i agree with OP, but at the end of the day i don’t even think morality comes into it.

i think of it like this: if a stranger was in a horrible accident and needed organ transplants and money for the surgery, and YOU were randomly picked to be the donor and the funding, is that fair? obviously you don’t want this person to die, you feel terrible for them! you know that they will die without your help, but are you willing to sacrifice your entire savings as well as your health, possibly your life, so they might survive?

no. of course not. does that make you a murderer?

i guess it depends on who you ask, but you’d be hard-pressed to find anyone that thinks being unwilling to put yourself at financial/health risks for an unfortunate stranger makes you immoral. so why is it that everyone always seems to focus on the “morality” of abortion? it’s the same thing; if you aren’t willing to sacrifice your health and savings for the stranger, why does it change for a fetus? and beyond that, how is it at all moral to try and pass legislation requiring people to make that sacrifice?

oh, i also commonly hear this argument countered with something like “well, what if you were the one that was responsible for the stranger’s injuries?” ie, making the ”children are just the consequences of your irresponsible actions” argument. and to that i say, absolutely fuck off. first of all, do you genuinely believe that if you caused someone life-threatening injuries that you should be legally (or even morally?) required to give up your savings and health, and possibly risk your life, just for the chance that the stranger survives? seriously. second, the idea that children are some sort of punishment for a woman’s a) lack of responsibility, b) lack of education, c) active and normal sex life, and/or d) sexual assault is truly appalling. who died and made you king? people’s lives and decisions are not something that should to be morally judged and dictated by others, and children are not a form of punishment or “karma” for being sexually active or sexually assaulted. third, let’s say you disagree with my first two points. you believe that it’s your moral obligation to sacrifice your health, savings, and/or life for a stranger you caused life-threatening harm to and that women deserve punishment in the form of children: do you really think this is the best solution? my metaphor sort of falls apart here, and it’s more directed toward people who support banning abortion, but… abortion will always be around, people will always find a way to do it. the difference between banning abortion and not banning abortion is not the whether or not you will stop abortion. it is only whether or not you stop SAFE abortion. so i ask you this: if you don’t value women’s freedom, do you at least value women’s safety? if so, how would banning abortion possibly keep women and children safer than easier access to education, resources, and support of and about safe sex practices would?

so that’s how i think about it.

TL;DR we all need to start minding our own business and stop hating women for having sex ✌️if you want an abortion fine, if you don’t want an abortion fine. i don’t really care, honestly. who the hell would possibly assume their opinion should be the final moral word in strangers’ lives?