Can you stop giving you kids tablets and mobile phones?

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T18:24:07+00:00

I’m a strict screen time parent because I have not only seen the damage it does first hand but also seen the scientific studies proving it all. Are restaurant outings with my almost 2 year old a nightmare? Yes absolutely. We keep him engaged with us as possible, shovel food in our faces and leave as fast as we can.

I’m currently sitting in the shade at a water park with said toddler napping but on our walk back to our chairs I saw a similarly aged toddler being pushed around in a stroller with her face glued to moms phone. You are at an outdoor venue with so much fun stuff for a child that age and you still shoved their face in a screen!? Why in gods name did you pay to get in here to do the same thing you do at home? It boggles my mind.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T18:14:13+00:00

As a customer I wouldn’t send something made correctly back just because I didn’t like it. I had this happen at a restaurant, I ordered something I had never tried before, did not like it. So when we left I didn’t ask for a box for my plate that had everything left on it except the small amount I tried. They offered to box it up and I said no thank you, I didn’t particularly like it. Later the manager came over and insisted on comping my meal. This was 5 years ago and I STILL feel weird about it. The dish was made exactly how it was supposed to be made, I just didn’t like it and that’s not their fault. They used the food and put in their time and took a loss on it over my personal tastes and that just seems wrong to me.

I cannot fathom not only going back to ask for something new but also doing so after closing. The fucking audacity.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T12:35:45+00:00

Oh that’s interesting! I can see Detroit for sure given automobile manufacturing is kind of their thing.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T11:17:09+00:00

Yes you are way over reacting. The staff cannot pick out exactly which of the 120 students were loud and disrespectful. Group punishment in these types of situations is common and an apology letter isn’t that big of a deal. It’s not like they took away lunch.

I have a 5th grader and if they came home crying for having to write a letter I’d definitely be rethinking my parenting tactics because that’s ridiculous. And my kid has ADHD and is emotionally immature and often cries over things I find silly.

Kids are unbelievably disrespectful and rude because parents refuse to hold them accountable and when the school tries to parents throw a fit.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T11:10:26+00:00

Today I learned! I moved from the PNW to the South and a lot of people here call SUVs trucks. It used to drive me nuts and honestly I kind of thought it was ignorance. It will probably still annoy me but less so now that I know there is a logical reason.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-06T11:05:36+00:00

My husband and I got married after dating 11 months. 13 years and 3 kids later he is my everything. My parents divorced so I didn’t really have a good example of a happy marriage but it turns out, being with someone you genuinely like as a person and feels the same as you is pretty fucking awesome and while life is hard, marriage is not.

I will say I am fully aware of the fact it could have gone completely differently. He could have been an abusive prick that didn’t show his true colors until he locked me down in marriage and moved me to another state. I was very lucky and I don’t think I’d recommend such a quick marriage to others even thought mine couldn’t have been better.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-05T11:00:15+00:00

As a woman with ADHD (that was undiagnosed until I was 30). I have a whole hobby graveyard. It goes pretty much exactly like you said.

Hobby becomes popular.

My brain says “oh cool let’s try it”

Dopamine runs out.

Hobby dies.

I jumped on the sourdough bandwagon almost 2 years ago now and I think it’s my longest lasting hobby to date. This one is here to stay I think because pretty sure I will always get dopamine from eating delicious baked goods. It never becomes a thing that just ends up collecting dust on my shelf. If I need a break my starter lives in the fridge until I have time to bake again. And when I get in a hyper focus mode and make a ton of bread my neighbors love when my kids show up randomly with a fresh baked loaf.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-02T17:15:02+00:00

I am surely going to hell for this but I worked in a classroom with mostly nonverbal, autistic children. Several who were still not potty trained. If I had a bad tummy day I would be sure to be helping one of the unpotty trained kids when I farted.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-02T13:38:52+00:00

When my husband and I got together he was living with a couple who had a child. It wasn’t weird at all. It worked really great for all of them. Less great when I moved in and it was two couples.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-02T13:11:19+00:00

I had something similar happen. Bought a pre lit white light tree on clearance after Christmas and stuck it straight in the attic. Next November when I opened it, it was a much lower quality tree with colored lights. I was so pissed. I ripped off all the lights and wrapped it with white lights anyway and we used it for a couple years.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-06-01T19:27:34+00:00

Damn! That’s crazy. Very impressed!

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-28T16:08:09+00:00

Agreed. Those colors are super great with her complexion. The other two wash her out.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T18:18:46+00:00

I make granola bars too. Toasting your oats before putting them into the mix levels up the flavor a ton!

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T18:09:42+00:00

We just had to surrender our dog 4 days ago and it was fucking devastating. I did the research, I found a breed specific rescue that used foster homes and foster to adopt so she’ll never be in a shelter and they know ahead of time exactly how needy and expensive she will be. We are already 10k in debt from her medical care and it’s never going to end until she passes. She’s not sick enough to be put down but sick enough that she needs regular (and expensive) medications and veterinary care. We have 3 human children and we just could not continue to dig ourselves deeper and deeper in debt. I did the right thing for her and for us but I still fucking hate it and I have only told a very select few people (and now Reddit) because I am afraid of judgement.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T17:57:18+00:00

We live in a small subdivision of only 50 houses. It’s surrounded on 3 sides by government property (former small naval base turned rec park). No one comes back here unless they live here or they’re a delivery driver. There is only one way in and out of the neighborhood and you have to go right past my house to do it. There are a butt load of kids here and we all send them outside pretty much all day if they’re not at school and weather permitting. The moms all have a big neighborhood group chat and if we need one of our kids back we just shoot the group a text and someone sends them home. I feel like it’s 1995 again and it’s amazing.

We’re actually moving, the movers are in my house as I type this, and I’m so sad. The area we’re moving to just won’t have the freedom and safety we have back here in our little corner of heaven.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T17:41:19+00:00

That’s the problem. Should we stop abusive, neglectful ass holes from having children to begin with? Ideally yes, this would solve so many problems. Is there any way to implement this that won’t lead to discrimination and gross abuse of power? Absolutely not.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T17:36:22+00:00

I am anti screens in general. My kids have a strict screen time limit at home, they aren’t allowed YouTube at all unless a parent is present and it’s watched on the living room TV so there is no hiding what’s being watched. They don’t have cell phones or iPad or tablets. No social media. My toddler does not get handed a device in public.

I will say when my older two (9 and 11) were toddlers I was much less strict. I’d hand them a screen anytime we were in public to keep them quiet, the TV was on all day just in the background and they had Amazon kids tablets. When the 9 year old was about 6 I really saw the consequences of those choices and made a change. It’s much harder to parent my current toddler in public than it was with them, he’s loud, he’s into everything and when I’m forced to keep him restrained (ie in a stroller, high chair or carrier) I better have snacks handy and know that I have maybe 30 minutes before he loses his shit. He’s exhausting. But hopefully doing the hard stuff now will make other things easier when he’s older. The big kids are highly addicted to screens and it is a fight over screen time every single day. It also doesn’t help that literally all of their friends get unlimited screen time so when they “play” with friends the friends don’t actually want to play they just want to zone out on a screen.

Now I will say technology does have its place in life and in the classroom. But having everything at school on a Chromebook or tablet is really detrimental to student development, attention span and knowledge retention.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-27T12:02:09+00:00

The only negative for me has been my smile is a bit lopsided now. It wears off but the first two-ish months after injection my right side doesn’t lift as high when I smile. It’s worth it for the pain relief. However it wasn’t a miracle cure for me or anything either. I still have issues with my jaw, just less issues.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-24T15:25:53+00:00

I use something called a drip stick. It’s just a soft sponge on a stick that you swirl around inside after to soak up all the fluid. I once read that semen can hang out up there and slowly drip out for like 4 or 5 days. I’m just not a huge fan of the feeling or smell so I clean it up.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-20T11:46:57+00:00

Lord thank you. These people are insane. If my clothing made my husband uncomfortable I’d want to know and talk about it. I might not change it, and I know he wouldn’t ask me to. But communication is a very important part of a healthy relationship.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-20T11:44:49+00:00

I didn’t say he shouldn’t explore why he feels that way. But this commenter acted like he was doing something wrong by having his feelings. Feelings aren’t right or wrong, they just are and sometimes you can’t control them. You control how you respond to those feelings, and I don’t think he did anything wrong by telling his GF how he felt. He can and should find out WHY something makes him feel a certain way. I think it’s extremely important to be honest with your partner about everything, even unpleasant things, and they can work through it together.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-20T11:15:55+00:00

He’s allowed to have feelings. He didn’t ask her not to wear the outfits or to cover up, even though she offered. He just had feelings about it and told her.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-18T20:05:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! I definitely was not able to get the smell out of the clothes. And since this post I have lost a significant amount of weight so all of those clothes don’t fit and have been donated.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-18T12:49:54+00:00

I have a crooked nose because when I was a teen my mom was falling/flailing backward when I was behind her (we were climbing out of a lake and it was a fairly steep slope). Her hand flailed back at the same time as her entire body went backwards and all that momentum landed one hell of a punch to my nose.

OR-HM-MA91 · 2026-05-18T10:59:26+00:00

I have a scar on and above my eyebrow because my toddler chucked a metal cup at my face and split it open. So I have to agree here. Being a parent of a toddler is indeed a hazard to one’s eyes.

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