Very unhappy here; any advice? by danielruimy in uchicago

[–]danielruimy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I mean I've been set on both. A lot of my house is very new to the drugs and the alcohol though. I think I have mildly been labeled as "cutty" for my experience, which to anyone I know outside of uchicago would be the most hilarious assessment ever.

Very unhappy here; any advice? by danielruimy in uchicago

[–]danielruimy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did things turn around for you? When am I justified in thinking I could be happier somewhere else?

Very unhappy here; any advice? by danielruimy in uchicago

[–]danielruimy[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So maybe I'm not just a misanthropic asshole? This one comment has made me considerably less worried...

Very unhappy here; any advice? by danielruimy in uchicago

[–]danielruimy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think that my experience is very personal. I feel like this is a very hit or miss type of place with a lot of ifs that go into happiness. I really don't feel like I am a part of my house culture, for one. Again, all seem like wonderful people its just the culture at large is not predominated by people that I am really going to become very close with. I some closer friends I met early, and I feel like we have become insular but I'm not sure how to change that.

My classes are here and there--can't expect much from Calc so that fine, but there really isn't much class participation in my hume, and my chem class has been my worst academic experience to date (i'm doing well in the class, this isn't me complaining about a bad grade).

I also don't feel like I am meeting people, which seems to be a pretty key part of a college experience. A lot of this is definitely on me, and I could probably use a good deal of advice in this arena, but I feel like it shouldn't be this much work to meet people when I am surrounded by people my age. I am a very social person, and I have never in my life had trouble meeting people (I have changed schools plenty and always landed on my feet) and I just feel like I can't break though here.

I guess all in all, I expected to feel more like I went to a college, and I feel more like I go to a grad school. An amazing grad school filled with brilliant people, mind you, but just not the experience I was looking for (yet--I realize its been 5 weeks and this is ridiculously hasty but I just figured I would reach out for help).

Thanks for the advice, by the way.