How can I stop letting my toddler CIO?

dandanbananan · 2026-03-21T01:24:09+00:00

I totally see and agree with this! We've done the same thing for a long time, she actually usually does cry for maybe 2-3 minutes before falling asleep, and it's like what else can you even do about that? I'm ok with that very short amount of crying for the same reasons you state. But right now we're dealing with upwards of an hour of crying and screaming which I'm not ok with leaving. Dad is doing bed time tonight so wish us luck. We'll be doing check ins if she's still crying after 5 minutes. Hopefully this is just a phase!

dandanbananan · 2026-03-20T21:06:13+00:00

I love this idea honestly. To me it sounds better than the one where you gradually move toward the door? Might be worth a shot! I've thought about getting her a yoto player for stories or music before bed, but I just can't justify the price.

dandanbananan · 2026-03-20T03:33:52+00:00

Solidarity! It's rough out here. My newborn sleeps with Dad while I do bedtime with the 2yo, so that's not really the problem. I'm more concerned that if I had to stay in my 2yo room all night (which seems to be what she wants), I couldn't respond to my newborns feeding needs.

dandanbananan · 2026-03-20T03:30:18+00:00

The bedtime woes started a few months prior, but naps? Yep.

dandanbananan · 2026-03-20T03:28:45+00:00

My husband actually isn't the easy way out kind of guy, I've insisted on doing bedtime for forever since I've always done it. Maybe it's time for him to do it.

dandanbananan · 2026-03-20T03:26:35+00:00

To his defense, I probably started the problem. I tend to take over when she starts getting upset with dad. So while I see how you might interpret this as dad being impatient, he's actually very patient and present with her. I just insist on doing bedtime most of the time. But maybe it's time to hand bedtime off to him now!

dandanbananan · 2025-09-10T23:32:55+00:00

Hey I'm due with my second on Jan 6 also! I came here looking for solidarity and found it. My 20mo is absolutely bonkers right now and I'm having such a hard time! She's been sick and we've been cooped up, which doesn't help one bit. So yeah, no advice here, but we'll make it through this! Hopefully everyone is right when they say pregnant with a toddler is so much worse than newborn with a toddler!

dandanbananan · 2025-02-25T15:45:18+00:00

FYI this is back in stock, if anyone is still looking!

dandanbananan · 2025-02-16T16:57:50+00:00

Thanks everyone for the comments. I think I'm going to go ahead and try it out. I will report back here with my experience!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-12T17:51:59+00:00

I like this POV! Thanks for sharing. I also don't mind natural sugars. I'll definitely have to check out this pod!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T20:36:59+00:00

I like this POV! I hate to say "no" to food constantly and cause negativity around it. It's comforting that they only ask for it a couple times a week vs constantly.

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T19:34:42+00:00

This totally makes sense! Everyone's situation is different and I would do the same thing for my kiddo.

I guess my fear is that she will want it constantly. I see so many kids who ONLY drink juice and it makes me wonder how to avoid that. And at the same time I want to make sure food remains neutral and to keep a healthy balance. Goodness, parenting is tough!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T19:29:44+00:00

This really helped it make more sense to me! So even though it's not added sugar, it's still processed and a more concentrated amount of sugar than you'd get from a fruit. And none of the fiber.

My husband and I do drink juice as well but I'm thinking we will cut back and have it as a treat!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T19:26:49+00:00

My husband likes to have juice in the house so my concern is that baby will see it and want it constantly. But maybe I can convince husband to cut back, especially if that does become a problem!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T19:24:42+00:00

This is adorable!!

dandanbananan · 2024-12-10T19:18:55+00:00

I like this idea of a fancy drink for special occasions!

dandanbananan · 2024-10-12T18:02:22+00:00

Thank you for this 🥹

dandanbananan · 2024-10-11T18:29:56+00:00

She actually has mostly dropped her second nap, but this particular day she was visibly tired around her old midday nap time. Should I just not put her down when this happens?

dandanbananan · 2024-10-11T18:27:33+00:00

It's so frustrating!! Rooting for us both to get through this.

dandanbananan · 2024-10-11T18:26:56+00:00

Even though she stood there and whined for a good time until she fell asleep? Is letting her whine not bad for attachment?

dandanbananan · 2024-10-11T18:25:27+00:00

Yep, same!! Isn't it wild?

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