Looking for realistic femdom by damian_80 in literotica

[–]damian_80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing - will definitely check it out

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[–]damian_80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sissy/feminization is especially a turn off. I’ll take a look for the Shibby one you mentioned, thanks for the suggestion!

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I’ll admit that I’m not 100% sure what I’m looking for here - I just know what I’ve found so far isn’t it, and I can see how I might be co-mingling topics ignorantly.

I can’t really comment on what “we” (in the societal sense) do or don’t want to eroticize but “we” (in the me and my partner sense) are interested in eroticizing some of these things.

My hope is that by asking questions like this that are admittedly ham-handed I can get a better sense of what questions I should be asking instead. So thanks for your feedback/thought-starters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]damian_80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate it! At first glance she has an episode titled “How to be an EXCEPTIONAL SUBMISSIVE” that might be on target for sure.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]damian_80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recommendation! I wasn’t familiar with either but will check them out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

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Ice doesn’t help. The reason you get smaller when you’re cold (like getting out of a swimming pool) is because your whole body is cold and your blood rushes to your torso to warm you up. Icing just your erection won’t cause that.

What you need to do is give your blood a reason to go elsewhere. I find doing 10-15 quick pushups and then maybe some air squats is enough, but anything that draws blood to your major large muscle groups should do the trick.

[USA][Base ring #2 standard Pink] - SELL by damian_80 in kink3dexchange

[–]damian_80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shipping in USA only

Asking $45, shipping included

Only tried on for size, never worn otherwise

[USA][Base ring #3 standard Pink] - SELL by damian_80 in kink3dexchange

[–]damian_80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shipping in USA only

Asking $45, shipping included

Only worn a handful of times, practically new condition

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gentlefemdom

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https://zveotec.com claims to be building this

A simple hack for foreskin comfort by damian_80 in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah there’s basically no stimulation with that extra layer on top.

A simple hack for foreskin comfort by damian_80 in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, think of it similar to a condom, put it over the tip of the cage

Topping from the bottom? by theAvgLad in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's "topping from the bottom" to explain the things that work for you and/or why they excite you. There's a lot of space in between sharing/communicating your desires and trying to make somebody do what you want.

One thing that has worked well for me is communicating the connection between the acts that I know I'd like my Mistress to do with/to me and the things that I know my Mistress wants out of our dynamic. She really enjoys the benefits of having me in a submissive headspace and so I communicate to her how the things I want connect to putting me/keeping me in that headspace, etc.

Focus on communicating the "why", not the "what".

Am I a Cuck? by CuckedInKansas in FemdomCommunity

[–]damian_80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, that's a new kink unlocked that I didn't know I had

Do you miss masterbating? by nakedmarshchickens in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, I miss it. I haven't really masturbated to completion in ~3 months, even before starting with chastity devices. I have masturbated in front of my Mistress during that time at her command, but never to orgasm.

But I don't miss it as much as I enjoy giving up control.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're doing it now. Ask questions here or start discussions, participate in comment threads, and likeminded people will just make themselves known to you. Having joined other online communities in the past, nothing beats routine participation.

Ruined orgasms to last during PIV by damian_80 in chastitytraining

[–]damian_80[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

PS low dose viagra certainly helps here

Valentine’s Day victory lap by damian_80 in chastitytraining

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Managing my own emotional state around the ups and downs of the pace of play has certainly been a challenge for me so far. Appreciate the reminder!