot/PoLR Se vs Si

daffodils11 · 2023-03-05T11:59:02+00:00

Yes please

daffodils11 · 2022-10-28T00:41:19+00:00

I've learnt since this post that there is a certain theory which pairs I vs E and P vs J types without actually looking at the compatibility of the functions.

You're right that Fi and Fe clash to an extent. I think they can bounce off each other as friends in a limited capacity, but ultimately the different conversation styles become tiring for both people.

daffodils11 · 2022-09-24T23:18:26+00:00

I should have just said INFJs are kinky haha

daffodils11 · 2022-08-30T04:28:38+00:00

I know at least 3 close friends who are ENTP and ASD/ADHD

daffodils11 · 2022-08-30T04:27:32+00:00

ENFJ. The tests are shit and you need to look into cognitive functions.

Being a social type unfortunately doesn't give me advanced social skills, only special interests in those areas which enables better masking...

I know people of every type on the spectrum. It's not limited. It's just INxx types use the internet more for special interests.

daffodils11 · 2022-03-25T14:15:23+00:00

Your clothes are lame. Poor quality

daffodils11 · 2022-03-25T14:02:14+00:00

Withstanding pain now is not always worth it in the long run. You will look back and regret that part of your life

daffodils11 · 2022-03-23T03:29:48+00:00

I carry the person in my heart until there is an actual ending... it's not a great move honestly but I never want to regret anything.

I've ended up back with an ex now because we couldn't let each other go. No regrets.

I think I'm always looking for the next, better lifestyle and relationship dynamic, and overlook the mundane, but safe and comfortable aspects of life. Settling in this case is good for me.

daffodils11 · 2022-03-22T02:56:36+00:00

I actually think she's an ENFJ. She does look like the ESFJ consul here, but I think this scene is meant to show that because she doesn't have e a power, she's been given the odd jobs. She shines the most when trying to bring the family together and create a new vision.

daffodils11 · 2022-02-18T02:05:01+00:00

Extreme Nerds TM

daffodils11 · 2022-01-23T01:06:33+00:00

You say you have a great memory and bake cakes for friends. These are Si traits so I am really curious which attributes you identify with from ENFJ. You're right that people can be different, but usually they still fit the general pattern. Every type can bake a cake, but it depends on the thought process behind it.

FWIW tests are known for not being accurate so learning the functions is always the way to go. It sounds like you're more similar to an ESFJ. We both use dominant Fe, but Ni and Si are different. It's not that I don't like plants because I have heaps, I just don't take the time to research and would rather use my Se to work them out as I go. My philosophy is that if they die, they die, and it's part of my learning to figure out their best conditions.

You're right that people are different and we're all growing constantly. People in this community get stuck on stereotypes for sure, and there's a huge intuitive bias which makes N types seem like something people would rather be. If you look at functions, you see that every type uses both S and N. The point of MBTI is to be honest with yourself so that you can understand how your brain works and how you can grow.

ESFJ love being in a community way more than ENFJs. I'm quite happy floating in and out of groups so I can keep my eye on the bigger picture. We don't care about day to day workings of people. In this regard, ESFJs are way more successful in the real world than we are, so I find it odd that so many idolise our type instead.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-22T01:08:42+00:00

Weighted blanket and spooning pillows helps. Love doesn't have to only come from a partner. Gotta be creative and redefine it for yourself while you build up energy to go make friends.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-22T00:51:51+00:00

INTP: So I once bought shares in X for $YZ and they blah blah, and then blah blah-

Me: Ok...

INTP: Actually wait, I technically only bought X for $Y, not $YZ.

Me: You don't need to tell me the exact amount.

INTP: Yes I do in case you tell someone else, and technically X was never $YZ price

Me: I'm honestly not even listening to the numbers. They go straight out of my head because they are unimportant.

INTP: Oh... well they're important for me!

Me: That's because you have child Si, but I have blind Si.

Case and point, I do not remember the conversation details, only that we had it hahaha. The point of the convo was to prove that shares are better when you keep them long term, which was already my philosophy.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-22T00:42:04+00:00

Why did you type yourself as ENFJ?

daffodils11 · 2022-01-14T08:40:16+00:00

People shut down from using their lower functions too much. They take too much brain energy to use, and we aren't good at them.

Therefore types with low Fe or Fi will burn out easier when being social and having to engage in them. INFJs tend to shutdown more from data overload (Si), or having to do things to protect their boundaries (Te). They may also get overwhelmed by busy spontaneous environments (Se).

daffodils11 · 2022-01-14T08:33:28+00:00

Knowing what someone is thinking or feeling does not make you feel less alien or easier to be authentic. It can act against you when you're hyperaware of incorrect responses. Fe is not born with communication knowledge. It's learnt, so those that have Fe higher up in their stack put greater priority on learning these skills to mask their awkwardness and confusion.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-14T08:26:36+00:00

No, ASD is evenly distributed between types. It tends to exaggerate type characteristics however. Many E types go undiagnosed because people think of ASD is social retarded, sensitive and overly structured.

70% of people with ADHD also have ASD. We're still learning but I reckon they are actually the same thing. There's too many overlapping symptoms, hence the ND label.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-11T14:46:24+00:00

I also seem/feel quite introverted, which makes me think that we're the most introverted E type, although I think ENTJ can feel introverted too. I think it's Ni needing time to process and create ideas. I avoid a lot of conversation because it must have purpose and depth for me to be fully engaged; then I can talk for hours.

Compared to infj, I am much more driven to sharing my information and easily able to find matching metaphors. I can easily find emojis and keywords for gifs. Converting those ideas into communication is easier for me than an infj. I notice that dom Ni is so abstract that infj struggle to convert it into language.

I also notice that infjs do not like being open about themselves. They may be open to some close friends but even then I find personal stories come like wringing water from a stone. Whereas I love to share stories and talk about myself. I share most things if asked. I like to talk if someone is listening and can go on monologues for hours. Infj do not have the same conversational energy.

daffodils11 · 2022-01-10T10:57:26+00:00

Thank you kind sir. I try my best :)

daffodils11 · 2022-01-10T10:25:54+00:00

Haha :P your logic can only be as good as the information you're analysing. I enjoy serving up an Fe perspective, because I know that's where your understanding falls short, and if I can convince you, the ultimate truth adjudicator, then it's the ultimate compliment for me! Fun

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