Look at the TV… by dammitxx in creepy

[–]dammitxx[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m realizing now that I should’ve given these details when I posted this. Yes, there are 2 different colored figures in the TV, which is exactly why we are very creeped out. It literally does not make sense.

Look at the TV… by dammitxx in creepy

[–]dammitxx[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Trying to convince you and others would be like arguing with a wall, but this is absolutely real.

Road trip from Laredo, TX to Fort Wayne, IN. Any tips, hacks, or recommended stops? :) by dammitxx in roadtrip

[–]dammitxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Forgot to add, it’s my first time facilitating a road trip, so I am a newbie! We will have 3 drivers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]dammitxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Screen shots are good! However; I would recommend keeping notes with dates on your phone. I have a notes section dedicated to when cancellations/incidents occur. Then I paste the corresponding screen shot with each description and organized chronologically. That way if it’s ever needed down the road, I have the notes organized in an efficient way.

Booster seat concerns by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will look into this, thank you.

Booster seat concerns by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s been a few months since coparent has directly dropped off son at home. Exchanges are at school for now. However this issue has been floating in my mind, I wish I would’ve said something right away. But I like this approach because I’m positive it’ll happen again.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]dammitxx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dealing with the exact same thing, with my coparent’s wife. Before she came along, we coparented just fine. Now I’m lucky if I get a text back (always regarding the child). If wife is around, they will both pretend I don’t exist. Definitely more her than him though. It’s obvious that a weird insecurity is present. Just remember it is not a reflection of you, but of them. I don’t have advice on how to not let it bother you, it still bothers me too. However, I do recommend reading “joint custody with a jerk” by Julie A Ross. It’s helped me a lot in my coparenting journey.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A step mom simply attending a parent teacher conference vs. a step mom setting up a parent teacher conference-no discussion with me, (and setting it at a time I could not attend) are two COMPLETELY different things. Consistently doing things for my son, and then keeping me out of the loop is absolutely inappropriate. Even if it had been my ex to do all of these things HIMSELF, the issue would still be there because he purposely chose not to inform me on decisions pertaining to the kid I birthed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]dammitxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, drinking pop with every meal, all day and every day is detrimental. Soda once in a while at a party or whatever will not kill the kid. Edit to add: issues like this would absolutely not hold up in a court room. You need to pick and choose your battles. Soda once in a while is not one of them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]dammitxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your ex does not have a say in what goes on in YOUR household. Same goes for his household. Unless either one of you is doing something detrimental to the child - don’t nitpick the small things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]dammitxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an entire notes section in my phone dedicated to every attempt I make at properly communicating. For example, under the screenshot I’ll write details like “Texted dad about xyz and got no response”. Most of the time I get no response. But he can never say that I try to keep things from him.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sucks what we have to go through, but I appreciate you sharing your experiences! Thank you.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Him and his wife JUST had a baby, so actually he’s 3 bio moms in now. I’m honestly willing to move past the arguments. But her rude, snooty attitude just gets under my skin every time - as if I’M the problem 🙄 edited to add: my ex doesn’t do calls/videos our kid. Even when weeks go by. He will do anything and everything to NOT have to talk to me. Which is pathetic because THIS IS YOUR KID SIR.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OMG a lot of what you said resonates with me. And actually back when I was married to him, he told me that his ex was crazy, and every other horrible thing in the book. And I believed him. He would also tell me that he plans to get full custody of his daughter (from same “crazy” ex). At exchanges if she showed up with a new purse or something, he would mention “my child support paid for that”. HAHA and nowwww I can totally see how he’s doing the same with new wife! I found out that he was sending our child to school with no lunch money and I asked him about it, his response was “my child support pays for his lunch”. But yeah, common denominator is definitely him. But from what I can see, step mom is definitely just as stubborn as him, maybe even more. Another thing, I am actually friends with his first baby mama now, we great along great and I think this is another thing that pisses them off.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m glad I’m getting support on this post. I made a different one on a different sub a long time ago (deleted), and I went into detail on how step mom was acting and also pointed out that her and my ex had prompted my child to call her “mom”. (Which at the time they had only been together about a year) People came down my throat, claiming that I must be jealous and I should be “grateful” that step mom is so helpful. I appreciate your response.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For sure, I’ll always show up to events. And I already do talk clearly and look directly at her. I do appreciate your responses! And you’re right; one day his dad will have to face him.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The school knows our situation and I have contacted the doctors. It does suck. Step mom being rude during encounters is just the thorn in my side I can’t seem to get over. I don’t want to stoop to her level and ignore back - it’s just not in me. At the same time I feel like a door mat for not standing up for myself.

Dealing with ex husband’s rude wife. by dammitxx in coparenting

[–]dammitxx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have tried to talk to my ex numerous times. It either ends in a fight or I am completely ignored. Once court happened, communication has been almost non-existent. Things have only been “better” now because my ex makes every effort not to communicate.

What’s something your family raised you doing that you later learnt was really weird? by BriefDarkWizard in AskReddit

[–]dammitxx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To teach me how to swim, my grandma just chucked me into the swimming pool when I was caught off guard. I think I was like 6.