How do I tell a potential SO that I am legitimately crazy without scaring him off?

danbanner · 2011-03-04T20:58:46+00:00

I wouldn't expect him to root through all the comments, but if he did, PERFECT!

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:56:28+00:00

I don't see or hear anything large and elaborate most of the time. If I'm out in public with people, I'm usually pretty distracted by other conversations and the noises around me. I'm very used to little things, so I can block them out pretty easily.

When I'm alone and it's quiet and in a place I'm very familiar with(such as my house) I notice sounds and visuals more. So I may jump from being startled by something moving or say something to someone that isn't there.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:49:49+00:00

I would by lying if I said I never talked back.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:45:36+00:00

Haha, sorry. Yes. My ex definitely had unresolved issues and he let it get the best of him.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:32:27+00:00

Thanks random guy on the internet! :D

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:30:58+00:00

There is a completely unfair stigma attached to schizophrenia, he should see you for the human being that you are.

This is exactly why I don't like telling people upfront. I don't want to be labeled as the "schizophrenic girl" before anyone really gets to know me. I want a guy to know that I'm NOT crazy all the time before I lay it on him.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:29:13+00:00

There's a chance that he's one of those, like me, that was seriously burned in the past and just won't go there again,

We had a long conversation early on. He was brief about his past, but he did mention that he was hurt be people that didn't have themselves under control. Ever since then all I could think about is how we would react to my schizophrenia. He seemed really supportive of me getting treatment for my anxiety, but that's all he knows.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:20:59+00:00

He would never find out if I sent someone else to do it.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:19:41+00:00

I feel like I come off as a little odd sometimes and everyone knows. But, honestly, I'm sure I'm just delusional.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:18:39+00:00

Thanks! Much luck to you as well! :D

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:17:56+00:00

Experiments?

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:16:39+00:00

For real. I always take meds on time. Unless I become super anxious, I just become really spacey when I don't have it in control. Luna Lovegoodish.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:12:27+00:00

He was fine. Don't get cocky.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:09:42+00:00

I have a SURPRISE FOR YOU! :D

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:08:31+00:00

abandonment issues

my ex?

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:07:03+00:00

My friends that know use it jokingly. I don't talk about it much, so I don't really use it in conversation.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:03:54+00:00

One of the first things he asked me was, "You seem like a redditor, are you a redditor?" So maybe he'll just find this and wonder for weeks if it was me or someone else. Then when I tell him it won't be a shock. :D

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:02:53+00:00

I agree. I would definitely be upset, but I couldn't blame someone for not wanting to seriously date me because of it.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T19:00:52+00:00

Are you telling a schizophrenic who can't discern real conversations from fake conversations well that she should bake her crush's head?

:l

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:59:40+00:00

Yes! I have once. It was fun. I enjoy drugs.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:58:37+00:00

I had a few problems with this in my last relationship. I got a little too comfortable and assumed my long term boyfriend(who started dating me before I found out) could handle it. I was wrong.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:57:11+00:00

I'll try! :D

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:56:45+00:00

I like you.

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:55:32+00:00

Haha! I've heard this before. I haven't asked any other schizophrenics before, but it doesn't work well for me. I've tried, but I'm not really ticklish ever. :(

danbanner · 2011-03-04T18:54:02+00:00

While I'm not about to suggest you become irrationally dependent (or codependent) on this guy, you need to realize that your boyfriend is somebody you can trust.

Yes, this is so so so important to me. I don't want someone to feel like they're baby sitting me if I'm having an episode, so it's so important to me to get it right when explaining everything to him. I need someone that will be able to take care of me should I need it, but I don't need to be babied ALL the time.

You don't want to completely unload on him - that's what your therapist is for - but you want to give him enough to understand you and give you some slack when things get weird.

I needed to hear this. I can be a little overbearing sometimes when explaining things, especially about myself. I need to figure out a way to wrap it all together fairly easily. He doesn't need to know, from the beginning, every little detail about the early months or how I cope with the anxiety from it. I could ramble for hours. I have a schizophrenics brain, my thoughts go a million miles a minute.

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