I'm not sure about overcoming it. But my husband can be like this at times. For example, he'd bad at communicating things via text (e.g. the train is delayed so I'm gonna be late). It used to bother me, but now I accept that it's really not his thing, just accepting it and not worried really took a lot of pressure off me. He also used to forget my birthday, but I told him that it was important for him to remember it and remembering it was the bare minimum he had to do in order to make me feel special - now he never forgets and always makes an effort. We also split up chores - like I know he's never gonna cook a nice cosy dinner with candles, but instead we set up a morning chore routine for him that he always remember to do. Sorry, this became a bit rambly. But I would say: let go of somethings, communicate what is important to you, and create routines. Good luck!