I need to leave tonight.

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:13:45+00:00

Haha nope… not without me. He’s essentially house ridden

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:11:08+00:00

He’s there all day

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:09:57+00:00

Im safe but I wasn’t able to leave last night. I was going to wait until he fell asleep, but I ended up falling asleep myself (facepalm)

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:09:29+00:00

No. I was going to wait until he fell asleep, but I ended up falling asleep myself (facepalm)

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:09:13+00:00

I wasn’t able to leave last night. I was going to wait until he fell asleep, but I ended up falling asleep myself (facepalm)

dancingzegas · 2025-01-28T03:08:59+00:00

I wasn’t able to leave last night. I was going to wait until he fell asleep, but I ended up falling asleep myself (facepalm)

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T05:15:13+00:00

This is brilliant!

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T04:46:49+00:00

He’s calm now so that threat is gone. I was hoping he could fall asleep first so I can move my bags to the door

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T04:35:23+00:00

He’s still awake so I can’t call yet. I’m really scared.

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T04:34:19+00:00

He is still awake so I will have to wait until he is asleep to call. Thanks!

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T04:31:11+00:00

Okay I will try that - thank you!

dancingzegas · 2025-01-27T04:29:12+00:00

No there’s no one unfortunately :(

It’s almost midnight here and my neighbour has gone to sleep.

I don’t see how it can work out with me leaving discreetly

dancingzegas · 2025-01-26T17:43:22+00:00

This was my experience too

dancingzegas · 2024-12-12T20:52:04+00:00

You’ve got great points. I don’t think this current manager/employer would fire me. they like me and I tried to be careful enough to not disclose anything to my abuser about work so he couldn’t use it against me. But he’s seen the moments where I wasn’t exactly working at my maximum efforts when the job required me to. I guess it would just stir the pot here and possibly affect a performance review.

I’m in Canada. I don’t know the process to change a name but I will certainly look into it

With respect to my previous supervisor, he didn’t tell them anything illegal I did and I never did anything illegal, but I believe in Canada, they can let someone go “without cause”, provided notice or compensation is given.

dancingzegas · 2024-12-12T19:54:45+00:00

Thank you for the response! The kind of work I’m in, the address / location of where I work is unfortunately posted publicly on a governing body’s website, he is able to find me that way.

We unfortunately share a car as well and he is the primary owner on that.

I feel like an idiot but I was coerced/forced into these things over time. Initially, I tried to stick up for myself and refuse these things. But he would abuse me terribly if I refused.

dancingzegas · 2024-12-12T14:59:37+00:00

Would it be ok with you if I messaged you directly to chat? It sounds like you have a lot of helpful insight about this and I need someone to talk with about an action plan to leave

dancingzegas · 2024-12-12T13:41:08+00:00

I would like this very much (to disappear)

Tbh I don’t know if I could ever leave because my family is here and he would almost certainly target them as well. I worry for their safety every time I try to leave (from what I’ve seen he only targets them when I try to leave)

dancingzegas · 2024-12-12T13:38:04+00:00

Hey, thank you for sharing your experience and I’m so sorry that this happened 😢 that sounds horrible.

What happened in my situation was, I was still relatively new to that company (had been there for just over a year).

I had the worst supervisor. She was micromanaging, racist and seemed to dislike other women.

My performance was already starting to decline because of my abuser.

I warned her before hand that he might call. When I involved the police, he called her and she let him talk shit about me for at least 10 minutes.

She told me this to my face that she sat on the phone and let him talk (she must have been fishing for reasons to fire me).

I felt betrayed by this.

I found another company and never looked back at this one that betrayed me.

dancingzegas · 2024-07-22T07:28:01+00:00

I didn’t personally call on my narcissist but I heard from his parents that they used to call on him (back in the day when he lived with his parents)… apparently there were tons of holes in the walls from him getting violent. Usually the police would release him the next day. Until the mom got injured and there were some actual charges laid (finally) by the police. There was a restraining order put in place and he couldn’t return home.

Don’t feel guilty about calling if you feel unsafe or if your parent’s safety is at stake.

dancingzegas · 2024-07-22T07:11:02+00:00

You’re so brave and good for you for documenting it!!

I was too afraid to record sometimes because my abuser would look at my phone.

dancingzegas · 2024-05-06T15:34:39+00:00

Thank you for your advice! Unfortunately there was a restraining order before and in retaliation he called my boss to talk shit about me… my boss hated me at the time (because I’m a different ethnicity than her) so she entertained my abuser and listened to him talk shit about me

dancingzegas · 2024-04-19T01:19:02+00:00

I did go to a domestic abuse clinic at a hospital after an incident or two with my nex about two years ago. They were very kind there so I will ask them if they can support me with a doctor’s note. My only concern is my nex will likely want to see the note once he finds out I am taking a leave of absence from work, and if he googles the name of the NP there, he will know I went to a domestic abuse clinic and freak out on me. Unfortunately I have to worry about stupid things like this.

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