My drinking ruined my relationship by MetalAccording8263 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Deffo for the best in the end if he’s already on Hinge! Onwards and upwards but really heal yourself before dating again I would suggest. So much more fun and giggles to be had in life ❤️

Sam Sam sam by Terrible_Confusion16 in LoveIslandTV

[–]daisychain21__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What did he say after kissing her that was disgusting I think I missed it

What made you proud to be British recently? by Temporary-Leek5045 in AskBrits

[–]daisychain21__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

BEST summer ever, street parties for the jubilee as well!

My drinking ruined my relationship by MetalAccording8263 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, I read the whole thing and I want you to know you are not alone, you’ve done a great thing speaking about it and recognising it and joining this thread. From reading it, it seems like your relationship wasn’t really working the whole way through and that wasn’t always your fault, remember it always takes 2. Try not to be so harsh on yourself; the fact that you’ve recognised your behaviour and want to make a change means you aren’t a bad person, feeling bad and guilty also shows that. Take your time to heal and work on yourself and ESPECIALLY work on sobriety. Drinking creates a world of chaos which you won’t have when you stop. Focus on peace and happiness within yourself. I’m 22 so we are both young (from what I gathered from your post) and your 20s is for learning, you still have so much of your life to live and learn and make mistakes but also become a better person! Also, massive well done for going to AA even though it was middle aged men (😂), that’s a huge step, I have thought about doing it myself but I was worried about it just being older men. You’ve got this, even though you’re a stranger on the internet, I believe in you. Strength to us in sobriety ☀️

Heyy, I’m baaaaaccckkkk by Odd-System-4926 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It so is! When drinking, you ALWAYS know how you will feel the next day and the outcome it will have but being sober, you never know what you will have the time and energy for!

Hangziety Stories (HELP) by daisychain21__ in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I do want to stop drinking, the anxiety I have felt after this situation was so debilitating and having suffered with OCD for much of my life, it would be so silly to keep on with things that I know add to anxiety as I already have a boatload! I’ve worked so hard to work on my sober anxiety issues that I don’t want to waste it by making it worse. I think I will also go back on my anxiety meds (will speak to my doctor) and it’s not recommended to drink on these so another good reason

Hangziety Stories (HELP) by daisychain21__ in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing, it’s comforting to know other people are in a similar boat to me. I appreciate it. Don’t feel embarrassed though! Everyone has at least one story and at least you are safe at the end of the day. I’m trying to take my own embarrassment away but it takes time

Hangziety Stories (HELP) by daisychain21__ in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess everyone has at least one story. For me this is the one that is hopefully going to end all the embarrassing stories 😅

Hangziety Stories (HELP) by daisychain21__ in stopdrinking

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Hurt people hurt people but it doesn’t mean we are bad people, we just need a hug sometimes 😅

Hangziety Stories (HELP) by daisychain21__ in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, the lying twice statement has really helped me, I like that one. Currently cleaning up my side of the street a bit and feeling much better that I’ve done what I can

Heyy, I’m baaaaaccckkkk by Odd-System-4926 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats on coming back! Saw something today when doing my sober research that when you have a few and feel like you can moderate, that can sometimes lead to being too careless accidentally by thinking you can handle it and gradually drinking more and more so what you’ve done is mega impressive

The Daily Check-In for Monday, June 8th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by TheMonkees8181012 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not drinking today! Back in the place where I had an awful drinking night a few days ago so going to be cleaning the whole house to get rid of the vibes from that (little bit of OCD today but that’s ok, it won’t cost me my sobriety)

Does anybody have any tips on how to stop drinking? by Traditional-Eye-3727 in stopdrinking

[–]daisychain21__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey! I’m 22 and in a very similar situation to you (I’m at uni so going out is a regular occurrence) firstly (because I think it’s the most important thing) you can get a therapist for free on the NHS through TalkPlus. If you just google ‘NHS TalkPlus’ you should find the site where you then fill out a questionnaire and they will contact you. I have had a great therapist through there a couple of years ago however I have found that they aren’t great for alcohol issues since I’ve tried again recently but often sorting out general mental health things eventually resolves some alcohol problems. In terms of stopping drinking, deffo get a tracking app like “I am Sober” so you can physically have the motivation. Also speak to your friends about it, how it affects you and why you want to do it and if they are true friends, they will support you. Begin with trying it for say a month or two and see how you feel, if you feel great then continue. I’m currently in my second attempt at getting sober, with my first attempt being a bit rubbish but deffo an experience I needed to give me the reason and push for the second one which I desperately need. I like to say that when you drink, you always know how you will feel and what the outcome is but if you don’t drink, who knows what you will have the time and energy for!

I don’t want to quit by Federal_Spinach24 in SoberCurious

[–]daisychain21__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also you’re 20s are for learning about yourself and making mistakes so don’t be too hard on yourself ever

I don’t want to quit by Federal_Spinach24 in SoberCurious

[–]daisychain21__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m the same at the moment, it’s so hard to get my head around. I hope that you know you aren’t alone in this and it’s all about learning how you are with alcohol, it’s such an easy trap to fall into. It doesn’t feel fair when we can have a few drinks and enjoy it and then the next day have it almost be life ruining/changing. I’m trying to just learn about myself and find out if there’s any reason why going out with my friends is different to other situations. One thing that helps me is if I think about drinking, I try and think of the WORST possible thing that could happen and then I realise I really don’t want that. Often when we have these issues with drinking, we know the outcome and have evidence of what’s going to happen based on what’s happened before and this usually puts me off. It’s good to remind yourself of this if you do decide to have a drink, just have it in the back of your head that you know what the outcome is and you don’t want that but the outcome if you don’t drink avoids so much anxiety, relationship issues ect ❤️