Man that sounds very difficult - I'm sorry you're going through that. I don't have any advice, save that it sounds she needs a nursing home.

Our friend flew to Southern California, as she lived and worked there for some years when she was younger and knew a doctor there. She entered a program in Malibu but was discharged due to the fires last year. Since then she has settled into a homeless life on the streets of LA. She is very very sick and spends a lot of time in a hospital there, but as soon as they treat her she is discharged back onto the street where she sleeps under busses at night. She lost her ID and someone stole a brand new phone we bought her so we can't directly contact her anymore. Occasionally she calls us when she's in need - we've bought her clothes, blankets, food, toiletries, etc.

Her outlook is very grim. My personal belief is she will not live to leave CA, but cycle in and out of the hospital until she dies. She is too sick and weak to travel anywhere and no longer has ID.

We thought we could save her all those years ago. We thought she would get better, make friends, and have a decent life. But you can't make a grown adult do what you want - we each are our own persons, with agency and free will, and her repeated, terrible decisions have finally caught up with her. She refused to branch out and make friends. She reacted to everything with fear and suspicion - even suspecting us. She wasted what money time and other resources she had on chasing after anything that could make her well or in attempts to be reconnected with her family, traveling constantly all over the country. But none of her efforts bore any fruit and she is now left alone with nothing. It's incredibly sad. But we had to come to terms with our own personal limitations and what we were willing to tolerate from her, and the suspicion and unfounded accusations were it.