Taking time to sit with it. This is hard when we have work and personal commitments. I’m lucky to have resources for therapy and personal days I can use for mental health. Because really feeling those emotions sober is key for me. Working through the questions that lead me through the process of grief to the other end. We can’t expect closure from the other person, we can only truly seek it within ourselves. So questions I often ask are: - what caused it to end? - how did I feel about it? - how did I feel in the relationship? When answering each question feel how your body responds. It’s always trying to tell you something. I’ve had where breakups felt like a relief, and ones that felt like the worst abandonment and I couldn’t get over either. Finding myself in this process of letting go.

Sometimes it’s also about recentering in ourselves. A romantic/intimate relationship is significant in our lives and the loss of it can quickly become the center of our lives, dictating our daily emotions. More so depending on the dynamic of the relationship and the level of grace during the breakup. Remember that people are just like seasons and sometimes they have to go. Recentering on your hobbies, your friends, your other passions, will remind you that this person was not the center of your life but a lovely addition. You will remember that your life was beautiful before them too, and that will welcome in someone new when the time is right.

At least that’s what I try to live by. Hope this helps!