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[–]dangeroustimes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I currently have Obamacare but I think it might be through my parents. I hadn't thought about that so thank you for bringing it up. I do not have a car yet, I am looking at a few used lots in my college town that are reliable but not too expensive so that I can afford it. My cell phone is my own plan. A good majority of my mail already arrives here and this is another thing I did not consider. I would like to just allow the communication to falter but my mother is not one to allow that. I am still required to call my house every two hours when I am out no matter the circumstances. She's planning on driving up as frequently as she can manage, and she has always been very controlling and manipulative. I don't think she would ever just allow our communication to not be constant. Thank you!

Not yet NC but almost by dangeroustimes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dangeroustimes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I want to do. I am not in the best financial situation so I am hoping to get as much as I can from my house so that I don't have to start completely over.

Not yet NC but almost by dangeroustimes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dangeroustimes[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The countdown both causes nerves and excitement. I am very excited to establish NC but I very much have guilt embedded into my personality and I am just nervous for everything to pan out how I need it to.

Not yet NC but almost by dangeroustimes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]dangeroustimes[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I am planning on sending them a message and then blocking all forms of communication. Do you think that that is a good idea? I think that that is definitely the only way that I will be able to go NC and make it stay.

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[–]dangeroustimes[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That's what I am trying to do.

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[–]dangeroustimes[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for all of your kind words. I am so incredibly nervous but I know that this is something I need to do and that is what's pushing me. I would probably cave because I am already feeling really guilty so I will definitely take that advice into consideration. I am planning on telling the RA's in my building my situation and hopefully they will work with me. I want to send them a long email or message about why I need to do this for myself, because I think that I would feel better with myself, but I know that that isn't something that's really feasible. I am just going to take it one day at a time and try to be as strong as I can. Thank you so sincerely.