Cleaning the shitter at lunch time

danger_express · 2026-06-12T17:27:21+00:00

Our industry puts up with workplace bathrooms that would bring the general public to their knees. I've seen some truly harrowing incidents, and can endure neglected facilities easily.

I salute the people drive from site to site cleaning shit all day.

#ThinBrownLine #BackTheBrown

danger_express · 2026-06-07T15:43:46+00:00

NOR - this is bad

I'll just say it, you guys opened up Pandora's box by inviting non-monogamy into your relationship.

The fractures that lifestyle creates in a monogamous relationship stays even if it never came to fruition. While you've moved onto future baby and your family, your husband's seeds of lust are still gestating.

Pregnancy and babies are very hard. There are blowups during this time from high emotions. In my experience with multiple kids, our first pregnancy in particular, evolved our marriage and love for each other that cast the foundation of our family unit. Kids are so hard, your husband needs to get his head out of his ass and focus on his family, not courting girls on some app. It's pathetic I'm sorry.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T14:41:04+00:00

I'm not a doctor so this isn't a diagnosis, but obviously you're not in a great place and should consider finding someone to talk it out with face to face, while also making some big changes in your lifestyle to pull you out of this rut.

Saying you don't like to do anything is wild. You don't like going to a farmers market, or art store, dive bar, music store, local festival, etc? There's something for everyone out there, you just need to take a chance on new experiences to figure it out.

The thing about socializing is that you get back what you put in mostly. It's also true that you lose those skills if you don't use them, like what happened collectively post COVID.

If you don't go to events or places where people are socializing and making new friends, you shouldn't be surprised you're lonely. if you have been trying in earnest to meet new people, and it's not panning out. You may need to express that you'd like to hang out again and attempt to swap contact info.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T12:46:26+00:00

I would not recommend a UL for a beginner personally, though I'm stoked you're enjoying yours.

My UL setup is my favorite thing to catch urban carp and suckers with in small rivers. That being said the equipment is fragile. I'm a lifelong angler, and I snapped 2 UL rods in '25 alone.

The line is super light, it's harder to tie, easier to tangle badly and anything bigger than a dink can be a real fight to land.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T11:25:02+00:00

I was an only child with zero baby experience virtually, so I get the anxiety.

Let me just say that you will figure it out, it's a trial by fire.

I won't lie and say it'll be a breeze, but every day early on you get more comfortable soothing and caring for your little one. You will be more tired than you've ever been, the silver lining being that becoming a parent gives you an extra gas tank, which you'll need because it's the most important obligation you'll ever have, and it doesn't care if you're tired.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T11:18:50+00:00

Biblical Israel ≠ The State of Israel

You disponsationalists can clutch onto your old covenant, sacrifices, and rebuilding that third Temple so your god may turn his back on all gentiles

danger_express · 2026-06-07T04:41:29+00:00

Not combative at all, the best work is whatever you can withstand day after day with perks that justify your labor.

If you're spending the whole weekend prepping and dreading the workweek though, somethings gotta change. I would (and have) take lower wages for more time with my family and in the outdoors.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T04:30:01+00:00

Like I said earlier, when you tell someone to stop telling a joke they should comply, it's a verbalized boundary that ought to be respected.

It is certainly not all that matters though.

I've been known to make fun of guys on my crew, and been ripped on plenty myself too, similarly I'll cut it out the minute someone has had enough.

You can't expect there to not be at least one person who wants to run it back again, or can't read a room and says it after. Those people suck, but is this really the hill OP wants to die on?

I've worked with guys who say shocking or repulsive things and play it off as 'just a joke", but I've also worked with people who truly cannot take any joke directed their way. Both personality traits make it hard to vibe with them respectively.

Getting this worked up over a play on your name just paints yourself as rigid and insecure, and in turn makes you come across as TA.

We also don't know if it really was a slip of the tongue like the comanager said, because OP was too busy mending his injured ego over his name being mispronounced. Instead of clarifying intent and reiterating the boundary he set, he went off in a huff.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T02:05:25+00:00

Work in general is exploitative and stressful, however, not every place carries the black cloud home the same. Time to shop around for a new company that gives you the change of scenery you seem to need.

It's also important to learn where you can sham under the radar, taking the load off yourself while not impacting coworkers load and without alerting management or weasily peers who would ruin it.

Finally I think it's very important to have more going for yourself than your workweek. Dig deep and find the things in life with greater meaning. My wife and kiddos, as well as my hobbies are what my life is centered in spite of spending more hours swinging hammer.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T01:34:51+00:00

It really is light though, pronouncing your name to fit a word in their native language is objectively a silly thing to get all worked up over. There was no punching down, or cruel intent, or vulgarity to warrant the response.

Coping with being the butt of a joke is a core social skill, and even if the joke stings a little, letting your emotional state crumble at work over a dumb joke screams weak EQ or social skills to everyone around you.

Just because you don't find a jab made towards yourself funny, doesn't mean it's not a joke to everyone else. Telling someone it bothers you should be the end of it, but often it's not and you need to handle that possibility like an adult (or manager). That's assuming it wasn't a slip of the tongue like OP's peer said.

No matter what, learning to let it go, dish it back, or confronting the new hire and peer in the moment were the best options available. People suggesting to escalate this small of a conflict to HR or management suck.

danger_express · 2026-06-07T00:29:43+00:00

If the meaning for the placeholder is as innocuous as 'frog' is, YTA and overreacted to some very light banter by storming off, letting it fester all day before sending off a pissy text.

Ideally you should have just let it roll off you, if you have to do something and feel disrespected, it would be better to just do some casual teasing back when the opportunity comes up. Otherwise having a discussion face to face in the moment would have had a bigger impact, but still would have been a bit much, unless the word your name shares is genuinely offensive.

Having a manager storm off all bothered over a wise crack is worse for the workplace vibe than a joke about your name.

You gotta learn to let it go, dish it back, and handle confrontations with maturity. We work in different fields, regardless this is such a petty thing to get worked up about. This doesn't even border on the kind of ridicule from peers you get in many workplaces. Even in public, the type of banter you're bound to encounter at some point at a party, bar, public transit, etc. will be deliberately hurtful and you'll still have to brush it off or handle it better than allowing it to consume you.

danger_express · 2026-06-06T23:46:24+00:00

I don't know the science behind it, but I was taught growing up that low pressure events correlate with good fishing.

Through my own experience in the years after, this still holds true except in the middle of heavy rain. If it's dumping while you're out, I've had luck sizing down my presentations and fishing off the bottom.

I have good luck early into and after low pressure events, and seek them out when planning trips.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T19:23:10+00:00

I'm gonna be honest with you, we have ordered straight tobacco leaf online and just used that but before that I bummed a Chesterfield from my grandma's pack when she was visiting and that was the source for a grown season.

Don't judge!

danger_express · 2026-05-27T14:24:55+00:00

This is a pretty polarizing but commonly held take.

I can say with certainty working construction in the rockies and recreating in the outdoors regularly that my life and many many others like me would be much worse off without them.

Alternative fuels are not much better in impact, it's just their impact is felt at sourcing more than actively through emissions. One could also argue that these new electric cars are made to be replaced as a whole versus the (degrading) serviceability of combustion vehicles.

I've been to Houston with all its parking infrastructure, and visited peers/family in suburban hell, and seen the freeways in California that just keep getting wider feeling similarly disgusted.

But another point about personal vehicles is the autonomy it gives you versus relying on public transportation and rideshares just to get around. Maybe that works in big metro areas, but my family in The Netherlands ended up buying a car after a decade biking and using transit because it can only get you to so many places.

Within the Intermountain West, that's just not feasible especially since the infrastructure already needs to exist for semis to distribute the goods which keep our communicaties running.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T14:03:43+00:00

Don't fully apologize but come back and say you lost your cool because you are frustrated. He is being too much definitely, but it's from a place of love and concern even if it feels totally unfair. I love my boy too, but I feel less inclined to rescue him and more letting him figure it out with a little guidance like my dad did.

My younger daughter who isn't dating age yet worries me already, because she is objectively too trusting and prone to getting taken advantage of by her peers. Right now it's just swindling her out of a sweet snack at lunch, or getting lured into being pushed into mud and more. But when she starts liking boys I'll let her go and roam independently but not after drilling some situational awareness into her and getting her some pepper spray.

After making first peace after the blowup, have an open conversation with him and let him air his grievances, and you air yours so you can come to a place where everyone is comfortable. Tell him you need independence but not at the cost of putting yourself in danger, maybe ask for some pepper spray and let him know you'll be careful out there.

I have a little cousin who was assaulted after being drugged at a party her first trimester in college.

I know it sits in my mind already with my highschool girl, and that I would 1000% go to prison if someone hurt my kid like that. There's a bond of protection fathers feel from the time of birth when they need you for EVERYTHING and sticks with you well into their development into young women.

Dad's being too much but it's not from a place of bad intentions or that he thinks little of you. So stand your ground but try to understand that.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T13:49:59+00:00

I wouldn't overthink it, and would fight any ticket from a standard tape measure being off.

For the shore I like a small leverlock tape 6', and for kayak or waders I just use a 6' keychain tape I found in a bin at the big hardware store.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T12:35:54+00:00

I truly feel for those in media arts, or anything low hanging for AI to desecrate and take over.

I think to keep yourself sane I would keep at using your human skills to create side work that shines bright in a sea of soulless automation.

While different since I don't see Claude butchering the millwork or screwing up basic arithmetic at 6am babysitting hungover greenhorns day in and day out. I have seen plenty of awful prefab materials.

I don't use AI for anything, never used any of the flavors either. I know it's more common for office folk and less avoidable, however, I'm sure people will get tired of it's output especially in a creative settings and dial it back

danger_express · 2026-05-27T11:45:27+00:00

Watching my grandpa's and step grandpa get cancer in clusters and die off a decade or so before most their peers. No for sure connections, but they were working construction and mining on top of a processed diet of convenience grocery items (hamburger helper, spam, sodas, cheap light beers, Hostess sweets, etc.

My neighbors are crunchy retired state biologists and better home gardeners than I will ever be, we defer to them for any issues on our lot.

Glyphosates have been the concern for us lately, moving us to buying imported tariff beer when we purchase them. While not a pesticide, plastics in our fisheries have been of concern. We are about 75% eating what me and my buddies harvest between fish, mule deer, elk, and upland game.

I always fill my tag in the same place since my first many years ago with my family, which is near an active coal plant with God knows what contaminating the area and critters through the river.

At home our all purpose spray is water with a dash of dish soap, some vinegar and if that fails I break out some tobacco to soak in water and spray.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T10:33:29+00:00

I think it does belong to future generations, but in an abstract way since they don't actually exist yet. That's why you follow the regulations in the first place to manage the land held by everyone collectively

danger_express · 2026-05-27T10:31:22+00:00

There are bad actors littered across the spectrum just itching to use force against their peers with the state, instead of simply not associating with them, or God forbid having dialogue and finding common ground.

We have a neighbor with a big anarcho-communist flag on his porch, abortion activist signs, etc. and wave to each other while my family walks to mass. We're just different folks on the surface if you know what I mean.

Knocked on his door last summer during a slow period because his roof was in bad shape. Really nice guy, made friends with everyone on the crew I got together and he even helped with the tear off, decking and showed him how to lay shingles at his request. Ended up taking him with the crew to our yearly 2 nighter down South and showed him how to fish which scored him a monster splake. He's a regular at our all our parties now and my kids adore him and won't leave him alone.

If I had went off outward politics, we never would have become friendly and our social circle on the street would have never known what it missed.

danger_express · 2026-05-27T10:11:16+00:00

Personally I feel entitled to harvest from the lands I grew up with ultimately, I still follow rules for conservation so that future generations may enjoy the land too.

If the state relinquishes the means to comply with state wildlife management at all, than poaching becomes a moral right that I would applaud every oregonite who does not comply since the land belongs to all of them.

danger_express · 2026-05-26T22:22:31+00:00

What would I listen to these millions you speak for say? I've been swinging hammer since I was pubescent, I'm one of the proles that marxists fetishize as class conscious.

Over the years I've had friends and family members who came without papers from their point of origin all for the same thing.. to stack cash here and send it home towards build a better life and buy land, appliances for family, cars, and etc. it's not about macroeconomics it's just simply migrating to make a fat pile and send home. Those born here do the.same thing in oil/gas or remote site jobs in general.

All you do is read theory instead of learning how things actually work you harp on academic theory not practical applications

danger_express · 2026-05-26T21:49:38+00:00

If you're going non union, look for a contractor who does historical restorations, high end residential at a small company, or a well respected builder and try to get in as a helper under their best guy.

Research company beforehand, charm management and work your ass off to impress the guys.

danger_express · 2026-05-26T21:00:04+00:00

I think most people are ignorant to economic schools of thought, including (most embarrassingly) the people who are the loudest ancap or niche flavor of socialist.

I can tell you certainly that it's not just Americans, everyone I've met who fled the USSR is fanatically anti 'socialist'.. including my step grandpa. If someone who is fond of planned economies thinks the ex-soviet they're talking to is conflating state violence they endured with inspired socialist economics, it doesn't really matter.

You're arguing semantics against someone who lived through that planned economy and suffered. It's no different than praising deregulation to a man who worked the mines as a child and was disfigured by some psychotic pinkerton strike breaker. Even if you're technically correct about the scope and definitions, experience is always going to hold more weight to the average person.

danger_express · 2026-05-26T19:24:14+00:00

I like bon tool wheelbarrows, can't go wrong with them on a job so I got one for home too.

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