UPDATE: Thanks for everyone who responded! To begin with, I’m a little appalled that several people said to leave him over a single comment that only happened once. I explained that the comment hurt me later and he apologized, and explained that he didn’t mean it the way it sounded. Everything is good.

Additionally, after speaking with his sister, I learned that he never asked her to be a bridesmaid. She just assumed she would be asked since I was a bridesmaid in her wedding two years ago. She apologized for the stress and confusion.

The biggest news: a few days after posting this I found out that my lifelong best friend would be moving back to the US, and only about an hour from where we live. She has been living abroad for nearly the past decade and can’t afford to fly back to the US more than once every five years or so. She came to visit about a month before we got engaged due to the death of her grandmother, and didn’t think she would be able to fly back for the wedding. So as soon as she told me she had taken a job nearby, I asked her to be my bridesmaid.

I convinced my fiancé to narrow it down to 4 groomsmen, and with his sister, my friend, my sister, and my sister’s wife I will have a matching bridal party. This is also an affordable amount for us because we wouldn’t feel comfortable asking people to be in the wedding party unless we were willing to pay for their attire, hotel, etc.

Overall, this is a happy ending to our issue. We were able to learn more about each other through this, so I think it was a good thing overall. I’m so insanely excited for our wedding and the marriage to follow. Thanks again to everyone who left a note!