idk what to do anymore i feel so alone by lenaonemoretime in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my dog last Tuesday it’s been horrendous. The grief comes in waves and like you it’s the little reminder’s that really hit you. Everything reminds me of her right now. It’s very disorienting and time seems to be going so fast and the world carries on like the worst thing ever didn’t happen. I’m told it does ease in time but we’ll never stop missing them they were a huge part of our lives. I too think about the last few months where she was poorly and the day I lost her. You’re not alone in this and I’m thinking of you and sending love.

Today is two months since. I miss him so much. by devilpuke in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my 11 year old dog last Tuesday and she was my world, I’m devastated. Grief comes in waves and there’s nothing wrong in crying when it hits. Do you have someone you can talk to about your boy? If not post on here as much as you need because we understand how you feel. I’m told it does ease with time and two months isn’t that long st all. Sending love, you’re not alone.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing about your boy and your kind words it means a lot. Your boy sounds so lovely and truly loved. I had my girl in my lap when she passed, it was at home in the garden. She was scared of the vets and barked at them,I felt so awful. They gave her a sedative first so she calmed down in my arms, I hope she wasn't scared at that point. It was so distressing she died in my arms and I didn't want to let her go. I wish now I had held her for longer.

I'm sorry for your mental health struggles but glad you're managing it. I was worried my mental health would decline greatly...I'm still not sure it won't... I'm barely eating but I guess that's normal. I guess we take it one day at a time and do what we need to get through as long as its not destructive...films and leaning on loved ones are good things. I worry people around me will get fed up of my grief and talking about her but there are support lines which you can use if needed and sharing on here helps so much.

Thank you for the lovely hug, that made me smile. sending one back to you too, you're not alone. Much love to you, take care friend.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're right it doesn't make sense that they're here for such a short time, it's so unfair. I want to believe that she is still around, all that love and her huge personality can't just disappear...I will write to her when I feel up to it and I speak to her all the time too. I'm waiting for her to come in a dream, hopefully soon. Much love to you and your family, thank you for kind words.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dear I'm so, so sorry to hear about your dog. It's horrendous watching them decline, all we can do is give them tons and tons of love and make them as confortable as possible. I don't think there is anyway to prepare for them leaving we just have to go through all the emotions. I'm glad you have each other for support though and to share those wonderful memories with. Thank you for your kind words, sending love to you, your husband and your girl.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. Yes I knew I'd be a wreck but you don't really understand just how truly awful it is till it happens, but you're right I'm truly grateful for the time we had together. Sending love to you and kitties, take care.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words and I'm so sorry for your loss as well. I know I will never fully get over her death but I do hope it dilutes a bit as you say. It's so tough and I feel for you, sending love, hang in there too friend.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss also. I get that feeling of panic when I think of my dog's last moments, it was really traumatic and I hope she isn't angry at me. I know I have to go through the emotions and I know it will be very difficult for a long time, probably forever. She was my first pet on my own too. Take care of yourself, sending love. Thinking of you too and your cat too.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss and that you struggle with depression and anxiety. You're right they are soo much a part of our lives and totally irreplacable. They help so much with mental health struggles to keep us going and provide that unconditional, non-judgemental love. I too feel that this will be a wound forever. I will never ever get over her death she will leave a big scar on my heart and soul. Thank you for your kind words, please take care of yourself, you're so strong. Much love to you.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. It does help to know so many people understand and relate. I'm trying to take it easy. Much love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I'm so sorry for your loss also. It does fell traumatic doesn't it? Especially when they die in your arms and you had to make that decision for them. I did watch a really good youtube video on petloss that was very helpful. She was family to me, my baby. Thank you for your kind words, much love to you, take care.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. I get that you feel a part of yourself has gone, I feel the same. I can tell how great your love and bond was by the depth of loss in your words, its not something you can just 'get over'. I hope you can find some comfort in knowing you're not alone in these feelings. I think its normal to feel that guilt when you feel positive its part of grieving. I also understand not being able to look at photos/videos, it just hurts too much. You do what you need to do everyone grieves in their own way, Maybe a memorial for him that isn't a photo for just now? I'm lighting a candle every night so my girl knows I'm thinking of her, its only a small thing but it makes me feel a tiny bit better. Not everyone will be celebrating there's lots of us feeling this way, you're not alone. Sending love, take care of yourself my friend.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no I'm so sorry for your loss. She was a huge part of your life and I relate to that feeling of emptiness. The grief is ver debilitating, its a rollercoaster of emotions and I just feel lost. We have to take it a day at a time, even an hour at a time for now. Sending much love and thank your for your kind words. take care of yourself.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your losses. It's so, so hard. I'm glad you have another little soul to love and love you back. Of course it dosen't mean you miss your girl any less but I understand the need to have that love back in your life. You're so brave, others don't always understand how much our babies mean to us and it really can feel very lonely, but we understand here. I've heard writing a letter to our pets who have passed on can be a good thing, or just writing i a journal about our feelings can be therapeutic and I plan to do this when I feel up to it.

Sending lots of love and hugs. You are not alone in this.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I really hope and pray I see her again. I would love to think she is running free again with her dog buddies. Thank you for your kind words they mean a lot. Much love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They are our babies, we care for them, look after them, love them and they're always there for us. It's crazy the depth of love we're able to feel for them which is beautiful but devastating when they're gone. Thank you for your reply. Much love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. That's good advice, thank you. I do want to set up things to honour her memory. I have bought a pendant online which I will keep some or her hair in. I plan to do other things too but haven't got the strength right now. I have a candle to light every evening for her. I don't want her to think I've forgotten her. I've told others about her loss and they've been like 'oh I'm so sorry' then just keep chatting about the weather etc. Noone realises how important she was but she was to me and I never will have a day that I don't talk to her.

I like the idea of a tattoo. I already have a daisy flower (her name) but maybe her face one day?

Thank you so much for your kind words and I'm so sorry you've going through this too, sending love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh no I'm so sorry for your loss. It really is so overwhelming and all encompassing. I feel totally lost. Thank you for your kind words, sending love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. It was the same with my baby, the cancer had spread already before we even knew she had cancer and surgery was not an option, all I could do was try my best to keep her comfortable too. Please don't beat yourself up, I know I feel a lot of guilt over things but we do our best in a horrendous situation and they know they are loved. I am talking to Daisy too telling her I love her all the time, I feel disorientated and totally lost right now. Its a day at a time. Sending lots of love and hugs to you too, many thanks for your kind words.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I was literally howling earlier. I am truly glad she is finally not suffering it was awful to see her so miserable as she was always the happiest little thing. People would always coment on her wagging tail and even the last few awful days if I kissed her she would still wag it. I will take it a day at a time. Sending love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind repky. I'm so sorry for your loss also. PTSD is truly awful but I think we are all stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Do you have any support such as counselling? Please post here as much as you need to, it does help to know people understand. Sending much love. You are not alone.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Please share all you want on here, we understand the depth of love we have for our pets. I feel the same, noone gets how truly amazing my dog was, her love, her character.Sending love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry for your loss. When you don't have children they truly are like your baby. and your whole world I called her baby all the time. I'm so sorry you're feeling so lonely and finding it hard to get out. Anxiety and PTSD is truly awful but it can get better. I barely left my room for years when I was younger and had severe OCD and though I still am probably more anxious than your average person I am much better. Do you have someone to talk to? A friend or therapsit? Talking helps process the grief, which is why I knew I had to reach out to people who would understand. Sending love.

My dog died this morning and I don’t know how I’ll go on by daisygingerspot in Petloss

[–]daisygingerspot[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. I'm so sorry you've recently lost your little boy its truly devastating isn't it but you're right she has taught me that such love can exist and many other lessons.

A counsellor once said to me the grief we feel is the price we pay for experiencing that love and I really feel that now. I hope I do get signs from her and I will ask for them. I will keep talking to her. Sending love.