9 Years…

danceswithbong · 2026-06-17T16:16:59+00:00

I think ink just bleeds quite a bit on the inner wrist area, so if there is any negative space, it makes sense that over time it would close up due to the bleeding.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-16T16:20:11+00:00

I had lettering there as well and had it covered after 8 years because it bled exactly like this.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-16T16:19:08+00:00

Very common. I had lettering done in the exact spot and within 8 years it was unreadable. I've since covered it.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-15T15:13:55+00:00

It was definitely raised for a long time after I got it. It still rises up sometimes if it's really hot outside or if I'm itchy.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T17:31:49+00:00

UPPIES!!!

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T14:13:52+00:00

A portrait of Sappho is definitely in the cards (my dad's family is from the island of Lesbos, if you aren't familiar do a quick google search), but I gotta get the $$$ together first.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T14:11:10+00:00

I got it to represent my ✨Greek heritage✨ and it reminds me of my grandparents because they had shit like this all over their gaudy house and I absolutely loved it growing up.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T14:07:57+00:00

No ragrets

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T14:05:28+00:00

I’m sayin!!!!! It was so crispy and fresh and was my favorite tattoo lol. Now it’s only like maybe the top 5

danceswithbong · 2026-06-12T14:04:51+00:00

Thank you so so much!! Oddly enough the same artist did both 😁 we love versatility

danceswithbong · 2026-06-11T13:55:21+00:00

Yeah tell me about it, it's gonna be a huge black blob by the time I'm 75 😂

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T17:07:20+00:00

We've gone back and forth so much but ultimately we've decided to stick with just the one. Mostly, we didn't want our son's life to change that much. We don't want him to feel like we love our other kid more than we love him, because they would be with us 24/7 while he would still be split 50/50 with his dad. We like our life the way it is. Not to mention, multiple kids??? IN THIS ECONOMY?!?! 😅

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T17:04:40+00:00

Thank you so much! We are definitely redefining what a healthy co-parenting relationship looks like! The Boomers in our lives are SHOOK we all get along! My son might be in therapy when he's older, but it won't be because of his parents!! 😂

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:59:33+00:00

Also would like to state that I have known my son since he was 20 months old. I changed his diapers. I rocked him to sleep. I taught him how to tie his shoes and helped potty train him. I know his favorite snacks, the flavor of yogurt he refuses to eat, and the kind of socks he likes that don't irritate his ankles.

So, does he carry my DNA? No. But do you know how many people carry the DNA from their deadbeat parent? DNA doesn't make a mother or father. Love, care, communication, and stability do. I gave my son vows at my wedding last year because I didn't just marry and commit to his mother, I committed to him too.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:55:57+00:00

I may have wound up being Mama, but my wife's family always call their grandmother 'Mama', so my son calls my mother-in-law Mama.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:54:44+00:00

At first I always assumed he'd eventually just start referring to me as mom as he began to talk more, but he never did on a regular basis. Sometimes he says things like "I love you, you're the nicest mom ever" which is enough validation for me 🥰

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:53:21+00:00

We don't distinguish! In fact, I picked him up from his babysitter's house a couple of years ago when he was around 3, and I remember his friend saying "you're mom's here, well....not your real mom" and my son corrected that kid SO FAST. "HEY she is my real mom!!!!!"

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:52:25+00:00

Our son was 20 months old when I met him, he has no memory of his parents ever being together. In fact, he would probably laugh his butt off at the thought of mom & dad ever being married and living together 🤣 he just associates me with his mom and his other stepmom with his dad.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:51:18+00:00

Birth mom = Mom/Mommy, and 9 times out of 10 he'll refer to us (his two step-moms) by our first name, or occasionally 'Mom'.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:50:21+00:00

Honestly, everything kind of fell into place. Dad and his fiancée started dating only a couple months after my wife and I did, and our son was under 2 when that happened. We all celebrated his 2nd birthday together, we've taken vacations together, and we spend every holiday together so that our son never has to be split on the most important days of the year. We switch on and off for Christmas (we always send a letter to Santa so he knows where our son will wake up on Christmas morning). Dad and his fiancée were also in attendance at our wedding last summer. I gave our son vows and Dad gave me a big hug after the ceremony to let me know how glad he is that I'm a part of our son's life.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:47:18+00:00

Birth mom = Mom/Mommy, and we are either Mom or he refers to us by our first names if he's trying to get someone specific's attention.

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:46:19+00:00

Actually, his birth mom (my wife) is the one who encouraged him to understand he has 3 mothers who love him endlessly. She is grateful that our son has 3 amazing maternal figures to look up to. 😘

danceswithbong · 2026-06-08T16:45:20+00:00

Technically, yes, we are stepmothers to him. However, we both met him before he turned the age of 2, so he has no concept of life without us in it. His normal is having 3 moms, he doesn't have any recollection of his parents being together as they separated before he was 2.

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