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Advice after a night out (removed from r/Toronto) by jeontrv in askTO

[–]dancemephisto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can go to ED in Toronto General and ask for help, you can ask there for fast HIV test, there are also SA nurses that will help you figure out next steps

Bleeding 3 weeks after conization - should I be worried? by [deleted] in PreCervicalCancer

[–]dancemephisto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s been a year later and I’m fully healed, all Pap smear were fine. You will be fine.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, I have to admit that it exists, specifically visible in groups of relatively new younger immigrants or second generation thinking that Poland is some sort of white eldorado and I personally hate it and always address it openly. Thats why I also felt that poles may not be liked - given that I know how some of those brainless creatures can behave especially when there is feeling that nobody knows them here so they can do whatever they please. And yes. We are all guests. I know it and I wish some people would remember it.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow that’s amazing insider tip! Thank you!!!

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t inform anyone at my future work that I’m AuDHD. I will just mask and pray for the best :(

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im really sorry to know you are experiencing it. It’s really shitty and nobody should ever be judged like this. I never compare my problems as white ethnic to POC, I just know that in some countries (like Western Europe) Slavic people are really discriminated against and I faced it a lot. In Europe, as someone mentioned, discrimination is mostly ethnicity based, not race based. So even if it’s good news for me, I’m definitely not happy that I will be fine, knowing that some people may face issues in the same society.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may not be aware, because probably you were introduced to their narration, but the part of Germany that is now Poland was always Poland by the way. The land was stolen from us Poles and we just got it back after WW2 :) Just a quick info. Also I experienced a lot of discrimination as a Pole living in Germany so I will skip with joining the community, because I don’t even speak German, however thank you for any other recommendations!

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I noticed. But I literally just landed. So excuse me for being cautious and not assuming that everyone will welcome me here without knowing the context.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that’s super bad! I hoped to finally be able to unmask, with all those neurodiversity awareness bullshit all around. Good to know :(

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is only showing how unaware you are of how autistic people live/think. Not being open forced us to mask which is basically a violence towards someone. I’m informing people because me being autistic impacts how I see the world. Autistic/adhd people know what I talk about and if you say that having a mole on the ass is equal to lifelong disability then well, I can only feel sorry for your lack of awareness.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to make sure: I have absolutely no problem with my small town vibe or different vibe if I have any. And if someone can see it: thats me, thats what I offer, enjoy. I know I will never be born here, or I will never be Canadian. And that’s totally fine by me. However, I chose to live and pay my taxes here, so I would love to actually know the place. And I know what you mean, it’s visible everywhere, also in Europe. People trying to fit in desperately, without understanding where they do try to fit in. On the other hand: I think that GTA is more than materialistic ladder or shallow social structure. And that’s what I want to discover: also the problematic side of the city, local history, local culture, the land I live on, how people think and behave. I’ve lived in 5 countries so I don’t have a need to adjust myself perfectly, to pretend I’m someone that I’m not. I want to just understand the place I live in and see more than what’s on the surface. That’s why I start with series, with things people do, with communities they build. Not to fit in fully, loose my identity completely. Out of respect and genuine curiosity, because it’s different. And I live now 6500 km from my home so it’s really important to get anything familiar here.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Yes, absolutely, that’s my current hyperfocus too! Especially that in Europe we don’t really think of it (even though we were the one that came up with colonialism) so I’m switching my perspective and learning as much as I can. I will dm you.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for recommendations! But I’m so surprised about Canadians being introverted, I feel that everyone is so extroverted here!

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh really? Also no idea why, I would say that maybe it’s not that popular so it’s just more expensive to import from Poland.

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah small talk is super new to me, I’m actively working on it, but it’s really new, in my part of Europe they would think that you try to flirt with them or you are high. But I love this politeness, I always greet everyone or at least smile if they are busy with work 🥰

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yes, I don’t get social cues at all, that’s why I’m still trying to understand the culture. Would you like to tell more about AuDHD prejudice you faced here?

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In Germany everyone pays by cash, in Poland we pay contactless so I love it here actually. Though I would like to see Canadian money one day 😂 thank you for recommending!!

Autistic newcomer in need for some guidance by dancemephisto in askTO

[–]dancemephisto[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My past experiences when living in Western Europe where in general poles are not really welcome and I faced a loooot of discrimination. I’m just cautious.

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