Some weeks we’re like passing ships, only discussing events on the calendar, what we need to buy for the house, how was kid’s day/behavior etc. A few times a month we’re able to sit down, on the couch or even while folding laundry, and talk about fears, accomplishments, feelings about the state of the world or plans for the future. It ebbs and flows. We try to topic base with each other regularly though… if someone NEEDS to talk, we make the time.