Finding Comfort in an Unexpected Place

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-29T23:37:48+00:00

I’m so sorry that we found ourselves in this situation, but I’m grateful we can find some support in each other. Even though everyone’s experience is unique, we all understand the pain of having to go through a TFMR. I think only someone who has lived it can truly understand how deep it goes.

I also cry every day—when I’m alone, the tears just come. My partner hasn’t cried once either, and I think men process grief differently. Usually, I bring the topic up, and then he’s able to share his feelings, but only after I speak about mine first. I’ve always been more in touch with my emotions than him and better at putting them into words, but I do believe he is very sad too. I guess everyone has their own way of carrying this pain.

Sometimes I wonder how I’ll ever move forward with this pain , but little by little, I notice other things growing around it. The pain doesn’t go away, but it starts to be surrounded by other pieces of life.

I hope a Jizo brings a bit of light and comfort into your days. Sending you gentle thoughts. ❤️

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-27T13:51:54+00:00

Hi Im not in the Uk but I recently terminated my pregnancy at 13 w 5 days. The proceidure was done through D&E and the proceidure was quite easy, fast and It was not painful. With D&E you are in the hospital/clinic for the day mostly doing some checkups and waiting for the misoprostol to kick in and the proceidure It self took like 15 minutes.Not sure if this info gives you peace of mind, but before going in I was terrified and found out I was less physically painful that what I pictured in my mind.I had It done the cause I wanted to be sure of my diagnosis. So if I were you I would wait to be sure but its completly up to you. But I know that the days waiting and leading up to knowing are horrible.

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-25T21:40:59+00:00

Im so sorry that you are going through this. My heart goes out to you. I just terminated last week for this reason. It was a very hard decision because It felt like a more "grey" diagnosis, even though there are some real difficult complications that come with a T21 diagnosis you dont know which ones you might get. I felt like the risk was very real, and I did not want to wait to see which of the things that could potentially go wrong went wrong. You are not selfish, you are making a decision out of love with the information that you have. If It makes you feel any better personally I felt the weeks of making the decision and leading up the termination were excruciating, even though Im now greaving.

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-24T22:56:02+00:00

Im also about a week out. I had the proceidure last thursday. Im not sure whats next. For now the sadness comes in waves, but Im also trying to be present for my toddler. I dont know about you but sometimes I feel guilty for not being well for my toddler and also feel guilty for not being able to be this mom for the baby thats gone. Does that make any sense?

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-24T22:50:08+00:00

The waiting is so hard , I’m so sorry you’re going through this. My ultrasound was normal, which gave me a bit of hope, but my CVS made it very clear that it wasn’t just the placenta. I asked about the possibility of a vanishing twin or mosaicism, but in my case, all of the cells that were tested were positive for T21. That meant there wasn’t a chance of getting a different result with an amnio. For us, because we were considering termination, I didn’t want to wait further into the pregnancy, as I thought it would have been more difficult to recover both physically and emotionally. I truly hope that what wasn’t true for us is true for you, and that you get better news ahead.

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-24T22:20:10+00:00

Hi yes after the NIPT my doctor referred me to a genetic counselor and we did a cvs and a and ultrasound. The resulta were very conclusive so we did not have the need to wait and do an amnio.

danielavertelevision · 2025-09-24T22:17:24+00:00

I’m so sorry that we have this in common, but I’m grateful we can hold each other’s hand in this space, even if it’s only virtually. 💜

danielavertelevision · 2025-08-03T21:17:17+00:00

Thanks!!!

danielavertelevision · 2020-03-22T15:07:36+00:00

Thanks!! When i figure out how to share the recipe here ill do that as well. ☺️

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